worse pain I've ever felt in my life

[Tears4fears]

I was dating my boyfriend for 3 years. He's a professional dancer so he travels a lot. We met in 2012. He's 28 I'm 25. He was my first.... meaning he took my virginity at age 22. We had a good relationship over the years. The only thing we argued about mostly was his ego.

 

In October we had an argument. Sometimes when he gets in a bad mood he takes it out on me. He posted a pic on snapchat with a filter that gave him blue eyes that said "when you look like bae" . I asked him who he was referring to with blue eyes and he said "my bae" and I said oh so now your telling me you have a new girlfriend and that you're cheating on me? And he said "no but if I had a girlfriend she'd be it" We ended up breaking up. For a few days I didn't say anything. Finally he ended up apologizing and saying he was just trying to piss me off.

 

He went out of the country. While he was there he called me and texted me all day. Even early in the morning. When he came back we were inseparable. We'd spend all day together everyday. And he stayed at my place usually. Last week we had an argument because he started to be mean again. We both said mean things to eachother. The next day I tried to reach out to him and he blatantly ignored me. I was apologizing for my harsh words (which weren't that harsh honeslty) and he was flat out ignoring me. Reading my text and snapchats and not responding. But he was constantly viewing my snapchat story! Like pics of me all day every day(snapchat tells you for those who don't know). Now this was the most confusing ignoring me but looking at my pics? Could someone explain this or try please lol

 

So one day I looked at his facebook and I saw that a girl put the emoji with heart eyes under his picture. He only liked the comment. So I went to hers and he had put the same emoji under hers and she liked the comment as well. So I did some research and I found out that this girl is his best friends ex and that she was with his best friend for 5 years. And that she has BLUE EYES.

 

So I asked his best friend since he's my friend too. He was very sad for me and told me that they're not longer friends. He said not only has he been dating his ex gf but he hid it from him for months. He said he lied to his face about it. He told me that the guy is never going to be faithful to anyone and that he's not a good person. I asked him are they not friends just because of a girl he said no and that it's much more than that but it did START from that. He also told me that my ex was bringing another girl to his studio and when he asked her how she knew my ex she said she'd been dating him for 4 years. Yes and this is a girl he always told me was his ex!! So that's 2 other girls right there!!

 

He said that my ex and the new blue eyed girl tried to ruin his business (he owns a music studio).... he said he didn't want to get into details but he's very upset with my ex and said they'd never be friends again (they were friends for 10 yrs)

 

So I confronted my ex and told him that I was heartbroken and that it was wrong what he did. He only texted me saying "i dare you to message me again!!!!". I messaged the girl and told her that I didn't know how long she'd been seeing him but I explained to her that he was at my house everyday for the last few months basically. That I'd been with him for 3 years and just to be careful because he didn't use protection with me and that I found out there were other girls. I told her she can have him and to have a nice day.

I blocked her afterwards because I felt like she was gonna argue with me.

She found me on instagram. She messaged me and told me I was insecure and made a comment that she can see why because "look at you" meaning I'm not attractive. She told me that I was nothing to him but a sex buddy. And said "sorry he didn't make you more". She said she doubts seriously that I was ever with him recently and that I was way before her. And she said that if her ex wants to confront her tell him to call her.... I thought it was weird that she brought up her ex. Just seems like she's doing this to be spiteful. I only said have a great day and blocked her because she was looking to argue and I was not.

 

 

I've never felt so much hurt in my life honestly. My ex works for the airline which I work at part time. I'm so nervous to go back to work because I don't want to see him. Everyone and work found out because of facebook and it's just so humiliating. I get anxiety even thinking about it. He barely comes to work because of his dance career. But I just don't know where to go next. I feel so empty. I almost want to quit my job. I love the airline benefits that's the only thing. I've never felt so much pain in my life ever.

[Lindsaycaper]

I'm very sorry that this happened to you. I know it must be extremely painful being that he was your first. This guy is a loser. He back stabbed a friend of 10 years. That's not cool. He's not a good person. Nothing good will come to him in life. He only cares about himself.

Ignore his existence at work. Block him on every thing. No contact. It'll hurt at first but you can do better. ANY woman could. He's a real jerk. And DO NOT take him back. EVER. You will be so strong once you get over him

[Space Ritual]

Tears,

 

 

Please do not be too hard on yourself.

 

Being a dancer that travels a lot as his profession I would surmise that he would have pulled this stunt sooner or later. I know that is not very consoling but if this jackass could so easily stab his longtime friend in the back he can do it to anyone.

 

What you should know is that there will come a day that those chickens will all come home to roost for him when he will get a set of Ronco Knives in his back, and probably the whole rusty set long with the Shipping and Handling Charge twisted for extra pain.

