moving to be with my son

[jerrygordon3]

SO

 

live in san diego, have a slot in the police academy with guaranteed employment plus my disability from the Navy. I am in a relationship that has a been very rocky but we are working on things, and Im from here and love it here.

 

my son recently moved to VA.

 

If i move i sacrifice most possibilities of becoming a cop, but could find work with the DOD. his mom is active duty navy and thinks i should stay in cali because when he is a couple years older he can travel out here and i would have a career.

 

I've asked a lot of people and they think i should move regardless to VA even for a year or so, get a job, ditch my current relationship ( which I'm very in love), finish school there, and then reassess if and when the time comes when his mom goes up for orders again to either florida or stays in VA.

 

I would prefer to stay here for my own comfort and police academy, but feel like its best to go to VA. that being said, i would sort of be taking some risks and letting a love go. i really don't know what to do.

[introverted1]

How old is your son?

 

Do you have a custody agreement with your son's mother? If so, does it allow her to move him so far away from you? Or is this allowed b/c she is active duty military?

[BlueIris]

SO

 

live in san diego, have a slot in the police academy with guaranteed employment plus my disability from the Navy. I am in a relationship that has a been very rocky but we are working on things, and Im from here and love it here.

 

my son recently moved to VA.

 

If i move i sacrifice most possibilities of becoming a cop, but could find work with the DOD. his mom is active duty navy and thinks i should stay in cali because when he is a couple years older he can travel out here and i would have a career.

 

I've asked a lot of people and they think i should move regardless to VA even for a year or so, get a job, ditch my current relationship ( which I'm very in love), finish school there, and then reassess if and when the time comes when his mom goes up for orders again to either florida or stays in VA.

 

I would prefer to stay here for my own comfort and police academy, but feel like its best to go to VA. that being said, i would sort of be taking some risks and letting a love go. i really don't know what to do.

 

What are your reasons for moving to be near your son?

 

Edited to add: Never mind. I read your other post and see that your child is a minor and he moved because your ex, his mom, moved. I assumed he was moving on his own.

Edited December 20, 2015 by BlueIris

[jerrygordon3]

she applied for navy orders to VA. Now she is trying to apply to move to Florida in two years, so if I move I could be chasing him around the US.

[Beach Guy]

SO

 

live in san diego, have a slot in the police academy with guaranteed employment plus my disability from the Navy. I am in a relationship that has a been very rocky but we are working on things, and Im from here and love it here.

 

my son recently moved to VA.

 

If i move i sacrifice most possibilities of becoming a cop, but could find work with the DOD. his mom is active duty navy and thinks i should stay in cali because when he is a couple years older he can travel out here and i would have a career.

 

I've asked a lot of people and they think i should move regardless to VA even for a year or so, get a job, ditch my current relationship ( which I'm very in love), finish school there, and then reassess if and when the time comes when his mom goes up for orders again to either florida or stays in VA.

 

I would prefer to stay here for my own comfort and police academy, but feel like its best to go to VA. that being said, i would sort of be taking some risks and letting a love go. i really don't know what to do.

 

You can have BOTH. Keep your daily life, relationships and career in San Diego. Fly out to Virginia/Florida on weekends/days off to be involved with your son's life.

[newmoon]

i would stay in San Diego, but only if you are being truly honest about your reasons. you are saying it's for a career and your lifestyle, but if you're choosing S.D. because the on/off g/f is there then it's a mistake. she isn't a reason to stay, especially if it's a choice between her and your kid. be honest with yourself and if it's really for career and lifestyle then stay in SD and do what you can to see your son when time permits. you can still use technology and flights and holidays to make the most of time together. lots of parents find themselves separated by miles and it doesn't have to mean you're not in his life.