Ex is getting married

[Girlwithquestions]

So I found out my ex is getting married or something. We broke up 10 months ago. He broke up with me, it was a long messy story. But I always felt like he wasn't ready and stupid some. I wanted a second chance with him, our story never felt finished. I've been in love with him since I met him. There was something about him. I've never found it in someone else, I always remember and think back to him. I always thought we would end up together. But he seems like he's been done with me a long time. today I am just so devastated. I am crushed and heartbroken and more than that I'm just disappointed in life. It's been so heavy for the last ten years, I just feel like it's never going to let up. The positive words and optimism get so hard to believe. I was so happy with him. Why did it have to be like this? I feel so angry and beyond hurt among so many things. I know you all don't have the answers, I guess the support is just nice. Thanks my friends.

[d0nnivain]

It happens. For what ever reason even though you feel like that he was "all that" for you, unfortunately, you weren't it for him.

 

 

You need to find a way to make peace with the fact that the relationship is over so that you can move forward in your own life.

 

 

If you found happiness once, you can find it again. It comes from you, not him anyway.

[BelleSkye]

It's hard, but try not to follow up on his life for a start. Your revenge will be to start living well without him.

 

It is hard to find someone with the same chemistry that you had for your ex but for now, do some self improvement. Get a better job or go back studying. Save up for a holiday. Save up to travel. Learn to play an instrument (the piano is my favourite), learn a new language, lose weight or put on weight? Go for facials, plastic surgery (yes, I did really type that one out), and just make yourself better for you and not for him. I do not know the reason's why you guys broke up but maybe, hopefully, he will give the new wife a hard time as well. If they are happy - best you don't know it. Ignorance is bliss in our cases.

 

You don't have to forgive him but forgive yourself for losing yourself. Maybe you will settle for another guy in the future, maybe you will break someone else's heart, maybe you might actually find the one....but you want to be prepared if these scenarios come up.

 

Always keep yourself interesting and beautiful. Be the girl that when his family and friends see in the future, they will be like 'wow, what a girl he gave up on'.

 

Good luck. May the force be with you. Now go watch the new Star Wars movie and keep yourself busy.

[bluefeather]

Maybe I can speak to you from that other side. I came out of a long relationship and I found someone else who I might like to marry one day.

 

I'm very sorry that things could not work out between us. We have shared so much of our lives together, we practically grew up with eachother. But in growing, I have also discovered that I needed a change. Things were not ok, and I could only take so much bad treatment. It wasn't right some of the things I did to you either... I tried so hard to fix things but it kept breaking down. I knew I needed to end this, and deep down inside, I know that you did too.. you were just more afraid to admit it.

 

I hope that one day you will truly understand that I love you very much and I always will. I just have to move on now. No matter the bad times or the pain, I will remember the good, and you will always have a place in my heart and I wish you well.

 

Please let me go and try to move on and have a wonderful life.

[Girlwithquestions]

Thanks for the kind words. I don't know why we broke up, everything was fine, then kinda suddenly he just started pulling away and said he didn't feel the chemistry and something was missing.

 

I'm just sad and it feels unfair. For many years I have wanted and looked for love. I love myself etc I do, but I would like a companion to love and who loves me too. But I've just gotten heartbreak after heartbreak and dates now just reject me so fast. I shouldn't complain. But I can't help but feel hurt and devastated about this one. Some part of me always thought ultimately he would come back to me. I just feel so sad and so disappointed. I guess I just feel angry. Because I have been such a good person, always kind when people have been mean, I volunteer, I do charity work, I love helping people and I donate. And I have always tried to care for people and their feelings. It just feels like horrible people I know and around me get rewarded. What does being a good person even get you? Nice gets you no where. Anyway I sound Whiney and Pitt seeking so I will stop. Thanks again, been a tough week.

 

And I hate that I cant hide my feelings well because all day people just ask me what's wrong.

[BuddyX]

Was told once that in life we'll meet our partner and our soul mate. Sometimes they'll be the same person sometimes it will be two.