yna Posted December 27, 2015 Share Posted December 27, 2015 In your opinion, if the person you are talking to or seeing/dating isn't treating you the way you deserve, should you do a clean break or go completely no contact? I am aware that it largely depends on the situation, but I'm talking more along the lines of stringing you along, being wishy-washy/flakey, unclear about his/her intentions, game playing, things like that. Do you talk to them and tell them it's over and talk about your reasons? Or do you just go no contact because you are hurt or annoyed or whatever and don't want to give them any more of your time/energy? [Yes, this stems from my own situation... he said he wanted relationship, turns out he wasn't ready and asks me to wait, communication slowed down big time, possibly (likely?) stringing me along. Have talked to him about it, nothing changed. I am hurt and tired and want to go NC.] Link to post Share on other sites
MissThang Posted December 27, 2015 Share Posted December 27, 2015 i would go NC. You should have when he asked you to wait for him. I wouldnt say he is stringing you along since he did say he wasnt ready, please wait, and then stopped contacting you. I get it, its hard to let go just like that, it could be confusing when you dont want to accept that ''wait for me'' means ''i am leaving you now, i'll be back if i dont find anyone better''. Breaking up with him now would be silly since he has already broken up with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author yna Posted December 27, 2015 Author Share Posted December 27, 2015 i would go NC. You should have when he asked you to wait for him. I wouldnt say he is stringing you along since he did say he wasnt ready, please wait, and then stopped contacting you. I get it, its hard to let go just like that, it could be confusing when you dont want to accept that ''wait for me'' means ''i am leaving you now, i'll be back if i dont find anyone better''. Breaking up with him now would be silly since he has already broken up with you. Not really that simple. He has not broken up with me. Even gets upset when he doesn't hear from me. Same as you, I *am* going NC as mentioned in that post. Link to post Share on other sites
4blossoms Posted December 27, 2015 Share Posted December 27, 2015 No contact except to tell you he is ready to commit. Your goal is to make him experience life without you and face the possibility that that he might lose you forever to some other guy. And let him decide if he is willing to lose you forever to another guy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts