I know this is weird, but my Bf is actually jealous of me and my brother!

[Spectre]

(I am sure the convo has evolved but can't help from responding)

 

Um. B/c she was fourteen yrs old?

 

FFS.

 

She made the damn pact not to tell when she was 14. So her brain can comprehend "others might look down upon this" at that age, but not "this guy might tell others" ? Right. FFS make sense. She is bending over backwards for her step bro. Not just figuratively but probably literally as well, but it is a totally platonic bending over. Just step sibling love at its purest and anyone who thinks otherwise is pretty much a tinfoil hat wearing paranoid person.

 

EDIT: Though I want to say I am praying to the Christmas Gods that they throw us a Christmas miracle and it is revealed this entire thread has been nonsense. Makes me sad to think that isn't the case. The OP is probably opening up christmas presents with her bro in her panties right now as we speak.

Edited December 25, 2015 by Spectre

[Space Ritual]

The OP is probably opening up christmas presents with her bro in her panties right now as we speak.

 

 

LMFAO!

 

To the tender strains of Slim Whitman singing "Indian Love Call"

[Poutrew]

Trish, hope you are having a nice Christmas. One thing struck me about your saying how you are going to be more respectful of your boyfriend's feelings, by not doing anything with your step-bro while he is here. Is this to say that you will still be doing these behaviors with your step-bro when BF isn't around? So if your BF goes to college and your relationship becomes long distance, it will be back to panty-baths, and bro-rubdowns I.E. business as usual? Also as far as the innuendo filled conversations you seem to think are so normal to have with your step-bro, try replacing him with your own dad. Do you still think telling your daddy what types of things you could do to him with a tongue ring would be appropriate? Right, thought not. The fact is that you place your step brother in a different category. Otherwise, you would be telling us about how you also bathe in your underwear with your own dad, and how you sit in his lap whilst you're in the spa, and how daddy's strong hands soaps your backside down, where you just can't reach....

 

 

I'd better stop, before Space Ritual needs to get some more popcorn...

 

 

Seriously, if you think doing this stuff you mentioned with your own father is more gross than doing it with your brother, then you are making one small step towards understanding why most of us here are objecting to your behavior with both your step-bro and your boyfriend.

 

Merry Christmas...

[Space Ritual]

I'd better stop, before Space Ritual needs to get some more popcorn...

 

LOL I ran out. I moved onto Deep Fried Cheese Curds and listening to T. Rex albums while I wait for The Darling Family to show up from Mount Pilot and play a concert on Aunt Bea's porch with their Spoons and Washboards.

[Rejected Rosebud]

The thought of prancing around half naked in front of my brother, SITTING ON HIS LAP and giving him back rubs makes me want to puke. You are very out of line in your interactions and no one who thinks of someone as a sibling acts like that! Making sexual jokes with him?!

Don't forget the sibling bubble baths! With bathing suits on, of course!

 

OP, what church are you a member of? I'm interested in how you value your virginity so much yet the modesty part that goes with it you don't seem to have. Most teenaged girls don't run around in their underpants in front of their teenaged brothers, share bubble baths or have tickle fights, even if they are blood relatives or even strict Christians!! Is this a new concept for you??:confused:

 

Anyway back to your question - yes your boyfriend should be worried because you are a girl with no boundaries and this would be a definite problem in a relationship.

[MidwestUSA]

LOL I ran out. I moved onto Deep Fried Cheese Curds and listening to T. Rex albums while I wait for The Darling Family to show up from Mount Pilot and play a concert on Aunt Bea's porch with their Spoons and Washboards.

 

Shoot, I ran out and found a copy of Blue Lagoon. Now I wanna go to Fiji. I'm sure my brother would take me.

 

Interesting trivia I didn't know: Dana Plato turned down the role of Em due to her commitment to Diff'rent Strokes. Rest her soul. Marc Bolan's as well.

 

 

OP, just dump the BF and marry the brother. Get It On.

[Space Ritual]

Shoot, I ran out and found a copy of Blue Lagoon. Now I wanna go to Fiji. I'm sure my brother would take me.

 

Interesting trivia I didn't know: Dana Plato turned down the role of Em due to her commitment to Diff'rent Strokes. Rest her soul. Marc Bolan's as well.

 

 

OP, just dump the BF and marry the brother. Get It On.

 

I did not know until recently there is a graphic novel that came out a few years ago called Dana Plato’s Cave that is based on her softcore career and her final days. I have been trying to find something to read and maybe I'll pick a copy of that up.

[starpower]

Sorry, but the whole 'family tradition' of having a bubble bath in the hot tub, with you step brother, semi-naked every night is weird (in my view anyway). Does your boyfriend know about these nightly baths?

 

Also changing into your bikini instead of wearing your underwear, isn't much of compromise, the whole thing seems inappropriate, a better solution would be to use the shower now that its fixed.

 

I was with you at the start, thinking your bf was messed up for thinking such things, but then the whole thing about you crossing the line (kissing etc) with your step brother before, and how you both decided to stop after nearly getting caught. So those feelings for both you just got switched off? Obviously they was a sexual attraction before.

 

I understand that your step brother and sister, and your a 'family', but imo you need to start setting better boundaries with each other, i'm sure you and your brother are unaware of this, maybe your bf has picked up on it. Better boundaries with you and your step-brother, will be beneficial not just for you and your boyfriend, but for a much healthier one in the long-term with your step-brother. No point just doing this only when your boyfriend is around. If you feel that how you act with your brother when your bf is around is not correct and inappropriate, no point making an effort in changing your behavior when your bf is there, you should when he isn't.

[beautifulinside2]

Look matter of the fact, there is something between you and your step brother, even if it was 4 years ago.

 

It is not incest, it is not gross. If you are not blood related it IS NOT incest.

 

Maybe I'm just biased since my parents are step siblings, but I can't wrap my idea around it being gross and 'totally out there', if it's not your true brother?

c?

I do think it's gross, just because it's not illegal or blood, doesn't make it right or socially acceptable because it not.

[kgcolonel]

Trish, hope you are having a nice Christmas. One thing struck me about your saying how you are going to be more respectful of your boyfriend's feelings, by not doing anything with your step-bro while he is here. Is this to say that you will still be doing these behaviors with your step-bro when BF isn't around? So if your BF goes to college and your relationship becomes long distance, it will be back to panty-baths, and bro-rubdowns I.E. business as usual? Also as far as the innuendo filled conversations you seem to think are so normal to have with your step-bro, try replacing him with your own dad. Do you still think telling your daddy what types of things you could do to him with a tongue ring would be appropriate? Right, thought not. The fact is that you place your step brother in a different category. Otherwise, you would be telling us about how you also bathe in your underwear with your own dad, and how you sit in his lap whilst you're in the spa, and how daddy's strong hands soaps your backside down, where you just can't reach....

 

 

I'd better stop, before Space Ritual needs to get some more popcorn...

 

 

Seriously, if you think doing this stuff you mentioned with your own father is more gross than doing it with your brother, then you are making one small step towards understanding why most of us here are objecting to your behavior with both your step-bro and your boyfriend.

 

Merry Christmas...

 

I completely agree here....why are you putting on a front? You know what you are doing is detrimental to your BF and to the Relationship. You are treating your SB as something between a BF and a BFF. It is no wonder your BF is struggling with this, and you deny deny deny making the situation all the worse. Cut the poor guy loose and straighten out your relationship with your SB.

 

One cannot build a true meaningful relationship on a lie which is what you're trying to do here. If you have to "act a certain way' in front of your BF that is a lie. This approach is very immature and I believe you're really going to hurt the BF.

[Spectre]

So I firmly believe she has cheated. Being half naked and alone in a hot tub with another dude is cheating in my book. Especially if you have fooled around with said guy in the past.

 

I just hope the OP smartens up and just sets her boyfriend free because that is the best thing she can do for him at this juncture. It's hard to imagine any guy would be okay with what has gone on and I am talking about a guy who has no clue anything wrong was going on at all..which is obviously not the case since her bf knows something is up. It's hard to imagine a time in this relationship will come when he is okay with the lies and the cheating and overall inappropriate relationship with a dude she is currently living with.

 

To be honest OP, this most likely won't be the only relationship you have that is negatively effected by..whatever this thing is you have with your step bro.

Edited December 27, 2015 by Spectre

[sandylee1]

My parents are step siblings. They fell in love then their parents met each other and also fell in love, so they never had the 'sibling bond' but it is very possible to hook up with your step sibling.

 

I totally understand why your boyfriend is freaking out. Maybe he is taking it too far but either way, you can legally have hook up with your brother, and you have admitted he's good looking... And you live with him?

 

You might need to set boundaries.

 

Also: you're not fooling us. If you really didn't want your step brother to see you naked, you could of avoided it easily.

 

This is a different scenario. They met first before the parents. ... so they weren't step siblings from the get go.

[Space Ritual]

After reading through this thread and all the comments here, I have come to the conclusion that I am jealous I never had a step sister like the OP.

 

Just be happy you didn't I imagine you would have heard dueling bed springs creaking in the middle of the night and hear her whispering "Daddy, don't crush my pack of Marlboros"

[Buddhist]

Just checking in to see whether or not the drama has escalated to Jerry Springer territory. Bit disappoint......

