Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2016 Author Share Posted January 4, 2016 So, like in the end of almost all the other threads you start, what do you want from us? You clearly believe your BF innocent, your friend a skank, yet you want advice? For what? I don't think she's a skank. I think she is troubled. I forgive her. I was very mad at first and people say nasty crap when angry. Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 I only reference my looksbecause creepz like introverted tell me that I am not actually considered attractive or hot. When I know I am in real life. Leigh, please reread what I wrote. I have never said that you are not hot. I actually have no basis for an opinion on this topic, nor any interest in forming one. What I said is that, typically, friends do not refer to each other as hot. I did not at any point proffer an opinion on your looks. I do agree with those who have stated that you have far too much self-worth wrapped up in this notion of hotness, which cannot be objectively determined nor is the most important thing about a person. And I said that you seem more concerned about the opinions of internet strangers regarding your hotness than you do about the betrayal of your bf and/or friend. None of which adds up to challenging your self-perception. I think you need counseling in a big way. Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Then she slumped down on the bed away from him. My bf was contemplating his escape when she slid her back over to him. He got up immediately after that and she said " are you running " As he got up and accused her of being a crappy friend that's when she said "I wasn't trying to hit on you or anything " If it happened that way why is this thread titled your friend tried to have sex with your boyfriend? Looks more like inappropriate behavior but I would not call it 'trying to have sex' with him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Well last time I checked, being 120 isb lbs, 5 foot 6 with 32 DD s and a sticking out butt, WAS universally considered "hot". The vast majority in my real life refer to me as hot. I find it very easy to meet men who think I am really attractive. I get a lot more men thinking I am gorgous than a universal plane jane. All guys have to go by are tiny pictures of my face, not body. I sincerely doubt you can judge that I am a totally plain jane to the vast majority of the population by pictures anyway. It should not be hard to believe that my bf or friend made references to me being hot.... Do you not understand that it is extremely gauche and socially unacceptable to talk nonstop about how hot you think you are and especially comparing other people unfavorably to yourself???:confused: Seriously, Leigh, you have been on here a LONG time, you must notice that not one other person goes on and on about their boobs and butt etc. You should quit it, it makes you look bad when you bring up how amazing you think you look all the time. In the context of this thread - it's not pertinent at all. No matter how hot you are, much more beautiful women than you (I know it's hard to believe but they exist!! ) have been cheated on and done wrong by men. Your earth shatteringly spectacular body won't deter a cheater from cheating. I'm not saying your bf is a cheater or bad in any way, I am just trying to get across to you that how hot you believe yourself to be has NOTHING to do with the incident you wrote this thread about. 10 Link to post Share on other sites
campeo Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 No one questioned your attractiveness. They questioned why being attractive mattered. Why bring it up at all? It is irrelevant to being hot. Halle Berry - cheated on. Elizabeth Hurley - cheated on, and not with someone hot. Jennifer Aniston - cheated on. Yes, it was with Angelina, but Jennifer Aniston is still a 10/10. No one said you are not hot. No one knows. Being hot has nothing to do with whether a man will cheat on you and what happened in that bedroom. Good meaning people have given you advice and everything they say is refuted with "yes, I am hot. I'm so hot men ask me to be in a relationship if I go to the store. My friend is not hot. She's a skank and her body is ugly from giving birth to kids." That type of response has nothing to do with what they were clearly communicating and is completely over the top even in anger and confusion. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 My bf was pretty out of it. He wanted to sleep. He was annoyed that she came in and started talking. My bf is very traditional and straight laced where as my friend is super horny and openly "out there" It's also the temperament of my bf and former friends personalities that influenced by decision. ....... I'm single. If I had a bf who allowed another woman to stay in his bedroom without me present in the room, even if I was in the house at the time, for more than a minute or two at most asking him questions about anything at all I wouldn't stay with the bf. To me, the fact that your bf allowed your friend to stay in the bedroom with him while you weren't there is very concerning and a huge red flag as to his lack of boundaries. Being drunk and sleepy are, to me, not excuses for not asking your friend to leave. He wasn't so drunk that he didn't recall the details of what she asked. Also, to me the photos of yourself you post on LS are attractive. Two things 1. since you've posted attractive photos all can see why do you need to refer to yourself as being hot? 2. if all of us posters could be seen in person I'd be surprised if there aren't some who are super gorgeous, some average and some plain. But, rarely do I read threads and posts here where a poster continues to draw attention to his or her appearance, as you do. I'm not trying to attack you with this because you have endearing qualities that have caused me to like your posts so from all I've read, I have good will toward you. However, you probably don't realize how unusual the amount of your references to your above average looks are. It comes off as making you seem insecure and possibly superficial, when I do believe that you have many talents that put you in a category as someone who should be confident and have depth. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Leigh im not sure if you really are attractive can you explain to us all once more why you are attractive ? Do you have proof ? Can you offer us some official paperwork? Do you think I could possibly be as hot as you one day? will you teach me im your biggest fan! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Halle Berry - cheated on. Elizabeth Hurley - cheated on, and not with someone hot. Jennifer Aniston - cheated on. Yes, it was with Angelina, but Jennifer Aniston is still a 10/10. Add to the list *Sandra Bullock *Reese witherspoon * Eva Langoria * Demi Moore * Sienna Miller * Uma thurman Yep! Leigh: Hot women have all it takes to keep a man from cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Leigh, I wrote and posted my last post before I read the posts before mine referring to your mentioning being hot so often. They were posting while I was writing, I guess. I wouldn't have mentioned the issue in my post had I seen those as I don't want to contribute to piling on you. I'm sorry for the way that played out on this thread. I would only have mentioned that it seems to me your bf may have boundary issues (as explained in my post). Link to post Share on other sites
brakco Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Leigh, can I add a vote for counseling? Clearly, you are very insecure. I get that, I've been there. You really need to stop evaluating your love life based on your figure, boobs, face, whatever. You are more than that. Looks don't last forever. I'm gonna be 35 this year but I'm ok with that because I feel like I look good for my age. That's it. I no longer have the body or face I did ten years ago but what I DO have is experience and a love I could have never imagined in my younger years. I'm not saying I let myself go but I've learned that there is SO much more in life that's not based on looks. 10 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 4, 2016 Author Share Posted January 4, 2016 Please post on topic. I was only mentioned my looks because someone on here told me I was average and alluded to me being delusional. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Please post on topic. I was only mentioned my looks because someone on here told me I was average and alluded to me being delusional. Leigh, perhaps you missed my comment about your bf's seeming lack of boundaries in my post almost right above this one. Link to post Share on other sites
mattelipstick Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Please post on topic. I was only mentioned my looks because someone on here told me I was average and alluded to me being delusional. You started posting about your slim body and your great teeth and big boobs in the 13th post on the very first page. There were only 12 posts before that -- half of them made by you. Not a single person had disparaged or otherwise referenced your looks before that post. Not. One. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Since it seems that posting to help rather that to disparage isn't in the cards tonight we'll close this thread, thanks all who participated and posted to help the OP with the reason she posted this thread. If she would like this thread re-opened then alert on this post and we will do so. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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