My girlfriend texted guy friend drunk, unbelievable reply from him!

[SwordofFlame]

OP, please tell us that she's really hot. If so, we understand why you put up with her.

[Standard-Fare]

This is pretty cut and dry. There's just no explanation besides cheating for those texts: the face-sitting and the other one about bending her over. Guys do NOT talk like that to women they've had only platonic experiences with.

 

OP, I don't see what you have to lose by confronting her with the specifics. This relationship is already at a very weak point right now, it's not like your snooping is responsible for destroying it.

 

As far as supporting her financially as a result of her own drunken mistake: No way. Come on.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

Call her up, be a man, tell her it's over, nothing more to see,

She can face-sit him all she wants, but she should leave you be.

[Buddhist]

Why it is so hard to find a decent women these days beats me? mgtow may be the only option left for me i guess.

 

Just a guess but maybe it's because you meet them in bars, and have terrible discrimination skills? Do you really think you're going to find a future wife in a drinking hole? Sure you can become bitter and sexless, or you can just resolve to meet better quality people in the future.

[Try]

I didn't end the relationship yet. I felt bad when she cried because she lost her debit card at the club and someone wiped his ass off with it, buying stuff. So, I had to loan her money for rent. Breaking up with her at this point will be quite painful for her.

So while out alone at a bar, she is sending selfies and sexting with a guy that she met at a wedding that told her that "I really liked when you sat on my face at the wedding", and your response is to pay her rent?

[JS84]

Is this even for real?? Drop kick that chick to the curb.

[Wewon]

Hi Guys,

 

I have been with my girlfriend for almost 11 months. Binge drinking problems galore. The other night, she went to a club all by herself. Ladies night out. I had no problem. I went out with my friends. I got a text that she needs a ride at 2 am. She got smashed. I offered her a ride. I saw that she texted two guys. One was her ex boyfriend and other her guy friend whom she met in a wedding about a month ago where I was not with her. She was maid of honor. Ex boyfriend text was not that bad and I didn't mind at all. He was teasing her. I thought that is fine. But the text she got from her male floater is blew my mind. She was talking **** with him that how she got smashed, sent him a pic of her getting drunk and stuff. I thought that is fine. Then this is what he wrote, "I really liked when you sat on my face at the wedding". WTF.

 

Time to RUN?

 

Don't understand why I always find these girls. I met the girl in a bar. That explains.

 

What you guys think?

 

Thanks in advance.

 

 

You want to stay with a women with a drinking problem?

 

You will spend the rest of your life dealing with this problem.

[Heer]

Hello and happy holidays first of all.

I feel that your gf is kinda similar to me. When I get too drunk, weird things happen. There was one time where I got too drunk at home alone and slept in the bathtub while wearing nothing but a jacket. I learned the next morning that I drunk texted me other gfs that I pretended to be a polar bear:laugh::laugh:. She's probably a normal person when she's sober but alcohol can do weird things. Its not reflective of her personality when she's influenced by alcohol.

I would have a clear and frank conversation with her when shes sober and tell her what she did when she's drunk. Its probably smart to go with her next time to the bar or stay at home and get drunk, like me:D:D

 

Kisses

[GingerVixen]

Hi Guys,

 

I have been with my girlfriend for almost 11 months. Binge drinking problems galore. The other night, she went to a club all by herself. Ladies night out. I had no problem. I went out with my friends. I got a text that she needs a ride at 2 am. She got smashed. I offered her a ride. I saw that she texted two guys. One was her ex boyfriend and other her guy friend whom she met in a wedding about a month ago where I was not with her. She was maid of honor. Ex boyfriend text was not that bad and I didn't mind at all. He was teasing her. I thought that is fine. But the text she got from her male floater is blew my mind. She was talking **** with him that how she got smashed, sent him a pic of her getting drunk and stuff. I thought that is fine. Then this is what he wrote, "I really liked when you sat on my face at the wedding". WTF.

 

Time to RUN?

 

Don't understand why I always find these girls. I met the girl in a bar. That explains.

What you guys think?

