Jasmina56 Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) I'm 25 and so is my now ex gf Lilly.Even our birthdays happen to be in the same month of March. Anyhow,we'd been dating for 5 months until she cheated on me. The first 2 months were amazing but then things started to go awry between us-we didn't get along and could hardly agree on anything which caused many arguments.We went through them all though and no matter what we lasted.I said and did hurtful things and so did she but at the end of the day we remained together through thick and thin. About to months ago she told me she loved me.I told her I was glad she felt this way because I felt it too. We had plans of living together starting after New Years but she just ruined everything. A couple of days ago we got into a massive fight about her smoking-she promised to give them up a long time ago but she broke that promise as a matter of fact she still smokes like a chimney. When I confronted her about it in bed after sex she started shouting at me saying how it's normal to smoke after sex.I said I knew that but we had a deal.She put her clothes on,called me ungrateful and stormed out of my apartment. I tried messaging her on Facebook,regular text messages,phone calls whatnot but it was to no avail as she wasn't responding.The following day she called me and we basically made up but later on that day in the afternoon she'd left her laptop on the sofa while she was showering and apparently she was on Facebook at that moment because I heard her laptop go off. I decided to check out of curiosity and what I saw nearly killed me,I saw a message from another guy saying I quote:"U were so bad last night *evil emoji*...when I saw that I decided to write a message on her behalf so I wrote: "what was your fav part?"...to which he responded: "The BJ of course,what else could it be lol"...then I took a deep breath and when she got out of the shower I asked her: "Are you cheating on me?" To which she said No and denied everything but when I showed her what happened on Facebook she started admitting everything. So it turns out she's been cheating on me for at least 3 months,only not that frequently as she describes it.She started crying and apologizing and said she cheated because she didn't feel appreciated. A couple of hours later we were still talking about it so I asked her a simple question that was eating me up: "Why do you never blow me yet you blew some other guy" to which she said: "That other guy happens to be my ex bf (which she did tell me about in the beginning of our relationship)whom I dated for nearly 2 years before I met you so I just know him better"...this comment nearly finished me off so I just said:"Are you gonna blow Me?" To which she responded: "I'm sorry,not at this point" so I broke up with her and haven't looked back ever since but I don't think I can go any longer without her. I still love her so do you guys think we should start over?And do you think what she did was normal and ok? Edited December 19, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs ~T Link to post Share on other sites
Trep Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 You're kidding me right? You've been dating for 5 months...she has cheated on you for 3 months. That means she has literally spent more time cheating on you, than being faithful to you, and you're asking if you should take her back? You should be running from her so fast, you would put Usain Bolt to shame. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
WomenWubber Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) I get it you still love her but DUDE!! She getting dirty with other men while doing the cold fish routine with you? Edited December 20, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language ~T 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 No you should not start over with her. She lied to you & cheated on you. She also has the smoking habit you abhor. There is nothing there for you. Get a new GF, asap 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 I'm 25 and so is my now ex gf Lilly.Even our birthdays happen to be in the same month of March. Anyhow,we'd been dating for 5 months until she cheated on me. The first 2 months were amazing but then things started to go awry between us-we didn't get along and could hardly agree on anything which caused many arguments.We went through them all though and no matter what we lasted.I said and did hurtful things and so did she but at the end of the day we remained together through thick and thin. About to months ago she told me she loved me.I told her I was glad she felt this way because I felt it too. We had plans of living together starting after New Years but she just ruined everything. A couple of days ago we got into a massive fight about her smoking-she promised to give them up a long time ago but she broke that promise as a matter of fact she still smokes like a chimney. When I confronted her about it in bed after sex she started shouting at me saying how it's normal to smoke after sex.I said I knew that but we had a deal.She put her clothes on,called me ungrateful and stormed out of my apartment. I tried messaging her on Facebook,regular text messages,phone calls whatnot but it was to no avail as she wasn't responding.The following day she called me and we basically made up but later on that day in the afternoon she'd left her laptop on the sofa while she was showering and apparently she was on Facebook at that moment because I heard her laptop go off. I decided to check out of curiosity and what I saw nearly killed me,I saw a message from another guy saying I quote:"U were so bad last night *evil emoji*...when I saw that I decided to write a message on her behalf so I wrote: "what was your fav part?"