nutter78 Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 I was engaged until very recently with my EX and I we broke up because I was sick of his ****! We needed to communicate more, I loved him more than anything! If you want to sort something out with your EX communicate it!! My ex-fiance has gone into non-communication mode. This makes me want him less and less!! How can you have a positive relationship if you can't communicate? It makes NO sense to me. He says he loves me and needs time but doesn't want to lose me. I say PEOPLE don't put up with this ****. You will never have a long term loving relationship with someone who can't deal with conflict with you because conflict WILL happen. MOVE ON!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nutter78 Posted January 2, 2016 Author Share Posted January 2, 2016 (edited) If you love someone, let them know If they hurt you, let them know If you hurt them and am sorry, let them know You are your own worst enemy if you don't communicate! Edited January 2, 2016 by nutter78 Link to post Share on other sites
Wewon Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 I would love to hear the backstory to all of this. Link to post Share on other sites
LilMama1097 Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 My ex is the exact same way. Fkng drive me nuts. Anytime I called him out or said something he didn't like he would completely shut down. DROVE ME NUTS!!! He would flat or refuse to talk. He was so shut down and cold by the time we broke up that I just said "fk it" and avoided him too. 3 weeks later now that there's no pressure on him, he's reaching out, being sweet, wanting to spend time with me. I am thinking I can't handle a grown man that acts like a scared little biotch whenever there's conflict though ya know. I love him so much but he's becoming less attractive to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Samhain Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 I don't see what the issue is with him going into none contact mode if you have broken up. None contact after a break up isn't some ploy to frustrate the other person, it's a coping, moving on mechanism to help the person who chooses it long term. If you want to work through your issues then it might have been easier to "communicate" that to him before ending it. Ending a relationship, in that moment, is a finalization. Not leverage. It will also be incredibly difficult to have a long term loving relationship with somebody who ends things with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 Welcome to venting 101! Wow, much can be said of the language of love, speaking ill isn't one of them. Yes Nc works particularly for the person who needs to remove themselves from a volatile relationship. Sincerely hope you gather support thru this, sounds like you are hurting... Link to post Share on other sites
D.r.e Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 I was engaged until very recently with my EX and I we broke up because I was sick of his ****! We needed to communicate more, I loved him more than anything! If you want to sort something out with your EX communicate it!! My ex-fiance has gone into non-communication mode. This makes me want him less and less!! How can you have a positive relationship if you can't communicate? It makes NO sense to me. He says he loves me and needs time but doesn't want to lose me. I say PEOPLE don't put up with this ****. You will never have a long term loving relationship with someone who can't deal with conflict with you because conflict WILL happen. MOVE ON!!! NC isn't for your benefit. It's for his. You dumped him. How can you have a positive relationship when you are no longer in a relationship? You wanted him to communicate more and thought he would if you broke it off? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
goldway90 Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 How can you have a positive relationship if you can't give the other person a time to breath and the space to figure things out? I can see you're very angry which is okay, but you have to respect his decision, he wants space and told you so that's communication, he said also he doesn't want to lose you so chill. Link to post Share on other sites
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