 

I think right now it is best you delete him from your life completely and I mean it. No communication at all with him or this harpy he is currently banging. They are having a great laugh at your expense right now but it won't be so funny if they get no reaction. Seriously, make them insignificant.

 

Whatever you do, please surround yourself with family and friends at this time of need. And please make sure you are eating and drinking plenty of water, no alcohol.

 

Go forth with the knowledge that sooner or later, somebody will do something like this to him, either professionally, personally or both. What goes around truly comes around and you need not feel that bad, for this asshat will get his just desserts in due time. We all do.

[Tears4fears]

Tears,

 

 

Please do not be too hard on yourself.

 

Being a dancer that travels a lot as his profession I would surmise that he would have pulled this stunt sooner or later. I know that is not very consoling but if this jackass could so easily stab his longtime friend in the back he can do it to anyone.

 

What you should know is that there will come a day that those chickens will all come home to roost for him when he will get a set of Ronco Knives in his back, and probably the whole rusty set long with the Shipping and Handling Charge twisted for extra pain.

 

I think right now it is best you delete him from your life completely and I mean it. No communication at all with him or this harpy he is currently banging. They are having a great laugh at your expense right now but it won't be so funny if they get no reaction. Seriously, make them insignificant.

 

Whatever you do, please surround yourself with family and friends at this time of need. And please make sure you are eating and drinking plenty of water, no alcohol.

 

Go forth with the knowledge that sooner or later, somebody will do something like this to him, either professionally, personally or both. What goes around truly comes around and you need not feel that bad, for this asshat will get his just desserts in due time. We all do.

 

Thanks I really haven't had an appetite. I've been staying at my mom's because she didn't want me to be at my apartment crying. I return to work tomorrow I haven't been there since Friday when everything happened.

[S2B]

Good riddance!

 

Block all of them!

 

You dodged a bullet.

[Space Ritual]

Thanks I really haven't had an appetite. I've been staying at my mom's because she didn't want me to be at my apartment crying. I return to work tomorrow I haven't been there since Friday when everything happened.

 

 

Oh please make sure you take plenty of water,and I mean it. Crying is terribly dehydrating as you are finding out.

 

Even if you have to eat an energy bar or some bad fast food french fries, just force yourself right now.

 

 

And while i know it sounds cheesy, I think many here would agree with me that TIME is really something you should give yourself right now. Time to grieve, time to feel. Everyone is different on how much time they need, so don't feel like you have to push yourself to keep a stiff upper lip right now. It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do right now. So again do not be too hard on yourself, and by the way, you should be very proud of yourself going forward.

 

You may feel like you have been a fool for 3 years, but remember you aren't. You loved somebody that did not live up to their end of the bargain, you did live up to it. With as much selfishness there is in the world there are plenty of guys that would give their left arm for someone who can be faithful. And that guy is just waiting for you to run into him, as you eventually will.

Edited December 20, 2015 by Space Ritual
Spelling..because I misspelled Know..lol

[Tears4fears]

Oh please make sure you take plenty of water,and I mean it. Crying is terribly dehydrating as you are finding out.

 

Even if you have to eat an energy bar or some bad fast food french fries, just force yourself right now.

 

 

And while i know it sounds cheesy, I think many here would agree with me that TIME is really something you should give yourself right now. Time to grieve, time to feel. Everyone is different on how much time they need, so don't feel like you have to push yourself to keep a stiff upper lip right now. It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do right now. So again do not be too hard on yourself, and by the way, you should be very proud of yourself going forward.

 

You may feel like you have been a fool for 3 years, but remember you aren't. You loved somebody that did not live up to their end of the bargain, you did live up to it. With as much selfishness there is in the world there are plenty of guys that would give their left arm for someone who can be faithful. And that guy is just waiting for you to run into him, as you eventually will.

 

Thanks I'm in bed at that moment watching movies. It's getting better. But I feel like I have anxiety sometimes

[Space Ritual]

I know that feeling....

 

You know, it's ok to see a doctor if you are having trouble sleeping or having anxiety attacks. Believe it or not, Doctors are aware of anxiety issues this stuff causes. I didn't know that until it happened to me.

 

I was also cheated on over the course of a long term relationship much like you. I did go to a doctor soon after the last one ended in disaster and got some sleep aids and some anti anxiety meds and it helped me tremendously. There is no shame at all in asking for help. I am a high strung and menacing enough guy as it is in real life without even trying and having anxiety attacks was the last thing I needed. It really helped me. I urge you to see a doctor and explain what is going in. Having such a blow to your psyche, combined with this time of year with the Holidays you are probably now dreading would be a perfect time for you to see a Doctor ASAP.

