MidwestUSA Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 As one of those who hasn't seen any of the Star Wars movies, I have to disagree that 'most' people would consider me odd. I can't even recall the topic coming up with anyone as a potential deal breaker, that's just ridiculous. In another thread, you mentioned a woman who enjoys Barry Manilow, Sarah Brightmann, etc. You said you and she wouldn't be a match. Why not? Why aren't two people allowed to have their own things? She's not antisocial, rather, she knows what she likes and goes out and does it. OP, your long history of nitpicking women's preferences tell me you're not open minded. Maybe you'll find that one who is interested in everything you are (and nothing else), but I doubt it. I'm sure dressing up for the latest release is your best shot. Get those milk duds. A wide range of interests, along with the ability to allow your SO to enjoy 'their own thing' is a better foundation for something long lasting. When I met my husband, I didn't have TV service. Just didn't care. But he wanted it, so we got it. No big deal. He didn't look at me like I was an odd bird for not having it. I have my music. I have my pets, the garden, a fish breeding hobby (which he has since gotten interested in). We have our things we do solo, but plenty we enjoy together. The more activities each has, the more there is to share. I just hope we have enough going on that he doesn't have to resort to dressing up in costumes. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 Maybe she's a Trekkie. Or, possibly she just doesn't care to waste time following trends and mindlessly sitting around watching other people's creative projects insteadvof having creative projects of her own. I've never seen breaking bad or several other things people discuss regularly because I don't own a tv. Waste of time when there are so many other things going on in life. If you still have her #, I could take her off your hands. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 20, 2015 Author Share Posted December 20, 2015 In another thread, you mentioned a woman who enjoys Barry Manilow, Sarah Brightmann, etc. You said you and she wouldn't be a match. Why not? Why aren't two people allowed to have their own things? She's not antisocial, rather, she knows what she likes and goes out and does it. Why not? Ask her...she said it, I didn't. She simply doesn't meet many people or even have friends that share her tastes. I'm not judging her for it. That's just what she told me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 20, 2015 Author Share Posted December 20, 2015 Look at the majority of the rubbish on mainstream TV nowadays and what the majority of new mainstream films are... You can't honestly tell me much of it is marketed at men. Not straight ones anyway. Don't get me wrong, I love star wars, the old films anyway but I'm in no way a star wars nerd and I'd never get dressed up or anything for it. I just enjoy watching the old films just the same way as I love watching the die hard trilogy and the terminator films. Being heavily into star wars won't get you women though, in fact it'll probably repel them. Just calling it as I see it, not a slur on star wars or its fans as I love the old films and am going to watch the new one. I wouldn't hold it against someone if they weren't into it though. Women are more concerned if a guy is up to date with what's on hbo, mtv and whatever other crap is considered 'hot' or 'trending' Have you completely ignored the links I showed you? There's tons of women (and yes, over 40) that are into this kind of thing. Just google "female cosplayers" or "geek girls" and you'll know what I'm talking about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 20, 2015 Author Share Posted December 20, 2015 (edited) I know (and enjoy) Star Wars, steampunk, etc - and my thought upon reading your thread was, "Are you friggin' kidding me???" I mean, come on. Aren't you always complaining about how women have all these weird, crazy dealbreakers? This goes right along with the best of them. I can understand not wanting someone who didn't share any of your hobbies, but I'd sincerely hope your hobbies aren't restricted to Star Wars, steampunk, and Buffy. Okay, it's not limited to just that. I was just providing EXAMPLES. You're just blowing it out of proportion. I'm into the outdoors, too. I was actually crushing on this woman I met on a hike that was into the same geek stuff I was into. She said we were probably the only 2 that she was aware of that both enjoyed the outdoors and were also content on sitting 6 hours straight playing geek games in a comic shop. LOL Unfortunately, she has an out-of-state boyfriend. I've been considering talking her out of this long distance thing for someone much closer...me. But found out from a friend of hers that they are pretty much "in looooove." and had been so for a couple of years. If I could find someone like her...then I'm A-OK ;-) Outdoors and Geek stuff... ;-) I just hope we have enough going on that he doesn't have to resort to dressing up in costumes. Resorting to dressing up in costumes in a plus....case in point here. Oh and guess what, some are married! Edited December 20, 2015 by LookAtThisPOst Link to post Share on other sites
Quest Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 For me, someone liking or not liking a movie, TV programme or book that interests me isn't a deal breaker. It just means we have some different tastes. I'd be interested to know why they like or don't like whatever it is, though ... that might reveal something about values; more important to match up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 Have you completely ignored the links I showed you? There's tons of women (and yes, over 40) that are into this kind of thing. Just google "female cosplayers" or "geek girls" and you'll know what I'm talking about. How many of them are anywhere near your back water town, as you call it? Are those local girls? I'm in a pretty large metro area, and don't know anyone who does that. Perhaps you need to find your niche? As in, move to wherever women with these interests congregate. I'm guessing the larger the population of the city, the better your odds. I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
