JamesM Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 I don't think you should knock yourself too much. IMO she was either playing you for the OM while her husband was out of town, or she suddenly decided to reconnect with him after he was in town. Either way, no other guy would have done differently than you. Having read your story, I think she only decided to get together with him after he was home. He may have presented his case and she decided that he was worth it. This does not negate her love that she had for you at all. She had it and it was real. My guess is that she loved you and really was planning on a divorce. However, when he was home, he made her realize that what they had had was worth something. In a few months, she may have become more in love with him, or she may realize that rebuilding with him was just a dream. I do think you have it right though. Moving on and finding someone who is single would be better for you and your emotions. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 I think it was a case of them reconnecting and not you being the OM..... because what decent family (her mom and sister) would get involved with her having an affair. If her family are covering up.. then you don't want any part of them whatsoever. Even if screwed up. My mom and sister would never be part of me having an affair ....NEVER. I think you'd do right to disappear on your social media as you said and Don't respond to her scraps of messages. Personally I'd have to say more in my parting shot.. but do what works best for you. Poor you.......I'm sorry she did this. Always seems to be the nice people that get treated terribly. So many decent single women and you end up with this. If only loyal could find loyal and cheater find cheater. What a wonderful world that would be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buccaneer55 Posted January 20, 2016 Author Share Posted January 20, 2016 I really appreciate all the input today. Just a tough day to be honest. Whether or not I was the OM or she really had good intentions, it doesn't change the present situation or how used I feel by all of it. Just really bummed because I thought I saw a lot of potential in a future relationship, and was even willing to step in and be there for the kid as well. I just really started to care for both of them, and now I'm back at square one alone for the time being. Relationships just suck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BuddyX Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 Go for a run. Go to a gym. Hell, sign up for a dating site. I would discourage you from trolling social media, but if you're going to spend anytime online post pics of you doing activities Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Relationships just suck Yes, they do. Even marriages do at times. Link to post Share on other sites
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