Nfordie Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 Ok, so I don't know if this is appropriate for this topic, because I just made this account to get some feedback. I have been with my girlfriend for two years now and we have the problem of her not liking my friends. Let me just start off by saying my friends are not perfect in anyway what so ever, but I have been friends with all of them my entire life. I will be 25 in February so basically 20 years friendship. There is about 6 of us. When we were younger I guess you can say that we weren't the best kids being how we used to get in trouble with police on a regular basis and did drugs and smoked weed and drank , the whole 9. As we got older the stupidness and trouble faded away and none of us get into sticky situations anymore. There has been a couple stupid things that resulted in cops but it was like fights or whatever .. Anyway when I first started dating my girlfriend she loved hanging out with my friends! ( or it seemed so because she wanted to reel me in more) but as the couple years went on i noticed when Id say that I was going to hang with my friends she would get more pissy and pissy about it till I started calling her out asking her . "Do you hate my friends or what?" It started off as no I don't hate your friends I just think they make bad decisions and will get you in trouble .. And as it went on the answer slowly and slowly became yes when asked about each on of my friends .. Now that it's New Year's Eve on 2015 I said I wana go hang with my friends and she got so ****ing pissed off and started yelling saying "oh it's stupid how you don't wana do anything during the weekends with them and all of a sudden you want to go out and drink and hang out with them. Mind you she has work and every time I get the opportunity to go out on a holiday while she is working she gets all pissed off and starys throwing ****ing **** in my face .. It's not okay and i now feel like I can't hang out with my friends because she doesn't like them.. And believe me I'm not that kind of guy I will hang out with them if I want but the fact that when I do she will bitch and bitch and complain and fight with me all night till she gets off work through text isn't ****ing worth it... I'm so sick of it but I don't wana leave her because other than that our relationship is a good healthy relationship.. It bothers the living **** out of me and I wana know if anyone has had this problem with them before and what happened .. Because likei said I don't wana leave her but this isn't acceptable. I constantly feel like I'm being controlled.. If I wanted to hang with her friends she ****ing loves it but I don't wana hang with her friends I wana hang with mine and because she is ****ing crazy I can't . I just need some friendly feedback . Sorry for ranting I'm just frustrated talking about it Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 In order to be with her, you are going to have to get rid of your friends. That is the only way you're going to have peace with her. Is that something you are willing to do? Is she worth you dismissing your friends of 20 years? Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 When you say you want to go hang with them, do you mean during the afternoon and early evening, or do you mean hanging with them when midnight rolls around? She may be mad in this instance that you want to ring in the New Year with them and not her (although, I can see why you wouldn't want to be around an argumentative harridan). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 Don't do it. Don't become that guy who drops his friends and falls off the face of the earth for a woman. Because, when that woman has crushed everything you are and lost attraction she will leave you for someone else and you won't have GF or friends anymore. what are you supposed to do with your time? Spend every waking minute with her? sit home while she works? women like this are poison to guys. You are 25. The chances of you marrying this girl are slim to none. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sportygirl89 Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 I hated my ex's best friend. Probably a big part of why we aren't dating (though I have strong notions he had everything to do with our break up). Ex's best friend had a bachelors type personality and I hated the way of how he played with girls emotions. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 I feel there is a back story to this. I am against her controlling who your friends should be but at the same time what are those things she is worried about? If my boyfriend used drugs each time he sees his childhood friends or he did stupid things like drink and drive I would absolutely hate he gets together with them. Link to post Share on other sites
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