glamtran Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 Apparently it's not worth the 3 months of extreme hype anywus. And really, is anything ever? Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 How many of them are anywhere near your back water town, as you call it? Are those local girls? Indeed. Geeky girls and cosplayers tend to be unicorns. Basically, the exception, not the norm. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 (edited) Have you completely ignored the links I showed you? There's tons of women (and yes, over 40) that are into this kind of thing. Just google "female cosplayers" or "geek girls" and you'll know what I'm talking about. Agree with MidwestUSAs post. Yes, I'm over 40 and I do steampunk. I do know a few others who do it but they are without exception 'faded old goths'. I'm the only steampunker I know of who doesn't have a goth background - the goths say I'm a 'romantic'. The far, far majority of people my age aren't old goths and do a really weird look when they find out that I make corsets and steampunk. Their question is always WHY? So no, there most certainly aren't tonnes of women who do this stuff. I'm the weird one. Not them. Edited to add: I live in a capital city. Edited December 20, 2015 by basil67 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 20, 2015 Author Share Posted December 20, 2015 (edited) I'm in a pretty large metro area, and don't know anyone who does that. Perhaps you need to find your niche? As in, move to wherever women with these interests congregate. I'm guessing the larger the population of the city, the better your odds. I don't know. Well, you just aren't actively looking. Well, that's likey because you don't browse those niche sites nor get involved in areas of the social media that post a lot of niche', nerdy content. You may want to Google, like I said (guess I'll repeat myself), "Geek Girls" Cosplay women, etc. You have Dragon Con once a year in Atlanta, where everyone from the southwest gathers to get together. There are even speed dating for geeks at these conventions. One of them I pictured, is over 40 and local and is on a local dating site. The other is married. Quite a few are unfortunately, married. Range from 30's to 40s even. Indeed. Geeky girls and cosplayers tend to be unicorns. Basically, the exception, not the norm. Highly disagree. You're just living in an area that's lacking in them. My area is pretty flourishing in them. Edited December 20, 2015 by LookAtThisPOst Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 (edited) If you insist that women who are into Star Wars are plentiful where you are and that is whom you really want to date, then good for you--go pursue them and only them, if that is what you choose to do. Your prerogative. Sounds like you are already pretty certain of that though. So I'm not sure what your question was again Edited December 20, 2015 by Imajerk17 3 Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 Have you completely ignored the links I showed you? There's tons of women (and yes, over 40) that are into this kind of thing. Just google "female cosplayers" or "geek girls" and you'll know what I'm talking about. I'm not ignoring it but I'd guess that those women are very, very rare and I'd also take a very confident guess that they'll happily be great buddies with other star wars nerds but are no doubt opening their legs for the usual athletes, doctors, etc. Women can dress however they like and be into whatever niche subjects they like but essentially they're all after the same thing and I'm sad to say star wars nerds likely aren't it. I'm sure they're happy to be online chat buddies though. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 Ive been told that the better looking women at these events are paid an appearance fee to draw in all the dweebs...but I dunno...Makes sense to me... I still say that a middle aged guy that was heavily into that stuff along with the whole "camp out in front of the theater the night before" types would yeild the female equivalent(whatever that is) of a boner killer... You might as well dress up in full camo, wear a Trump hat and carry an AK-47 in your profile pic...Prob do better with that hook.... TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 21, 2015 Author Share Posted December 21, 2015 I'm not ignoring it but I'd guess that those women are very, very rare and I'd also take a very confident guess that they'll happily be great buddies with other star wars nerds but are no doubt opening their legs for the usual athletes, doctors, etc. Women can dress however they like and be into whatever niche subjects they like but essentially they're all after the same thing and I'm sad to say star wars nerds likely aren't it. I'm sure they're happy to be online chat buddies though. *shrug* If you say so. Dated some of them myself. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 I've watched all the Star Wars movies and I'm not a huge fan of them, though I did find the last 3 somewhat interesting. I always did wonder how Darth Vader came to be that way. I didn't like any of the Batman movies either until Batman Begins came out. Now that was interesting, learning a bit more about his origins. I like movies that have a bit of psychology in them, explaining how people think. Oddly enough none of the men I've dated were big Star Wars fans. Some of them were definitely geeky though, and they seemed happy with my own level of geekiness. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 As one of those who hasn't seen any of the Star Wars movies, I have to disagree that 'most' people would consider me odd. I can't even recall the topic coming up with anyone as a potential deal breaker, that's just ridiculous. In another thread, you mentioned a woman who enjoys Barry Manilow, Sarah Brightmann, etc. You said you and she wouldn't be a match. Why not? Why aren't two people allowed to have their own things? She's not antisocial, rather, she knows what she likes and goes out and does it. OP, your long history of nitpicking women's preferences tell me you're not open minded. Maybe you'll find that one who is interested in everything you are (and nothing else), but I doubt it. I'm sure dressing up for the latest release is your best shot. Get those milk duds. A wide range of interests, along with the ability to allow your SO to enjoy 'their own thing' is a better foundation for something long lasting. When I met my husband, I didn't have TV service. Just didn't care. But he wanted it, so we got it. No big deal. He didn't look at me like I was an odd bird for not having it. I have my music. I have my pets, the garden, a fish breeding hobby (which he has since gotten interested in). We have our things we do solo, but plenty we enjoy together. The more activities each has, the more there is to share. I just hope we have enough going on that he doesn't have to resort to dressing up in costumes. Well we all respect your opinions because you are our Midwest...enough said! G 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 (edited) You might as well dress up in full camo, wear a Trump hat and carry an AK-47 in your profile pic...Prob do better with that hook.... TFY Seems to work in my neck of the woods. Must also pose with the ten point buck you just shot. ETA: I am going to see the latest movie. Agreed to go with H. It will be our second movie date! It's just not my thing, but I'll do it for him. No dress up, however. He often catches rush hour shows alone. He sees his flick, I get my sleep. Win/win. Edited December 21, 2015 by MidwestUSA 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 okay, it's not limited to just that. I was just providing examples. You're just blowing it out of proportion. I'm into the outdoors, too. I was actually crushing on this woman i met on a hike that was into the same geek stuff i was into. She said we were probably the only 2 that she was aware of that both enjoyed the outdoors and were also content on sitting 6 hours straight playing geek games in a comic shop. Lol unfortunately, she has an out-of-state boyfriend. i've been considering talking her out of this long distance thing for someone much closer...me. but found out from a friend of hers that they are pretty much "in looooove." and had been so for a couple of years. If i could find someone like her...then i'm a-ok ;-) outdoors and geek stuff... ;-) Regarding the bolded, that's really poor form. Don't be that guy. The only thing I'd play for six hours straight is poker. To each his own! Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 (edited) I'm not ignoring it but I'd guess that those women are very, very rare and I'd also take a very confident guess that they'll happily be great buddies with other star wars nerds but are no doubt opening their legs for the usual athletes, doctors, etc. What, can't nerds be doctors? Ive been told that the better looking women at these events are paid an appearance fee to draw in all the dweebs...but I dunno...Makes sense to me... There are some cosplayers who genuinely receive no compensation, but yeah, lots of them have sponsors. It isn't as explicit as being paid to show up, but rather an affiliate sort of thing. And yeah, your odds of getting a sponsor (unless you're really good at whatever you do) is very much higher if you're very good-looking. It's like the model/actor/salesperson industry really. Personally I never saw much appeal in cosplaying, and it wasn't really part of the original geek culture, more of a recent spin-off (like Twitch streaming, except older). But each geek to his/her own. Edited December 21, 2015 by Elswyth 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 What, can't nerds be doctors? There are some cosplayers who genuinely receive no compensation, but yeah, lots of them have sponsors. It isn't as explicit as being paid to show up, but rather an affiliate sort of thing. And yeah, your odds of getting a sponsor (unless you're really good at whatever you do) is very much higher if you're very good-looking. It's like the model/actor/salesperson industry really. Personally I never saw much appeal in cosplaying, and it wasn't really part of the original geek culture, more of a recent spin-off (like Twitch streaming, except older). But each geek to his/her own. Indeed doctors can be nerds and often many of them are but it isn't the 'nerdiness' that gets the girls wet The OP claims he's dated several of these sexy dress up girls anyway so I'm not exactly sure what he's complaining about? If he's scoring with sexy women as a star wars nerd all power to him, don't see what Tue issue is that a woman wasn't eager to see the upcoming film 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 Highly disagree. You're just living in an area that's lacking in them. My area is pretty flourishing in them. Your exception is not the rule everywhere. If that's REALLY true and if geeky women who like Star Wars are as plentiful as you claim, then you shouldn't really come across non-Star Wars fans enough to matter in the swing of things. But this thread's existence says otherwise. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 I'm really confused here. OP, you say your area is flourishing with the type of ladies which you posted photos of and you also say you date these type of ladies. You say there's all these events and date sites etc. Clearly you are in good nik if you date women as beautiful as these so I don't understand the reason for the thread. You can pick and choose surely? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 21, 2015 Author Share Posted December 21, 2015 Speak of the devil , lol ..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 21, 2015 Author Share Posted December 21, 2015 I'm really confused here. OP, you say your area is flourishing with the type of ladies which you posted photos of and you also say you date these type of ladies. You say there's all these events and date sites etc. Clearly you are in good nik if you date women as beautiful as these so I don't understand the reason for the thread. You can pick and choose surely? I've gone out with a few that were available, but most are married or spoken for unfortunately. They are flourishing, but taken. Link to post Share on other sites
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