Just seen Him with his family :-(

[Lois_Griffin]

He started crying and said I just can't leave my son and my future has to be with them.

 

We fell asleep and woke up and he was cuddled in me and we ended up having sex.

 

I don't know, but there's something just extra creepy about a guy who'll lay in bed with another woman, talk about how his child is his future, then have sex. It's just creepy if I'm being honest.

 

I think he just took advantage of an opportunity and then once he was satisfied, all of a sudden he had all the power to back off.

 

I hate to say it, but you'll probably hear from him again when he's itching for more sex. then when he gets it again, he'll do the fade.

 

Until the next time the cycle repeats itself.

[imperfectangel]

My MM. is like this. Back away before you get dragged in too deep. He probably doesn't love his gf if he can have sex with you so easily while his gf is looking after his baby.

[Lois_Griffin]

I just thought if it was all fake he wouldn't of told me his future has to be with them surely if it was just for sex he would of spun me the I want to be with you line.

I genuinely thought he had feelings for me

He didn't need to 'future fake' you like some of them do. But you still ended up having sex with him anyway, so that taught him you're willing to accept the situation as it is.

[Louisesarah]

I just genuinely believe it was more than sex.

I confided in his sister and she said he is running from his feelings.

I don't know what to think anymore.

I wish we could be friends rather than nothing.

I don't get why he asked if I loved him.

I'm good at working people out and I don't believe it was all fake( I hope not )

His sis tells me he never wants to go back home to his gf he only moved in the day after baby was born.

I miss him

But I won't contact him

[Louisesarah]

I'm close to his mum too ( with being his sis best friend ) and she said he always talks about you and said to her ..you like Louise don't you ..I really like her

So surely if it was fake he wouldn't talk to his mum about me?

[imperfectangel]

I just genuinely believe it was more than sex.

I confided in his sister and she said he is running from his feelings.

I don't know what to think anymore.

I wish we could be friends rather than nothing.

I don't get why he asked if I loved him.

I'm good at working people out and I don't believe it was all fake( I hope not )

His sis tells me he never wants to go back home to his gf he only moved in the day after baby was born.

I miss him

But I won't contact him

 

 

Maybe he isn't happy with her but what is he doing about it?

[Louisesarah]

Nothing ...his sister says he is living a lie for his child.

[imperfectangel]

Nothing ...his sister says he is living a lie for his child.

 

Then that's your answer Hun. There is no future here.

[Louisesarah]

Make better choices.

 

I know it's cliche but when we were together it just felt right ..just hugging each other

So crazy

[Gloria_Smellons]

I know it's cliche but when we were together it just felt right ..just hugging each other

So crazy

 

Gently, it doesn't matter how it feels, it isn't right.

 

Taking drugs might feel right but that doesn't mean it's a good life choice.

 

This guy has said he wants to live his life for his child - let him fall on that sword. Remove yourself from his life in every possible capacity - no trying to be friends - and fill your life with other people, places and things to keep your mind off him.

[angel.eyes]

Hun, he's known you for years...years! Yet, he officially dates another woman, has a baby with her, and lives with her. All you've gotten is sneaking around and words when he wants to get in your pants. His public actions and choices speak volumes. Even if it felt right in the moment, this won't work for you in the long-run. You're just setting yourself up for Hurt City. Let Mr. Cheater go and, moving forward, make better choices for yourself.

[Louisesarah]

Make better choices.

 

I know it's been a weird situation

We kissed years ago on a night out( he had a gf)

His mum and sister would always tell him to think of me as a sister and I know that played a massive part.

They used to go crazy if they knew we even spoke.

My friend made it clear she wanted nothing to ever happen.

The way he has cut me off now has hurt me badly.

I feel so worthless

He has re activated his Facebook added everyone but me.

I don't understand him at all.

Even before we would just text as friends

[privategal]

I know it's been a weird situation

We kissed years ago on a night out( he had a gf)

His mum and sister would always tell him to think of me as a sister and I know that played a massive part.

They used to go crazy if they knew we even spoke.

My friend made it clear she wanted nothing to ever happen.

