sandylee1 Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 As your wife is the one in the dark....I'd say she is the innocent one here. YOU know you're married...The OW knows you're married... there is one person being deceived and that's not the OW. I'm sorry but saying she's innocent is damn well irritating me... she's a woman sleeping with a MM..end off. Let your wife go...and despite you and her not being sexually compatible... another man will light her fire... just as another woman has done for you...... perhaps the attraction between you two has died. Life must be rather stressful telling lies and hiding like a fugitive to be with the younger woman.... I know it's just 13 years... but when a younger man grabs her attention ....you'll be the Betrayed one..or she'll just leave you......anyway regardless of how it would be with the OW.... you should call time on the marriage. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 (edited) And to the others on the age gap.. yes.. I have sat many nights asking myself. WTF are you thinking?? I've always said woman only start to come right after 25/26 hell even my therapist agreed. But then she has parents with similar age gap of 10 or 12 years and she's about to turn 24 so we basically 13 years apart. This must be my mid life crisis!!! So she's 23 right now, you're 37? Wow... It's not the age gap, it's the arc each of your are on in your life experience. If you were 54 and she 40, pretty minor issue. But the difference in maturity at your present ages is huge. Given everything involved, you could not have developed worse odds. The number of AP's that have successful LTR's after divorce - small. The number of enduring Spring/Fall relationships - small. Add them together - microscopic. And this is what you're wagering your future on. Right now it's all about my boy... how do I separate and see less of him. What would he think, how would he cope. Divorce hits a kid really hard and he's a real daddy's boy, follows me everywhere. I'm so confused and torn over this. I can tell you from experience, being a divorced father brings its own challenges. If it's really "all about my boy" and your marital unhappiness is concrete, the way forward is clear - - NC with your OW - an honest and as-cordial-as-can-be divorce from your wife - An active co-parent role without the distraction and baggage of a relationship with a 23-year old. Mr. Lucky Edited December 31, 2015 by Mr. Lucky 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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