help me now please

[lonely heart]

hi. i am 16 (17 in may) and never had a girlfriend. its not that no one likes me but i am too shy to ask anyone out. what makes it worse is i think i fancy my mates bird. help me please

[Tony T]

I'm not really sure what you are needing here. If you are shy, just give yourself some time. You need to wait for the right time...where you feel most comfortable. You don't need to run out and find a date tomorrow. Have patience for the right circumstances to present themselves...and then take advantage of that.

 

As far as your mate's girlfriend, I suggest for your sake that you control yourself and take your mind off of her. She's taken.

[bubbles]

Well, i think i get your problem. I'm the same age as you (17 in july), i'm a girl, And i know what it's like to want someone you can't have. However, i'm not so sure if you really want your friends bird or not. To me it sounds like you've picked someone unattainible to make you feel worthwhile or something.

 

However, on to asking girls out. Look, just go for it! You've got no chance if you don't. I came from a small town in Australia, and no one has the guts to ask anyone out, so therefore we're all single! Just find someone you like, do the "Just Friends" bit, and if you still want her ask her out! Trust me, i wish more guys would do the asking!

[lonely heart]

thanks guys and gals. i feel alot better. and just for the record i liked this girl before my mate went out with her.

 

Cheers

[Tony T]

YOU WRITE: "and just for the record i liked this girl before my mate went out with her."

 

Well, the difference between you and your mate is that he takes action in a timely manner and you don't. I hope you learned something from this experience.