 

Thanks in advance.

 

Not all women who go to bars behave this way.

 

I have also heard that men who go to bars are scumbags. Since you go to bars, are you a scumbag too?

[Prince6174]

GingerVixen

You are right. I was stereotyping women who go to bars and clubs because of this particular experience. But I feel that going to a bar and having a drink or two is fine. I am completely OK with it. I go to bars too! But if someone is hooking up with people or face-sitting (I am sure my gf was drunk in the wedding too when she hooked up with that guy) or doing crazy stunts or texting pics to guys or girls when they are in a committed relationship then that is not right. Bars are usually dark and most people go there to get drunk. I am not saying that decent people don't go to bars. They do. I remember, the first night I met my SO, she was wasted. I thought, some people have anxiety problems so they drink a little more. I was wrong. This is called binge drinking and it is a red flag.

 

Heer

Thanks for the wishes. You seemed like a nice person to me. But I don't agree with what you are doing to yourself and your comment. If you think that getting smashed/wasted is fine then you got a problem. But it's your life. You can do whatever you want. Sorry for you if you got a alcohol problem like my girlfriend. How could you expect me to go with my SO everywhere so that she doesn't drink too much or cheat on me? Seriously, I can't do that. I have already done enough for my girlfriend.

 

SwordofFlame

No. She is not hot but really cute. I had feelings for her. But we are so different. When she cried, I felt as if I did something wrong by accusing her of cheating. That is so effed up. I think I am a doormat to her. I couldn't believe how diabolical people could be in this world. Time to change myself i guess...

[Space Ritual]

Hello and happy holidays first of all.

I feel that your gf is kinda similar to me. When I get too drunk, weird things happen. There was one time where I got too drunk at home alone and slept in the bathtub while wearing nothing but a jacket. I learned the next morning that I drunk texted me other gfs that I pretended to be a polar bear:laugh::laugh:. She's probably a normal person when she's sober but alcohol can do weird things. Its not reflective of her personality when she's influenced by alcohol.

I would have a clear and frank conversation with her when shes sober and tell her what she did when she's drunk. Its probably smart to go with her next time to the bar or stay at home and get drunk, like me:D:D

 

Kisses

 

Heer!!!

 

You are making Space Ritual sad....I always have so much hope for you when I see you post.... and then....well...this above.

 

Do you think if you were running around Younge Street doing this type of stuff your boyfriend would want to have a frank discussion?

 

Come on now.

lol.

[Space Ritual]

GingerVixen

You are right. I was stereotyping women who go to bars and clubs because of this particular experience. But I feel that going to a bar and having a drink or two is fine. I am completely OK with it. I go to bars too! But if someone is hooking up with people or face-sitting (I am sure my gf was drunk in the wedding too when she hooked up with that guy) or doing crazy stunts or texting pics to guys or girls when they are in a committed relationship then that is not right. Bars are usually dark and most people go there to get drunk. I am not saying that decent people don't go to bars. They do. I remember, the first night I met my SO, she was wasted. I thought, some people have anxiety problems so they drink a little more. I was wrong. This is called binge drinking and it is a red flag.

 

Heer

Thanks for the wishes. You seemed like a nice person to me. But I don't agree with what you are doing to yourself and your comment. If you think that getting smashed/wasted is fine then you got a problem. But it's your life. You can do whatever you want. Sorry for you if you got a alcohol problem like my girlfriend. How could you expect me to go with my SO everywhere so that she doesn't drink too much or cheat on me? Seriously, I can't do that. I have already done enough for my girlfriend.

 

SwordofFlame

No. She is not hot but really cute. I had feelings for her. But we are so different. When she cried, I felt as if I did something wrong by accusing her of cheating. That is so effed up. I think I am a doormat to her. I couldn't believe how diabolical people could be in this world. Time to change myself i guess...

 

Bro, I came here late night with only one thread in mind. Yours.

 

Please tell me you have done the deed. Please tell me you got your damned money back...

[Sparta]

Sparta how is it not lame that this girl treats him the way she does and then he loans her money and doesn't kick her ass to the curb? Dude there is NO chivalry in that! WTF? This is why she treats you this way in the first place.

