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Hi -

 

Recently, my wife's sister moved to our city for college.

 

I (out of my conscious) asked her to stay at our place... and i honestly don't have a problem with here living at our place and at the most... I do had some issues with here timing and her studying on the couch during her exams and all and i dealt with it.

 

My Friends (besties from my school time) seems to have a huge problem with it. They live in a totally different city and her living at my place wouldn't effect them at all. Their reason is that i should focus on my life and should enjoy it. I am newly married and should make time to me and the Mrs. and not the sister instead.

 

thoughts?

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Hi -

 

Recently, my wife's sister moved to our city for college.

 

I (out of my conscious) asked her to stay at our place... and i honestly don't have a problem with here living at our place and at the most... I do had some issues with here timing and her studying on the couch during her exams and all and i dealt with it.

 

My Friends (besties from my school time) seems to have a huge problem with it. They live in a totally different city and her living at my place wouldn't effect them at all. Their reason is that i should focus on my life and should enjoy it. I am newly married and should make time to me and the Mrs. and not the sister instead.

 

thoughts?

Tell your mates to mind their own business, they're probably worried you won't have room if they come to stay.

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Why is it any of their business? You're being a decent person.

 

That said, she IS there by your good graces, and it behooves you to set some ground rules, since she IS a guest. Long-time visitors can wreak havoc on a marriage.

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Tell your friends to mind their own business. Odd.

 

Now, a few things:

 

1. You may want to consider charging her rent and board. Even if it is just a symbolic pittance. It will help you keep from feeling like she's taking advantage of you and it will help her feel more like she's earned the right to be there rather than being dependent on you. Trust me on this.

 

2. Lavish attention on your wife when you are around both of them. Make sure she always knows she comes first.

 

3. When your wife and sister fight - and they will fight - always support your wife. Seriously, you're talking about two women, under the same roof, sisters, one man, ya... they'll fight.

 

4. Don't sleep with her sister. Sorry, you're a dude so I have to say this.

 

Best of luck!

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