Personal friends have resolved themselves to being unsocial

[LookAtThisPOst]

I was talking to a good female friend of mine. We hung out a few times here and there...no romantic intentions, just good friends. Hung out with her and another set of friends of hers to see a comedian recently.

 

She had done a good run at online dating as well.

 

She did suggest being open to going out more and such, but with the holidays coming up, I had a bunch of Meetup events scheduled with other friends I know, and invited her to some of them. She said she just simply prefers to stay at home, work on selling items on Ebay and spending time with her kids more than anything now and personally told me she's not really good at making new friends.

 

She's actually accepted the fact that she can live with "being alone." As sad as that sounds, I cannot FULLY come to that conclusion in my life...sometimes I can on a temporary basis though.

 

I know of another female friend that is this way, keeps talking about wanting to "get out more.", but never actually gets around to doing it...though she hasn't admitted me that she "prefers to be alone", she follows the same pattern as the good friend I just now mentioned.

 

Basically, becoming withdrawn, hermit-like sadly. Though is this healthy? Though they admit to not being depressed, but isn't there something inherently unhealthy about a person desiring this...male or female?

[Leucine]

Where do you find such females? It's hard to imagine a woman who is at least average in the looks and social skills departments, and prefers being alone.

[LookAtThisPOst]

Where do you find such females? It's hard to imagine a woman who is at least average in the looks and social skills departments, and prefers being alone.

 

Well, I recall one of them saying that she's into some things that a lot of people aren't into. Like certain concerts like Josh Groban, Sarah Brightman, Barry Manilow, Trans Siberian Orchestra, Chayanne, etc. which a lot of people dont' share the same tastes in music, so she goes to the concerts by herself.

[basil67]

When you're a parent, sitters can be hard to find and expensive to pay. And one doesn't have kids so that they can be left behind frequently anyway. I know that I am very picky about which events I attend because of this. My guess is that the activities you're offering simply don't interest her enough to get a sitter and leave the kids.

 

I suspect that if you invited her to family friendly activities or things which she enjoys doing, she'd be happy to join you. In the meantime, she doesn't resent being at home in the company of her family.

[Nimue]

Where do you find such females? It's hard to imagine a woman who is at least average in the looks and social skills departments, and prefers being alone.

 

That's me you're talking about. I am still not entirely sure why I'm like this, but I know one thing: looks and skills don't guarantee you can manage everything. I'd say be there for your friends, and drag them out of the house if they're shut in for too long. Staying in is healthy, but up to a point. Also it's probably just a phase that'll pass. Personally, I am thinking on ways to get properly into society again, so maybe it'll be the same for your friend too.

[shoplocal]

Where do you find such females? It's hard to imagine a woman who is at least average in the looks and social skills departments, and prefers being alone.

 

There's no correlation between a person's looks and their desire to leave the house.

[Tayla]

Singlehood is not a life sentence of dreary existance. Some of us are content in attending to other projects, and surrounding ourselves with solid friendships. Some (myself included) are better off in choosing the independent life, free to pick up and go, wandering the land at whim.