And keep posting here. I am one of the more brusque people here so while it may seem out of character for me to be supportive I know all too well the position you feel yourself in right now. More folks will be along later today I'm sure to lend some support to you Especially some of the ladies here, as there are a few that are tremendous with dispensing good advice.

[Izzybella242]

My heart goes out to you. I know you're hurting because he was your first. I'm appalled that someone could be so careless with anyone's feelings. He is disgusting. The thought of him throwing in your face that he has a "bae" is awful. Delete him from your life. You seem like a very loyal girl. He'll regret his decision. Don't ever take him back. From this day forward, you don't know him. Anyone tries to talk to you about him at work change the subject. Live your life. Occupy your time. Pretend he doesn't exist. This guy is a complete jackass.

[LoverOfDance]

@tears4fears I am so sorry you are going through this. I am also quite disappointed to hear your story. I am a professional dancer as well and many dancers preach positivity and how it is important to be a good person. This story makes me wonder who is actually being genuine. I actually wish I knew who your ex is so that I can beware of them. The dance community is big but also small at the same time because many of us are familiar with each other.

 

I really hope you're doing better today. Don't let him waste anymore of your time. You deserve so much better.

[Tears4fears]

@tears4fears I am so sorry you are going through this. I am also quite disappointed to hear your story. I am a professional dancer as well and many dancers preach positivity and how it is important to be a good person. This story makes me wonder who is actually being genuine. I actually wish I knew who your ex is so that I can beware of them. The dance community is big but also small at the same time because many of us are familiar with each other.

 

I really hope you're doing better today. Don't let him waste anymore of your time. You deserve so much better.

 

I've found out so much in the past few days. He took another girl to NY and Las Vegas last year.... and haha we should talk privately

[LoverOfDance]

@tears4fears I tried to send you one but it says I can't send any private messages to you but can send to other ppl. Not sure why.

[Tears4fears]

@tears4fears I tried to send you one but it says I can't send any private messages to you but can send to other ppl. Not sure why.

 

It's saying I don't have permission to access private messages! Which sucks because I'd like to tell you who this dancer is. Is there no other way?

[LoverOfDance]

I really want to know who it is as well! It's possible that I may have met him before since many of us in the dance community are familiar with each other. Even if I haven't met him, I may be familiar with his name. I'm not sure if there's another way. You might have to contact the site somehow to find out what's wrong. If your account is new, maybe it might take a while for you to start receiving/sending messages.

 

I live in Canada but I travel to the states from time to time to take dance classes. If you're from the states or Canada, then there's a 90 percent chance that I'm familiar with him.

[Tears4fears]

I really want to know who it is as well! It's possible that I may have met him before since many of us in the dance community are familiar with each other. Even if I haven't met him, I may be familiar with his name. I'm not sure if there's another way. You might have to contact the site somehow to find out what's wrong. If your account is new, maybe it might take a while for you to start receiving/sending messages.

 

I live in Canada but I travel to the states from time to time to take dance classes. If you're from the states or Canada, then there's a 90 percent chance that I'm familiar with him.

Well if you have a way we can contact eachother I'll happily tell you

[sandylee1]

This guy is a total waste of space.... The kind that no parent wants their daughter to get involved with. He's a big fool and you are so so much better and you deserve better than this absolute creep.

 

Ignore him and his other girl and any other girls in his harem. I hope he doesn't get struck down with an STD that makes him shrivel up.????lol

 

I wanted to make you laugh.

 

He's not worth your years sweetie.. not one tiny bit.

[Tears4fears]

This guy is a total waste of space.... The kind that no parent wants their daughter to get involved with. He's a big fool and you are so so much better and you deserve better than this absolute creep.

 

Ignore him and his other girl and any other girls in his harem. I hope he doesn't get struck down with an STD that makes him shrivel up.????lol

 

I wanted to make you laugh.

 

He's not worth your years sweetie.. not one tiny bit.

 

Thanks so much. The lies keep coming out. I just keep finding out more and more. He took a completely different girl to NYC and Las Vegas and bought her an expensive watch. Never takes me anywhere at all

[sandylee1]

He's not worth your years sweetie.. not one tiny bit.

 

I meant he's not worth your TEARS ... but he's also not worth your years of time wasting.

 

People like him don't know the meaning of loyalty .... I'm sorry for the poor woman he ends up with.

[crederer]

I'm sorry I didn't read through the whole post. But at 28 he admitted to trying to say things to get a reaction out of you....that's some high school ****.

[Tears4fears]

I'm sorry I didn't read through the whole post. But at 28 he admitted to trying to say things to get a reaction out of you....that's some high school ****.

 

Yeah but I mean I guess he wasn't saying things to get a reaction since he's dating her now.