TylerC Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 This has been going on for a while now, and long story short, my sister is anorexic. She is 14 years old and a cheerleader at school, but it's pretty bad, she only weighs about 83 pounds. She lost 17 pounds or so because of her eating disorder. I realize it is a mental illness as well, but I don't get why she won't eat certain types of foods. I can understand cookies and potato chips, but she won't eat cheese on her salad, yet she will eat macaroni and cheese. She goes to a counselor and a nutritionist, but it's still hard. She has random outbursts where she will just start screaming her head off for no reason at all, and I feel like I don't want to be at home. For example, I came in her room the other day to get her trash and she had her door closed (she isn't allowed to because she would walk back and forth across her room) and I said 'aren't you supposed to have your door open?' she said 'you know what? shut the **** up!!!' and stormed out of the room and started crying. Then tonight I was leaving and I walked into the kitchen and she randomly said 'GO AWAY!' It's tough dealing with this, and even tougher on my parents and her, that I know. But a lot of the time I just don't want too be here and risk having to see another outburst from her. Has anyone else gone through this before that can help me out? Any advice would be appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
SexKitten Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 even teenagers without eating disorders act this way. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 If she's anything like SexKitten, she must love hot dogs with mustard. Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 I dont know how to help you cope with being in the home. Maybe you should talk with your parents about the fact it's difficult for you too, and find ways to create a nice space for yourself in the home. also, understanding that anorexia IS a mental condition, and does really mean that person is probably often feeling anxious, trying to control things, unhappy, trying to be perfect, in many ways, not just weight. your sister will be so involved in her own world right now, she will be insensitive towards you. she wont be able to help it. anorexia is not pleasant, and can be consuming. maybe trying to understand will help you cope better with it, and enable you to realise the attacks arent personal. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Her body is literally consuming itself in an effort to live - as a result, she is under a good deal of biological stress and her brain chemistry is on a high-gear survival 'fright/fight' overdrive in reaction to the body's slow death by starvation. I expect when you pair that with her emotional stress, outbursts like that are to be expected. She'll need to try to control them to some extent though. Hopefully her counselors are helping her with that. Do you have someone there to talk to as well to help you with the very normal anger and resentment you are bound to be feeling? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TylerC Posted June 1, 2005 Author Share Posted June 1, 2005 Well, I talk to my parents about it, and my girlfriend, one of my friends (his mom has a degree in nutrition so she is trying to help my sister out), and a few girls in my grade (my sister is 2 grades below) who have/have had the same problem. The counselor wanted me to come in, but I don't know if I want to do it or not. I guess it couldn't hurt, =\ Link to post Share on other sites
SexKitten Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer If she's anything like SexKitten, she must love hot dogs with mustard. don't tell anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 I think talking to the counsellor would be a great idea. It will help you find some support, and learn how to cope with this situation, which must be really difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
seagirl Posted June 4, 2005 Share Posted June 4, 2005 I vote for going to get some help for yourself, that way if you can understand the illness a little more you won't be so inclines to take what she is doing so personally. It might not be a bad idea for your parents to get some help for this too, they say that this is a family issue after all, good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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