almost 29, no where near marriage

[WGirl]

That's okay with me. It doesn't bother me. It seems to bother other people. I get sick of people asking me when I am getting married. Well, I am not even dating anyone so it isn't anywhere in the near future. I've been accused of being everything from a man hater, asexual, gay, too fussy, you name it. What is so wrong with a single woman in her late twenties. Just because a woman isn't married or going with anyone doesn't mean there is something wrong with her.

 

I am sick of people acting like there is something wrong with that. This is the year 2001. Women have choices. Sure, I could be married if I wanted to marry Joe Schmo, mr.rude or my possessive ex boyfriend--no thanks. I am all set. I enjoy my freedom very much. Do other women around my age deal with this? When I say I don't mind being single, some people act like they don't believe me. Like, how can a single woman be happy? Isn't that a bit old-fashioned?

 

Does anyone else get sick of, "the right one will come along." Yeah okay, I don't believe in fairy tales anymore."You still have time" is another one. Okay, I won't hold my breath. Maybe it just isn't in the cards for me. I don't think everyone meets "the one".

 

Any ideas or opinions about this.

[coldplay]

Of course it's perfectly ok to remain single, and it would be a lot easier if everyone would just calm down if someone hits age 30 and they haven't found the right person yet. I think the reason people continually remind you is one of two things. One, they themselves are insecure being single and afraid of being alone the rest of their lives...therefore when they see someone who is secure in themselves as a single unattached human being, they feel the need to transfer their insecurity to you (misery loves company, eh?). Or two, if these are close friends, perhaps they are actually seeing something in you that makes them think you're not giving enough guys a chance, and being the good little girlfriends they are...they feel the need to help you out by finding one.

 

I think most likely that you are completely secure within yourself, and that's fantastic- but it doesn't hurt to reassess the relationships you've been in...as well as the new possiblities that arise (what i mean is...give more guys a chance). After all there's nothing wrong with being single- but don't remain single for single's sake.

[Snicker]

I am fine with someone like that because i agree that it is easier for a person to be happy I am only 22 but I am not going to jump into a relationship nor get married till I know in my heart it is right and we stay ytogether till the end becasue I am only getting married once and not getting divorced so I am going to wait not jump

[Tony T]

At your age, you should have long ago learned not to let what other people say upset you. Live your life exactly as you wish and tell other people to do the same.

 

Marry if and when you wish. And don't if you don't want to. Life can be quite happy and fulfilling without a mate.

 

Remember, the absolute worst case of loneliness is not even a fraction as bad as a bad relationship.

 

Tell all these people who are commenting on the way you live your life to butt out. It's none of their business.

 

If the right person comes along in a year or in a decade and you decide you want to risk your pease of mind and serenity for a crack at marital bliss, it'll be your call and nobody elses.

[almost28]

I am reaching that same point and family and friends are now on my back about getting married. But I am happier being single for now - my parents had a bad marriage and I know that has had an influence on me. But I see it as a positive thing to be aware of your choices and not to give in to pressure from other people and risk being stuck in a bad marriage just to be able to say "I am Mrs XXXX" at 30. I think its also the fact I take the commitment of marriage much more seriously....its a big decision and when I make it I would be totally committed to it. But it is all sooo annoying and a bit heartbreaking when people close to you just think you "need" to be married and all other happy and important things in your life are not seen anymore.

That's okay with me. It doesn't bother me. It seems to bother other people. I get sick of people asking me when I am getting married. Well, I am not even dating anyone so it isn't anywhere in the near future. I've been accused of being everything from a man hater, asexual, gay, too fussy, you name it. What is so wrong with a single woman in her late twenties. Just because a woman isn't married or going with anyone doesn't mean there is something wrong with her. I am sick of people acting like there is something wrong with that. This is the year 2001. Women have choices. Sure, I could be married if I wanted to marry Joe Schmo, mr.rude or my possessive ex boyfriend--no thanks. I am all set. I enjoy my freedom very much. Do other women around my age deal with this? When I say I don't mind being single, some people act like they don't believe me. Like, how can a single woman be happy? Isn't that a bit old-fashioned? Does anyone else get sick of, "the right one will come along." Yeah okay, I don't believe in fairy tales anymore."You still have time" is another one. Okay, I won't hold my breath. Maybe it just isn't in the cards for me. I don't think everyone meets "the one". Any ideas or opinions about this.

[Rogue]

What everyone else wrote was right on,especially what Tony said. Being lonely is not nearly as bad as being in a bad relationship.

 

You're right on too. At least you're not "almost 29 and divorced twice because I married too young". There's no need to feel pressure.If you're happy being single for now, why rush into anything out of desperation?

 

And I will tell you another truth. There are a lot of guys, quality human beings, your age thinking the exact same thing. Some have them have been through bad relationships and they're cautious, some have them have just been too picky, some of them have spent all their time on their careers. You WILL find one that is compatible, just as long as you keep your eyes open.

 

If you are interested in finding someone,maybe you need to open up your social circle so you can meet more guys. Ask friends to introduce you to some of their single guy friends. Get yourself invited to traditional "guy stuff" like Super Bowl parties or golf tournaments.(NHL playoffs start next wednesday by the way..hint hint). All I'm saying is that it's easier to find something you like with a wider selection.

[WGirl]

Well, i don't know if anyone who responded to my message will go this far down because it has been a week since I originally posted. Thanks for the responses. At this point I don't even care if I ever find anyone. If I do I do, I don't-oh well! That is basically my attitude.

 

Believe me, I know that being in a bad relationship is worse than being alone. That is partly why I am alone.

 

As far is being "too fussy", I don't think I am. There are certain things I am just not willing to tolerate.

 

If other women want to, that's fine. I don't care what other people think. It just aggravates me sometimes when people question my single status.

 

What everyone else wrote was right on,especially what Tony said. Being lonely is not nearly as bad as being in a bad relationship. You're right on too. At least you're not "almost 29 and divorced twice because I married too young". There's no need to feel pressure.If you're happy being single for now, why rush into anything out of desperation? And I will tell you another truth. There are a lot of guys, quality human beings, your age thinking the exact same thing. Some have them have been through bad relationships and they're cautious, some have them have just been too picky, some of them have spent all their time on their careers. You WILL find one that is compatible, just as long as you keep your eyes open. If you are interested in finding someone,maybe you need to open up your social circle so you can meet more guys. Ask friends to introduce you to some of their single guy friends. Get yourself invited to traditional "guy stuff" like Super Bowl parties or golf tournaments.(NHL playoffs start next wednesday by the way..hint hint). All I'm saying is that it's easier to find something you like with a wider selection.