offroader Posted December 27, 2015 Share Posted December 27, 2015 I first want to say thank god i found this forum, i had questions and i am getting lots of answers from here, thank you. So i was with my ex for 7 years, married for three. Our relationshio was pretty good but i messed up and i was kicked out. She made it sound like i destroyed her hopes and dreams and acts like the victim. It has only been a month and on christmas night she told me that last week she went on a blind date but wasnt ready, its only been three weeks. It also was not someone she has known or wanted for years, it was a setup. Question is, how hurt could she be by the relationship ending if is already giving dating a shot? I look at women but have no desire to talk to anyone let alone date. I have thick skin so no need to sugar coat any answers. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredLady Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 Hi. You say "i messed up and i was kicked out.". Will you explain? It's really hard to give opinions when I don't know what you've done. For example, if you cheated or were in contact with an ex she could be trying to 'revenge date'. The fact it was a set-up its probably friends pushing her to "Start a new life! Forget about him!". Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 The fact it was a set-up its probably friends pushing her to "Start a new life! Forget about him!". I agree with this. To me it seems like female friends/co-workers have their ear full of "how bad you treated her,blah,bla,blah" and they have a nice single friend lined up already. I wish us guy's stuck together like that. Lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author offroader Posted December 28, 2015 Author Share Posted December 28, 2015 I started texting another woman, flirting at best. I stepped out of the relationship to feel appreciated. I never thought about her friends having men lined up but maybe they did, good point. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 I started texting another woman, flirting at best. How would your wife know it stopped at flirting? When you say she "acts like the victim", isn't she ? Sounds like your real screw up was - and continues to be - a refusal to accept responsibility for your actions... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author offroader Posted December 28, 2015 Author Share Posted December 28, 2015 I have accepted responsibility and i havent left my screw up out of the story to make myself look inmocent here. My question regardless of my actions is how does someone after a 7 year relationship go on a blind date within 3 weeks? I.dont think i need to put our whole story here but she acted like she was devastated and she told me she was done with men forever, but not according to her actions. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 She's shopping for a replacement for you, your the fall back plan! Link to post Share on other sites
AzW Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 Peer Pressure? Link to post Share on other sites
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