Newly Married - need over regulararity

[fishjnet786]

Hi -

 

I am newly married (just this nov) and we had been in a long relationship for a few years now. We never had sex before our wedding and decided we will only do it once tied together (traditional, stupid, whatever!!!).

 

Now, We started have sex pretty frequently... like 3 - 4 times a week. We are both in our 20's (25 to be exact) and enjoy it pretty much.

 

My Question:

Is it okay to have sex 4 - 5 times a week?

Will i still have the same energy to have the same amount of sex in my 40's?

Will will effect our relationship at all?

 

Thank you for your kind advise and comments in advance.

[anika99]

Hi -

 

I am newly married (just this nov) and we had been in a long relationship for a few years now. We never had sex before our wedding and decided we will only do it once tied together (traditional, stupid, whatever!!!).

 

Now, We started have sex pretty frequently... like 3 - 4 times a week. We are both in our 20's (25 to be exact) and enjoy it pretty much.

 

My Question:

Is it okay to have sex 4 - 5 times a week?

Will i still have the same energy to have the same amount of sex in my 40's?

Will will effect our relationship at all?

 

Thank you for your kind advise and comments in advance.

 

Of course it's okay to have sex 4-5 times a week. Why would that be a problem?

 

People aren't old and decrepit in their forties, lol. Sometimes that's when people are having the best sex of their lives. You will have plenty of energy for sex in your forties.

 

It sounds like you are enjoying your married sex life. Why are you stressing about it? You are planning a lifetime with your wife and sex is only one part of marriage. The sex will ebb and flow. There will be times when it's off the charts amazing and times when it will have to take a back seat due to more pressing issues, like childbirth and children. Sex is very important but I hope you don't evaluate your whole marriage based on the sex alone.

[Mr. Lucky]

With a thread titled "Newly Married - need over regulararity", I thought the topic would be about the need for fiber in our diets.

 

Will i still have the same energy to have the same amount of sex in my 40's?

 

Statistically speaking , no. The good news is the outcome is 100% up to you and your spouse. Based on my experience, those in their 40"s having the most sex have the least need to keep track of the number of times...

 

Mr. Lucky

[fishjnet786]

Yeah... It's didn't let me post the title and stripped the title instead. sorry about that.

 

But what about the part for having 4 times a week at the current age... Is that sort off Cool?

[privategal]

Do it as much as you can or desire. If you build a mutually satisfying foundation and bond there will be times in your marriage where it might be less or more but why limit or worry about the future.

Outside the bedroom build your relationship too. Have good talks, keep dating eachother alot, try to be polite and loving and always considering eachothers needs and have FUN that way if there's a time your sex life isn't as hot for a bit...you still have so much going in your relationship.

If Im having a bad day my husband will say, Im gonna take you out tonight. We will just go to a little bar/restaurant and connect and have a beer, but the important thing is, its not all in the bedroom...sex isnt our entire marriage, our relationship is!!

[fishjnet786]

Well, that's very helpful. Part of it i already know... but taking it from someone aged/experienced does make it more trustworthy.

 

Thank you Ma'am.

[MJJean]

My Question:

Is it okay to have sex 4 - 5 times a week?

Will i still have the same energy to have the same amount of sex in my 40's?

Will will effect our relationship at all?

 

Thank you for your kind advise and comments in advance.

 

Of course it's ok to have sex 4-5 times a week. Or more. Or less. It's not as much about frequency as it is about the level of sexual satisfaction and making sure each partner's needs are being met.

 

My DH and I are both 40. We've been together a total of 16 years, 13 of those years married. We have sex an average of 3-6 times a week. The better you and your wife take care of yourselves as you age, the more energy you'll have for sex and other fun.

 

Yes, sexual frequency does effect a relationship. Sexual touching and orgasm release bonding chemicals in our brains. It's designed to bond us to our partners. Without that bond, couples can drift apart.

[BettyDraper]

As someone who is in her early 30s, I don't know why you think 40 is so old. At age 40, if a person stays healthy and is not involved in any accidents, he can live another 35-60 years! The years will pass by sooner than you think and before you know it, you will be 40 and wonder why you thought that age was soooo old.

 

I don't understand why you are concerned with how often you have sex.

Who told you that frequent sex with your spouse is a cause for concern?

You're young and in love so enjoy it.

 

My husband is 42. We used to have sex four times a week when we married five years because my drive was quite high. My sex drive has diminished and now we are fine with sex two or three times a week.

[OldRover]

Hi -

 

I am newly married (just this nov) and we had been in a long relationship for a few years now. We never had sex before our wedding and decided we will only do it once tied together (traditional, stupid, whatever!!!).

 

Now, We started have sex pretty frequently... like 3 - 4 times a week. We are both in our 20's (25 to be exact) and enjoy it pretty much.

 

My Question:

Is it okay to have sex 4 - 5 times a week?

Will i still have the same energy to have the same amount of sex in my 40's?

Will will effect our relationship at all?

 

Thank you for your kind advise and comments in advance.

 

Fish,

 

Have at it... have it 4 or 5 times a day it that works for you. And when you're 60 you can still have it 4 or 5 times a week... Try new stuff, different things, and you can still be trying new things for the rest of your life. Good for you!