...to which he responded: "The BJ of course,what else could it be lol"...then I took a deep breath and when she got out of the shower I asked her: "Are you cheating on me?" To which she said No and denied everything but when I showed her what happened on Facebook she started admitting everything. So it turns out she's been cheating on me for at least 3 months,only not that frequently as she describes it.She started crying and apologizing and said she cheated because she didn't feel appreciated. A couple of hours later we were still talking about it so I asked her a simple question that was eating me up: "Why do you never blow me yet you blew some other guy" to which she said: "That other guy happens to be my ex bf (which she did tell me about in the beginning of our relationship)whom I dated for nearly 2 years before I met you so I just know him better"...this comment nearly finished me off so I just said:"Are you gonna blow Me?" To which she responded: "I'm sorry,not at this point" so I broke up with her and haven't looked back ever since but I don't think I can go any longer without her. I still love her so do you guys think we should start over?And do you think what she did was normal and ok? Don't speak to her...ever..ever... again. I mean it, kid. Otherwise you'll be spending New Years Eve rolling around on the floor in a blanket clutching a bottle of whiskey blubbering while listening to "Wildfire" by Michael Martin Murphy over and over again screaming "WHY???" All kidding aside, she gave you a gift, and by that I mean she showed you who she was early on in the process. Imagine your heartbreak had you two been living together or had a couple of years under your belt? Seriously man, you dodged a bullet. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) Whenever you get the urge to be with her, just close your eyes and picture a time when you are both in your 50's, and she has been smoking like a diesel engine for the past 30 years. You are in a hospital waiting room, and the surgeon comes out and tells you they had to remove the entire lung because the cancer was more extensive than he had thought. And it is also in her other lung - she has maybe 6 months to live and will die a really, really, agonizing death. Then you think back to when you had the option to dump her because she would rather give her ex-boyfriend bj's instead of you. You realize the ex-bf should be here now, not you... If that doesn't put your balls on Ice, nothing will... Edited December 19, 2015 by Poutrew add-on Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 I should kick you in the balls for even asking that question man!!! She cheated on you and blew her ex, but told you it was too soon. She isn't girlfriend or wife material...You deserve a better woman. Plus her lungs are going to be as bad as her character one day...is that something you want to live with? Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 Blow her off.. I mean kick her out.. It will blow over man, I know it sucks and it's draining but hey that's life. Link to post Share on other sites
Keke1 Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 She loves you huh? Uh-huh ?. Should've asked her does she love blowing her ex as well? Has to be a reason for that. Like does she have to have a penis in her mouth? Obviously it can't be yours tho. It has to be familiar. I mean you can stick it in down there but my mouth is off limits till i know you. What a load(not that kind) Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 Dude, there's such a thing as a backbone. Get one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 No dude. Run and don't look back. I mean, she'll do things with him and not for you? Therefore, who do you think she's more emotionally invested in? Sorry dude, you got played. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PaperCrane Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 Don't speak to her...ever..ever... again. I mean it, kid. Otherwise you'll be spending New Years Eve rolling around on the floor in a blanket clutching a bottle of whiskey blubbering while listening to "Wildfire" by Michael Martin Murphy over and over again screaming "WHY???" Little close to home for me on that one. Yeah...OP...never speak to this girl again. Ever. That's just repulsive behavior on her part. Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 You already know the course of actions that you should really take, I think you're just looking for validation, and you should, for in this wake, she was completely wrong in her choices, her explanation, her treatment of you, You should definitely never look back when you leave this girl in your rear view. Link to post Share on other sites
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