 

Spectre you were completely right and I was wrong about the OP. I thought he would do the right thing within a couple days. But after reading your post I have to say you are completely right. We all know that The right and wrong who has a little impact on us the 0P By not pulling the trigger on this broken relationship. And not going (NC) with his WGF Who is definitely very disturbed mental patient.The poor guy is prolonging his misery... 0P do the right thing...

[Prince6174]

Thanks again.

 

I told her that I can't be with her anymore. She should be with that dickwad instead. She cried. I can't take this anymore. She is sick. I am really sorry about this whole thing. I wasted lot of time on this girl.

 

She told me that she is going to return my money once bank reimburses her.

[loveweary11]

Hello and happy holidays first of all.

I feel that your gf is kinda similar to me. When I get too drunk, weird things happen. There was one time where I got too drunk at home alone and slept in the bathtub while wearing nothing but a jacket. I learned the next morning that I drunk texted me other gfs that I pretended to be a polar bear:laugh::laugh:. She's probably a normal person when she's sober but alcohol can do weird things. Its not reflective of her personality when she's influenced by alcohol.

I would have a clear and frank conversation with her when shes sober and tell her what she did when she's drunk. Its probably smart to go with her next time to the bar or stay at home and get drunk, like me:D:D

 

Kisses

 

 

I actually think just the opposite.

 

Alcohol disables your inhibitions, making you *more* the real person you are.

 

When wasted, that's the real person coming out.

[GingerVixen]

GingerVixen

You are right. I was stereotyping women who go to bars and clubs because of this particular experience. But I feel that going to a bar and having a drink or two is fine. I am completely OK with it. I go to bars too! But if someone is hooking up with people or face-sitting (I am sure my gf was drunk in the wedding too when she hooked up with that guy) or doing crazy stunts or texting pics to guys or girls when they are in a committed relationship then that is not right. Bars are usually dark and most people go there to get drunk. I am not saying that decent people don't go to bars. They do. I remember, the first night I met my SO, she was wasted. I thought, some people have anxiety problems so they drink a little more. I was wrong. This is called binge drinking and it is a red flag.

Heer

Thanks for the wishes. You seemed like a nice person to me. But I don't agree with what you are doing to yourself and your comment. If you think that getting smashed/wasted is fine then you got a problem. But it's your life. You can do whatever you want. Sorry for you if you got a alcohol problem like my girlfriend. How could you expect me to go with my SO everywhere so that she doesn't drink too much or cheat on me? Seriously, I can't do that. I have already done enough for my girlfriend.

 

SwordofFlame

No. She is not hot but really cute. I had feelings for her. But we are so different. When she cried, I felt as if I did something wrong by accusing her of cheating. That is so effed up. I think I am a doormat to her. I couldn't believe how diabolical people could be in this world. Time to change myself i guess...

 

Yeah this is a red flag for both genders. Never get in a relationship with someone who gets WASTED, let alone WASTED in public places.

 

Don't feel bad about yourself, your (ex) girlfriend - please tell me you have already broken up with her! - is crazy, irrational and unreliable. You can easily find a better woman.

[Spectre]

Hello and happy holidays first of all.

I feel that your gf is kinda similar to me. When I get too drunk, weird things happen. There was one time where I got too drunk at home alone and slept in the bathtub while wearing nothing but a jacket. I learned the next morning that I drunk texted me other gfs that I pretended to be a polar bear:laugh::laugh:. She's probably a normal person when she's sober but alcohol can do weird things. Its not reflective of her personality when she's influenced by alcohol.

I would have a clear and frank conversation with her when shes sober and tell her what she did when she's drunk. Its probably smart to go with her next time to the bar or stay at home and get drunk, like me:D:D

 

Kisses

 

Just wow was this post meant to be a joke? You texting people that you are a polar bear isn't remotely the same as what this girl did.

 

Oh and I disagree: it does reflect her personality. Everyone is different when drunk and I feel yep it tends to reflect some part of them.

