blackendangel13 Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Guys I am really depressed about this. My best friend and I know each other better than anyone. We have only been close for about a year but in that year it was intense. There was always sexual tenstion (not in a bad way) and we used to hang out all the time. Then I got a boyfriend and we had to cool the hanging out a little because my boyfriend was extremely jealous of our relationship. He didn't understand it, therefore was very uncomfortable with the amount of time we spent together. My best friend wanted us to break up becuase I was very unhappy with the relationship in general and he hated to see me unhappy. Well about a month ago I broke up with the ex and was excited to spend more time with my best friend like we used to. We talked on the phone for hours and made plans to hang out that week. Well he blew me off. This was three weeks ago. He called the next week and apologized and said he had been busy, which he usually is so I wasn't that upset. He promised me that we would hang out that week. Another week goes by, I called him and he didn't return my calls and they went to his voicemail, but his message wasn't on it. Last week I called him several times and sent a few emails asking if he would help me move and offering him an extra concert ticket I had that I could not get rid of. No answer on any of it. Then I come in to work yesterday and check my email. All of my emails to him, including my evite to my housewarming party, came back to me. This is out of the blue completely. The only logical explanation I can think of, is that his new girl is super jealous of me like my ex was. Everyone in my best friends hometown thinks we are a couple because of all the pictures of us he has framed. I would just hope that he had the decency to tell me, but it worries me. He has never dissappeared on me like this before. Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Can you track him down in person and ask him about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackendangel13 Posted June 1, 2005 Author Share Posted June 1, 2005 Not till the 7th. I will see him then. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Obviously something is bothering him because of his blowing you off. He seems to either be mad at you, the g/f is taking up his time or he is playing some game because you had a b/f so now he wants you to see what it feels like to be left out. I would let him dictate the relationship. You have tried to contact him and he has not responded. Continuing to do so will not be productive and will just frustrate you. Leave him alone and if he wants to tell you what's up then he will get in touch. I imagine he will let you know why he is acting this way in his own time. Hang in there. Peace... Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackendangel13 Posted June 1, 2005 Author Share Posted June 1, 2005 Thanks Marshbear, I don't think he is acting like this because of my ex. We still talked all the time while I was in the relationship. The only thing that I promised my ex was that we would not be alone together at my house. So we just hung out at local hangouts and talked a lot. I will see him on the 7th but don't have much desire to hash it out then because it will be at a bar. Thats the worst idea ever. I am just bothered because we have always been completely open and honest with each other. He even asked my advice about his new chick. We understand each other like no one else. I duno, I will just have to let him go I guess. It just sucks right now because I just moved into a new place and don't have many close friends, and I have never had anyone that understood me like him. so I am lonely. Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 I'd say leave him be till you see him. When you see him, ask nicely, "Where have you been?" "Have you been busy?" or something like that. See how he replies, and go from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackendangel13 Posted June 8, 2005 Author Share Posted June 8, 2005 Well I finally saw my friend last night. He apologized profusely and I gave him a lot of **** for blowing me off. We talked and laughed all night and I forgave him. Someone hacked his website and email and closed the account so thats why my emails were bouncing back. Now I have much bigger problems, I think I have feelings for my friend, and that is definately no good. Link to post Share on other sites
HatefuL_DruG Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 That's great. All that worrying for nothing hehe Link to post Share on other sites
mizraim Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I think I have feelings for my friend, and that is definately no good. that what i thought you are much worried by him...good luck! you can talk things up... Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackendangel13 Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 Well after he blew me off for my housewarming party and made sure his cell phone was off, I quit speaking to him. He did the same apology song and dance the next time I saw him (he was trashed). I walked away. He tried sucking up the other day and I didn't speak to him. Well the last straw came this week. My house was broken into and I live alone so I was scared to stay there alone. I called up a lot of my other friends with various excuses so I sucked it up and called him. I was balling and he was hugging me while I cried. But he said "I can't stay with you because I have plans". His plans were to hang out and get drunk. What a great friend huh? Link to post Share on other sites
LostandNeverFound Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 That is the most brutal thing i have ever heard. He would not stay with you I fell so bad for you. I hope you are OK. MAKE SURE YOU DON'T TAKE THAT LAME **** FROM HIM AGAIN. I feel that he is a cancer in you life and it is time to remove it. (no matter how close you get people they can just up and change.) <-- My old gf broke up with me after like 6 months just in 2 days because she felt she changed her mind. Do me a favor please punch him in the face for acting like such a jackass gives good guyz a bad rep. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackendangel13 Posted June 30, 2005 Author Share Posted June 30, 2005 Ha! Talk about this guy being cancer. He called me Tuesday (5 days after I cried on his shoulder) to see how I was doing, then proceeded to get to the real reason he called... to ask who my new female friend was seeing and if it was serious! He really is completely clueless and an ass. Link to post Share on other sites
LostandNeverFound Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 Please tell me he didn't. Omw what has happened to some of the people in this current world. Now that is just plain wrong could he make it anymore obvious that he is trying to use you for his own gain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackendangel13 Posted June 30, 2005 Author Share Posted June 30, 2005 Yes he did. I told him there was no way I was going to put in a good word for him and she was seeing someone else. I said he had nothing good for me to say about him. Link to post Share on other sites
LostandNeverFound Posted July 1, 2005 Share Posted July 1, 2005 Nice Work that is the PERFECT thing to say.... Maybe if he has any brain left he will clue in that he was complete jackass. Link to post Share on other sites
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