[trishaweston]

Hi, everyone. Sorry I haven't followed up for a few days but I've really been feeling bad lately I really don't want to talk about it, but it turns out that my bf isn't the type of person I thought he was, and because of what I (and my family) found out about him, I really have no choice but to end all contact with him.

 

I'm really hurting right now. But thx to all of you who gave me helpful and honest advice. I really appreciate it.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

I just read this whole thread, what a surprise,

It's like cutting an onion, the more I read, the more I cry!

[Poutrew]

Hi, everyone. Sorry I haven't followed up for a few days but I've really been feeling bad lately I really don't want to talk about it, but it turns out that my bf isn't the type of person I thought he was, and because of what I (and my family) found out about him, I really have no choice but to end all contact with him.

 

I'm really hurting right now. But thx to all of you who gave me helpful and honest advice. I really appreciate it.

 

Sorry to hear things didn't work out, Trisha. Believe it or not, most of us on this BB have been (or are) in the same place you find yourself in currently, even if for different reasons - All Roads Lead To Rome.... We really are a pretty good crop of anonymous strangers:). If there is anything you feel the need to get an outside viewpoint on, feel free to post it either in this thread, or another one. Whatever your trouble, someone on Loveshack has a PhD in it...

[Spectre]

After reading through this thread and all the comments here, I have come to the conclusion that I am jealous I never had a step sister like the OP.

 

You are jealous you didn't have a deceitful step sister who cockteases her step brother all the while dating some guy she claims to love but obviously doesn't love? That is..a weirdly specific thing to be jealous over but hey you do you.

[Spectre]

Hi, everyone. Sorry I haven't followed up for a few days but I've really been feeling bad lately I really don't want to talk about it, but it turns out that my bf isn't the type of person I thought he was, and because of what I (and my family) found out about him, I really have no choice but to end all contact with him.

 

I'm really hurting right now. But thx to all of you who gave me helpful and honest advice. I really appreciate it.

 

I'm sorry lady, but I am calling shenanigans. Since now you conveniently have an excuse not to say a word to him and also paint him as the bad guy(when if there is a bad guy it is clearly you in that role).

 

But you know what..I am being silly: silver lining! Congratulations to your boyfriend he can move on now to someone who act shady and then get mad when he suspects her of being shady.

 

I'd ask you what you "found out" about him, but frankly I wouldn't believe you anyways so what is the point? But thank you at least for setting the poor guy free..whatever your reason.

 

I just hope in reality you aren't still with the poor sap and you are just telling us all it is over because you don't want to have to continually be told to do the right thing.

Edited December 29, 2015 by Spectre

[The Way I Am]

Hi, everyone. Sorry I haven't followed up for a few days but I've really been feeling bad lately I really don't want to talk about it, but it turns out that my bf isn't the type of person I thought he was, and because of what I (and my family) found out about him, I really have no choice but to end all contact with him.

 

I'm really hurting right now. But thx to all of you who gave me helpful and honest advice. I really appreciate it.

 

Sorry you're hurting.

 

That seems for the best, because you weren't really the person he thought you were either. Whatever you found out about him, please don't use that as an excuse to discount his objections to your inappropriate behavior with your step brother.

 

 

I hope you've learned you need to set up appropriate boundaries with your step brother so you don't end up with a repeat of the situation with the your next relationship.

[Spectre]

Just doesn't seem like she learned much of anything. I didn't see her saying "I found out stuff and I can't be with him anymore, but I at least also did the right think by informing him of all the things I lied about as well so he knows he wasn't the only one who messed up."

 

But you can tell by her posts and her bending over backwards for her step bro that the only thing she learned here is to not tell her future boyfriends about her little hot tub excursions with her bro in her panties.

 

So I feel very good for her now ex, but I feel very bad for future boyfriends. OP, will you be honest with future boyfriends about what you did with your bro? Or will his feelings be more important then future guys as well?

Edited December 29, 2015 by Spectre

[Space Ritual]

Hi, everyone. Sorry I haven't followed up for a few days but I've really been feeling bad lately I really don't want to talk about it, but it turns out that my bf isn't the type of person I thought he was, and because of what I (and my family) found out about him, I really have no choice but to end all contact with him.

 

I'm really hurting right now. But thx to all of you who gave me helpful and honest advice. I really appreciate it.

 

Come back!!

 

I got Moonpies and Dr. Pepper!!!

[Spectre]

She won't be back it's hot tub season. Just two platonic step siblings chilling half naked in a hot tub.