pondhawk Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 I just realized that men never flirt with me. This makes me sad. I would say that I'm above average looking (but not a 10), fit, and very friendly. Now, I'm married and happy, not looking to cheat or anything like that... It's fun to feel good and I'm just curious why men never flirt with me. I am tall (6'), could that have anything to do with it? Are men intimidated by tall women? Let me restate, I'm not looking to cheat. That's not why I post. I have realized my whole life that men genuinely do not flirt with me and never have. Men: What makes you flirt innocently? (Not to hook up.) Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 How did you manage to get married? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 How did you manage to get married? I was gonna ask the same thing! OP, no offense, but I find this to be such a strange question. When I am happy in a relationship, I am almost completely oblivious about other men. I don't look, I don't notice, I don't flirt—and I love it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author pondhawk Posted December 30, 2015 Author Share Posted December 30, 2015 How did you manage to get married? Lol. True. The first time I met my ex at work and the second time OLD. I guess I was just thinking about everyday interactions with men, like at the store, gym, or work. I seem invisible. Or maybe it's in my head. I'm shy and introverted too. It could be I need to work on my personality more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pondhawk Posted December 30, 2015 Author Share Posted December 30, 2015 I was gonna ask the same thing! OP, no offense, but I find this to be such a strange question. When I am happy in a relationship, I am almost completely oblivious about other men. I don't look, I don't notice, I don't flirt—and I love it. It is a strange question, I admit. I think it's more of a recognition overall in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 Might be a blessing in disguise ....better than having guys constantly give you 'the look.' Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 If you are shy & introverted you probably don't give people a green light to flirt with you. Honorable people also tone it down when they see the wedding ring. I was flirted with way more before I was married but I was also younger then too. Weren't we all? lol Let it go. Flirt with your husband. So some role play thing with him & have him pick you up in a bar or something but other than that, don't fret about it or you will wreck your marriage. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 Lol. True. The first time I met my ex at work and the second time OLD. I guess I was just thinking about everyday interactions with men, like at the store, gym, or work. I seem invisible. Or maybe it's in my head. I'm shy and introverted too. It could be I need to work on my personality more. No, I get it. I don't get flirted with a lot, either, not in the sense of guys picking me up. I used to think it's because I was unattractive, but I got enough traction on OLD to realize that it's probably because when I'm out and about my expression says DON'T TALK TO ME. Though, I find friendly—not necessarily flirty—banter with people like coworkers, baristas, bartenders, etc., to be quite easy. Make and keep eye contact, smile, and speak clearly, and that's about all it takes. I think there's a big difference between that and "getting hit on." I think if I were married I would be glad to not get hit on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 It may have something to do with your height...Most 6 foot women I know or have met look more like Big Bird than Heidi Klum...Also, I find women with large feet kinda unappealing...And most tall women have huge feet.. But thats just me....Another guy prob thinks its awesome...Just like about any other physical trait... When it comes to women being "hit on", its rarely about looks anyway..>I've seen downright hideous looking women get hit on regularly, while genuine hotties don't... Its all "approachability" and the "green light".....So I wouldn't even worry about a look being the problem... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 I just realized that men never flirt with me. This makes me sad. I would say that I'm above average looking (but not a 10), fit, and very friendly. Now, I'm married and happy, not looking to cheat or anything like that... It's fun to feel good and I'm just curious why men never flirt with me. I am tall (6'), could that have anything to do with it? Are men intimidated by tall women? Let me restate, I'm not looking to cheat. That's not why I post. I have realized my whole life that men genuinely do not flirt with me and never have. Men: What makes you flirt innocently? (Not to hook up.) Could have something to do with the finger being hugged by a ring, Or men are intimidated by your looks so they don't even try anything, Could be a myriad of reasons why this isn't happening to you, Or maybe they are flirting with you, and you're just oblivious too? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 It's your height. Has nothing to do with looking like "big bird." A lot of women I know that height don't look goofy. I think guys say that as an excuse for not having the guts to hit on a girl that is that tall. Had a girl visit LA that was about 6 feet or 6'1" and I observed other guys when we would go out. I'd say almost all of them felt a little less masculine. On top of her height, she also wore 3-4 inch heels almost every time. I thought that was great. I'm 6'2" and I know strangers assumed we were togother, but I did not mind appearing shorter. I think embracing your height (not saying you don't) by wearing heels instead of flats (this is just an example) makes you even sexier. Not sure I answered your question? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
justanotherguy1 Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 Well hi there sexy 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 I find tall women very hot and sexy, and you shouldn't be complaining OP, because you have someone, you are married 1 Link to post Share on other sites
67Chevelle Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 It is a strange question I dont think its strange at all. LOTS of women (single or not single) like to be reminded that the opposite notices them. I think its strange that there so many women thinking this is strange and so out of the ordinary. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 you're married, so i guess it's weird to see you are deliberately hoping for some male attention. but, perhaps your husband isn't giving you the attention you need in terms of flirting/playfulness? in any case, as a 5'10, thin and attractive woman, i can say i do get hit on/flirted with often enough. my height (i also think) has a lot to do with why attention isn't as frequent as it might be if i were shorter, but i think having a very engaging personality and smile opens up most guys, regardless of my height. it sounds like you have a height complex paired w/introversion... not really a recipe for flirtation.... you prolly need to work on being more outgoing/happy with your height.. confidence ALWAYS comes across Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 I just realized that men never flirt with me. This makes me sad. I would say that I'm above average looking (but not a 10), fit, and very friendly. Now, I'm married and happy, not looking to cheat or anything like that... It's fun to feel good and I'm just curious why men never flirt with me. I am tall (6'), could that have anything to do with it? Are men intimidated by tall women? Let me restate, I'm not looking to cheat. That's not why I post. I have realized my whole life that men genuinely do not flirt with me and never have. Men: What makes you flirt innocently? (Not to hook up.) Many men won't flirt with a married woman. The ones who do, you don't want that type of attention. Anyway you say even before men never flirted with you.... Look back or even now, are you self confident? Do you love, respect and care for yourself? Having that confidence and relying on yourself for inner happiness is contagious and can give off a wonderful energy that others pick up on. Try not to let this upset you. Link to post Share on other sites
oberkeat Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 (edited) I've found married women the easiest to flirt with for some reason. They seem much more easygoing than a lot of single girls. I have come very close to having affairs with married women a few times before I shut things down. My guess is that these women like the idea that men still find them desirable even though they're shackled down in a marriage, or they miss that flirty energy you can only experience with a new man. It could be that some women are just naturally flirty/good at flirting, and will flirt and enjoy male attention regardless of whether they already have a man. Edited January 1, 2016 by oberkeat Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Lucky husband. Does he know of your mental foot stamping for other dudes attention? I find tall women very hot and sexy, and you shouldn't be complaining OP, because you have someone, you are married I've rarely heard of men not wanting to approach a woman simply because she was tall other than for self defeat reasons. Everyone knows how a woman doesn't want to be shorter than their guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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