The way he has cut me off now has hurt me badly.

I feel so worthless

He has re activated his Facebook added everyone but me.

I don't understand him at all.

Even before we would just text as friends

 

Before it was all just fantasy. Now it became real when you had sex and now he has the itch scratched.

He got what he wanted, now it is done.

You won't be able to move on while being so tight with his family and hearing about him all the time so I don't know how to help you except to say accept it.

He has a new baby and his gf needs him and he wants to do the right thing.

Once you had sex...the friendship was over.

If he loved you then you wouldn't be cut out.

He wants to no longer cheat, feels guilty, took the chance and got laid....now he wants to move on and get it together.

If you dont except and let go you will lose your best friend and her Mom too.

[Louisesarah]

I wish it had kept as fantasy because I'm left alone in love with Him feeling used and worthless.

I don't know how he can be so cruel.

It's been 5 weeks since we last spoke but tbh after we slept together.

I could tell how guilty he was.

I just don't understand why he is telling his sister he doesn't love his gf anymore then.

Wish we had some contact

[Louisesarah]

I don't know how he isn't feeling guilty over what his done to me .

He must know I feel hurt

It's incredibly cruel

[Louisesarah]

Why doesn't he wana be friends tho?

We could still have a friendship.

[cif]

Why doesn't he wana be friends tho?

We could still have a friendship.

 

Once you have sex you can not revert back to friendship (unless both parties don't have romantic feelings towards one another)

 

Stop listening/talking about him to your friend.

 

If he felt the same way you do he wouldn't have dated other people.

 

His GF is most likely preoccupied with the new born and neglecting him. Once the baby is older, she will be back to giving him her attention and he will have formed a bond with his son. You won't be able to compete. Move on.

[SSJROMANCE]

No that doesn't sound like he used you. He is young and confused. Having said that you shouldn't have gotten involved.

[Louisesarah]

He had broken up with her because he didn't love her and then got back when she found out she was pregnant so they had problems long before.

A year previous he ended it got with someone else then when she ended it got back with the gf .

[imperfectangel]

You need to stop picking apart their relationship and focus on moving forward with your own life. I know it hurts but in the long run you'll see you've had a lucky escape.

[cif]

He had broken up with her because he didn't love her and then got back when she found out she was pregnant so they had problems long before.

A year previous he ended it got with someone else then when she ended it got back with the gf .

 

My point is he never chose to have a relationship with YOU.. he went back to his xGF instead.

[privategal]

Having sex took all the buildup and mystery away.

Even before sex if you paid attention to what he was saying while laying there he was basically telling you he didn't want to leave his son, etc etc.

As horrible as it sounds, he was vulnerable, you were there.

He clearly is not reaching out to see if your hurt.

He doesn't want to be involved.

Your not in love either...sex bonds you with hormones and chemicals in the brain that mimick love.

You need to move past this.

It was a mistake to sleep with him.

He needs to focus on his family.

You need to come to terms its done.

Hes not a friend, he cant be your friend, the friendship of the past was laced with fantasy and forbidden fruit.

No more mystery or friendship.

Hes trying to be a father now and forget his mistakes.

You need a new start, some distance from his family right now, and maybe a new hobby and to work on you.

[Louisesarah]

I just don't know anymore.

He has even said in the past he wished things were different.

After we slept together he still text me talking about next time.

[eye of the storm]

Sweety, you are so focused on...scraps you are digging out of the garbage. You are creating meals out of them.

 

Stop asking your friend or their mother about him. When they talk about him change the subject.

 

It doesn't matter why he didn't pick you. The fact is, he didn't. He picked her.

 

It is not for you to figure out why, or delve into if their relationship is going down the tubes because of a comment he made to a bartender that is married to a friend's hairdresser. All this detective work just keeps you stuck and attached to someone that did not pick you.

 

It sucks, it hurts. But you can and will survive this.

[waterwoman]

"It is not for you to figure out why," Well said!

 

This is one of the most important things I have learned on LS over the last few years. People do stupid things for their own reasons - that is on THEM to work out. Leave him to it.