Adrienne63 Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Does anyone have this problem with their spouse? My husband expects me to drop everything, and attend to him immediately, regardless of what I am doing. He becomes upset if I don't , or if I say, "I'll be with you in a minute." Whatever HE wants has to take priority first. I'm talking about day to day activities here. For example, if I am using the computer, he will expect me to sign off so he can use the phone. However, if I ask the same thing, he tells me that I'm being "rude and pushy." Two days ago, I was on the telephone, trying to set up a doctor's apppointment, and he came in, and made "get off the phone" signals with his hands. He then wrote on a note for me to come over to see something in the neighbor's yard. I made signals that I couldn't come at the moment (in the meantime trying to listen to the person on the other end.) My husband then rolled his eyes, and stood over me, gesturing for me to end the call. When I finally hung up, my husband went ballistic, saying that I was rude to him! I responded by saying that HE was rude, and that he could have waited while I finished my call. His response was "F**K You!" before storming out of the room. Since then, we have barely spoken. He has said that he expects an apology from me, and I have disagreed, saying that he owes me one. How can I resolve this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 deal with him the way you would a child, as he is behaving like one....a very rude one. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Is he mormon, how was his childhood? Did his Father pushed his Mother around a lot? How long have you been married? Link to post Share on other sites
Adrienne63 Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Hi Moose, To answer your questions, we have been married for 17 years, and we are not Mormon. I would describe my husband's father as a control freak, who is emotionally distant from his wife. I have never seen any outward signs of affection between them. My husband is the oldest of three siblings. Both parents favor the youngest son, who is treated with affection, and respect. This has caused much resentment on the part of the other two siblings. The favoritism is blatant too, and I have seen a lot of it in the 20 years I have known my husband. Much of his childhood was unsettled as his father did many overseas postings with his work. Adrienne63. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 Then it sounds like he craves alot of "ME" attention and really needs to be focussed on alot and put first. OK, these are HIS issues, not yours. He needs to get a grip. There are times and places for his behaviour, like an emergency - Or something cruical that he MUST have your attention ASAP. Respect - If somebody is on the phone YOU wait until they're done or slip them a note! He is acting like a big baby and basically had a s***fit cuz you would not respond to him as soon as he wanted you to. Can we say Big Ego too??? He needs to come down afew notches and realize that there are TWO of you in this marriage, not just him. Link to post Share on other sites
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