chrissy75 Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 So my husband is gone in the military for 6 more months until he comes back from deployment. when he comes back we will be separated most defiantly and are already making plans for that (not legally). unsure if he wants a divorce because has said so many negative things about our marriage and always drops hints. the other day i asked him for the kids if he could give me some days he would call to talk to them because he doesn't get great service out there but could call everyday if he wanted too. i always have my phone close to me because i don't want to miss a call and my kids miss talking to him because it is only maybe twice a week he calls anyways and feel its important to make sure they keep a good bond while he is in another country. when i did so asking my husband if we could pick days he would call so i do not have to have my phone by me every part of the day he just responded and told me that i always have my phone on me so thinks its stupid that i am asking this question and made a comment saying "you always have your phone on you and who knows what your sitting and doing on there right now." Im not sure why he said that because i never have given him reason to think i have cheated nor have i. (assuming thats what he meant.) I asked my friend what she thought and i took it as maybe it was a ray of jealousy showing maybe he does still care about me and love me unlike what he tells me for jealous feelings it sounds like to occur. My friend said she thinks he said that because he is the one doing something and deflecting his own actions. Now I'm not sure if that little bit of hope is even there because that could be true I'm guessing. i did not want a separation husband wanted one so he knows I'm here always willing to work it out because I'm still not done with him yet. till that day comes i will be fighting an uphill battle till he feels the same hopefully. your thoughts are appreciated thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
MissThang Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 Yes that is definately jealousy. But do not read too much into it. It might be an ego thing, I have seen on a number of friends. Sometimes a person knows they dont want to be with you anymore, so they end things. But its a knock on their ego when they see you moving on, or being too busy for them... even if they dont want to get back together. Its really stupid, but I've seen it on so many people so many times. Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 I wouldn't say it's jealousy. I'd say he's irritated you pay so much attention to that phone. Either way, he never committed to calling on a certain day so he's not even willing to commit to a phone call. It looks like he's over it...sorry to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chrissy75 Posted December 20, 2015 Author Share Posted December 20, 2015 yea i do always have it but only because I'm waiting to get a call that could or could not happen because i don't know his work schedule so i feel like i have no choice but to keep it on me. I'm not even somebody who likes to text really or talk on the phone unless it is my husband anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chrissy75 Posted December 20, 2015 Author Share Posted December 20, 2015 Yes that is definately jealousy. But do not read too much into it. It might be an ego thing, I have seen on a number of friends. Sometimes a person knows they dont want to be with you anymore, so they end things. But its a knock on their ego when they see you moving on, or being too busy for them... even if they dont want to get back together. Its really stupid, but I've seen it on so many people so many times. hmm that is a really weird concept. I really just don't even understand or can wrap my head around it because why is my moving on or his assumptions of me moving on because I'm not even a concern. he does occasionally randomly text me those memes and i go along with it but I'm not someone who does that or really knew what they were till l looked them up. I've just been doing my best to be his friend and he has it seems like descent moments with me but i try not to read to into things. we are only 23 so sometimes i just think the maturity of bring a faithful husband and owning into responsibilities comes with age so i do let a lot of things get by but i never forget and did have a hard time not mentioning it or needing confirmation continuously so overall i am working on that and myself. thanks for your perspective i never have really thought of that before. Link to post Share on other sites
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