 

Also she clearly cheated so what will this frank discussion accomplish? Will it erase the cheating?

 

Also why is it smart for him to go with her? This is his girlfriend not his child, he is not her babysitter and if you need to accompany a woman out to make sure she doesn't cheat or act inappropriate with other men then it's not worth it.

[Space Ritual]

Thanks again.

 

I told her that I can't be with her anymore. She should be with that dickwad instead. She cried. I can't take this anymore. She is sick. I am really sorry about this whole thing. I wasted lot of time on this girl.

 

She told me that she is going to return my money once bank reimburses her.

 

 

You won't see your money. Ever.

 

But if it only takes a one time rent payment to get her out of your life, then consider that money well spent.

 

Please do not feel sorry for her. She is far from sick. She is someone who has never had any consequences for her actions. Those tears were crocodile ones.

 

I am a recovering addict and alcoholic. I have been sober for over 20 years. whenever I would screw up when I was drugging and drinking I would claim it was never my fault and I would pull the same manipulative stuff and as soon as it was smoothed over I'd go into the bathroom, snort a line and laugh into the mirror "Fooled em again!" and then I'd go on my merry way being an ******* until I did something stupid again, like blow all my money on dope and then claim I got my wallet lifted or some other whopper of a story that I could ply on somebody and get some money out of em. Then I'd go buy dope or booze with that too.

 

Lather, rinse, repeat.

 

 

 

If you really care about her, then let her hit rock bottom, its the only way she'll ever learn. Just wash your hands of her.

[bathtub-row]

Thanks again.

 

I told her that I can't be with her anymore. She should be with that dickwad instead. She cried. I can't take this anymore. She is sick. I am really sorry about this whole thing. I wasted lot of time on this girl.

 

She told me that she is going to return my money once bank reimburses her.

 

I'm glad you did this. You probably have figured out by now that her tears are just another way to manipulate people.

 

She's probably going to give you song and dance about why she can't pay the money back to you but don't let her get away with it.

[Spectre]

Yep and seriously make sure she gives you that money back. Otherwise you essentially paid her to cheat on you and all around be shady.

 

It doesn't surprise me she cried, did you ask her if she cried after sitting on that other guys face? What did she say when you told her to be with the little d-bag? Did she deny anything happened?

Edited December 29, 2015 by Spectre

[Heer]

Hello and happy holidays first of all.

 

Prince: Sorry it didn't work out with your gf, but I still feel that drinking in public is ok as long as you have friends to bring you home or even better having a boyfriend there. In regards of the money...thats kinda unfortunate as well. I hope you get the money back but I can't imagine having my purse stolen. It would kill me:mad:

 

Space Ritual: Sorry for disappointing...maybe a few shots will cheer you up:)

 

Spectre: I wanted the OP to go with the gf because it would be good time to talk and hangout in a social setting. I'm not referring to baby sitting.

 

-Kisses

[The Way I Am]

You probably won't get your money back. If the amount was significant, ask her to sign a promissory note. (You can get one off the internet.) It might help you get the money back. (Still probably not, but there's nothing to lose)

[Poutrew]

Not all women who go to bars behave this way.

 

I have also heard that men who go to bars are scumbags. Since you go to bars, are you a scumbag too?

 

You're right. Not all women or men who go to bars are scumbags. When I was a starving college student, the local bar next to the uni would have an all you can eat buffet that was free to anyone who bought a drink, from 7 -midnight. So, almost every night, I'd be there nursing a beer and gorging myself on free pizza, pasta, salad and fruit. Sometimes it was the only real meal I'd eat all day... The scumbags you refer to provided the entertainment for the rest of us. I made friends with the bouncer- an ex boxer named lenny. He hardly ever had to get physical with the drunks when he escorted them off premises. Interestingly, I found out from lenny why the bar's owner tolerated us moochers who would buy a single beer all night just to eat the food. His son died in a head on with a drunk driver and this (the food) was his way to prevent someone else's parents from being woke up at 2A.M. and told Really Bad News... so even Bar owners aren't always scumbags...