Problem about meeting with an ex?

[pmatic]

Two weeks after we broke up I told him I would like to see him in person again and talk about things… He texted me that he thinks it is still too early to talk. I told him that it is okay, no hard feelings… We have seen each other at the party three weeks after that conversation… After that, I texted him and asked him if he thinks he is ready now to talk… He said maybe, and that he will get in touch with me when he is in our hometown. It has been two weeks since then… He has been home twice, we even texted,but he doesn’t mention anything about meeting up. I don’t want to ask him again because I think it will look like I’m forcing it too much… What should I do?

 

Also, few days ago, when I asked him why he is being so distant when we are texting, he said that he knows he hurt me, and he is feeling bad about it... but he is getting better (so he wants to text or not?)

 

And, the reason why we broke up is mainly my fault. I was selfish, acting like I didn't care and ignoring his feelings, not on purpose, but I do see it now. He hurt me also few months before the breakup, but I forgave him and forgotten all about it.

 

I don't want to get back with him because I can't live without him.

I can.

But, he makes me a better person. We are really compatible. I do miss him, but that is not the main reason I want him back. I think we have a real good potential of building a good life, a great life together... The problems we had are just a miscommunication and a series of misfortunate events... to conclude, I want him back, and I am ready to work hard to build back the strong emotional connection we lost 6 months ago...

[mlpony]

Two weeks after we broke up I told him I would like to see him in person again and talk about things… He texted me that he thinks it is still too early to talk. I told him that it is okay, no hard feelings… We have seen each other at the party three weeks after that conversation… After that, I texted him and asked him if he thinks he is ready now to talk… He said maybe, and that he will get in touch with me when he is in our hometown. It has been two weeks since then… He has been home twice, we even texted,but he doesn’t mention anything about meeting up. I don’t want to ask him again because I think it will look like I’m forcing it too much… What should I do?

 

Also, few days ago, when I asked him why he is being so distant when we are texting, he said that he knows he hurt me, and he is feeling bad about it... but he is getting better (so he wants to text or not?)

 

And, the reason why we broke up is mainly my fault. I was selfish, acting like I didn't care and ignoring his feelings, not on purpose, but I do see it now. He hurt me also few months before the breakup, but I forgave him and forgotten all about it.

 

I don't want to get back with him because I can't live without him.

I can.

But, he makes me a better person. We are really compatible. I do miss him, but that is not the main reason I want him back. I think we have a real good potential of building a good life, a great life together... The problems we had are just a miscommunication and a series of misfortunate events... to conclude, I want him back, and I am ready to work hard to build back the strong emotional connection we lost 6 months ago...

 

Hmm.. it might be that there is potential for getting back together and having a second chance. But for now you should stop contacting him and go on to other things. Very likely he will contact you again one day, but you can't wait for that day. And at that point you may be on to other things too.

 

Life is a game of chance. You can't predict the outcome and you can't make things happen. But when you let things unfold on their own the results are often better than you think. All the best!

[privategal]

Your ruining your chances with too much contact, asking questions about his being distant..

Show some restraint and confidence.

He doesn't seem to be to interested since he came home twice and knew you wanted to get together but didn't even try.

He cant even process or have time to miss you.

Your always in his phone.

Set him free.

Don't write.

Don't call just nothing.

Give space and let ALL contact come from him only.

If he writes, dont bring up the past nor continue mindless chatter and head games.

Be breif, polite, and keep it moving.

Have your own friends, hobbies, make a new and better you and leave him alone right now.

Go have fun and be busy.

Edited December 26, 2015 by privategal