Kelsy Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 Hi Long story short. Dumper wanted a fresh start and we started seeing each other. We were ok but then he ignored my call. 2 days later I asked if he wants to quit? He said he was out of town and couldn´t talk. I am a little confused here now. Is he scared to tell me he does want to quit or is he confused or something? Link to post Share on other sites
goldway90 Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 Not really, he was busy that's why he couldn't talk. You're acting a bit needy it won't end well. I know you're afraid of him leaving but you'll have to take it slow, let him come to you instead of CHASING. Link to post Share on other sites
11012015 Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 Hi Long story short. Dumper wanted a fresh start and we started seeing each other. We were ok but then he ignored my call. 2 days later I asked if he wants to quit? He said he was out of town and couldn´t talk. I am a little confused here now. Is he scared to tell me he does want to quit or is he confused or something? He wanted a fresh start. You worrying about this incident seems like you are still carrying worries of the past into this new fresh start. The only way this try will succeed is if both of you mean that - the fresh start. Considering (or assuming) these 2 days were around NYE (busy period where people may visit parents, travel, etc.) I wouldn't worry about this. You shouldn't have said anything about quitting. Try to relax and think about how you can make this better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kelsy Posted January 3, 2016 Author Share Posted January 3, 2016 He is so distant. I´am afraid I ruined my chance. If he does contact me should I let him initiate first contacts and let him chase me or should it be 50/50? I thought it´s easier but I understand we both are feeling different emotions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kelsy Posted January 5, 2016 Author Share Posted January 5, 2016 I haven´t heard from him in 5 days. Should I just wait? Link to post Share on other sites
goldway90 Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 I haven´t heard from him in 5 days. Should I just wait? Yes, let him do the chasing. Go with your girlfriends and enjoy your time. Think about it if you contact him and he's busy what would he think? " she's so needy, she can't give me space to breath...." this is how you ruin your chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kelsy Posted January 8, 2016 Author Share Posted January 8, 2016 Still nothing How come he wanted to try again but hasn't contacted me? How long should I wait? Is it normal? Link to post Share on other sites
DrMario Posted January 8, 2016 Share Posted January 8, 2016 5 days without contact isn't exactly the freshest start you can make, leave it another few days and ask him if he has had a change of heart, in my experience, I had a fresh start with my ex a few months a go, nothing changed though and inevitably it ended a few months after, I believe both parties have to work really hard when it comes to a fresh start, sadly, I tried and she didn't, seems like your in a similar situation, nothing wrong with expecting to hear back from him. Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted January 8, 2016 Share Posted January 8, 2016 OP, what do you want? Sit back and observe...do you like this behavior or not? If you don't like how you're being treated and he's not meeting YOUR needs, move on. You get to decide how people treat you and what kind of person YOU want to date. I don't understand sitting around waiting on someone who isn't meeting your needs. He doesn't hold all the power here. Link to post Share on other sites
ExtraSpice Posted January 8, 2016 Share Posted January 8, 2016 He is the one who wanted a fresh start and he was the dumper so he does need to put the effort in. My advice is the same as others, if he is not meeting your needs, if it seems as though he is not putting the effort in then you can opt to move on. Not calling for 5+ days is a little strange. Not even a text? I would say either just move on or make it clear to him that this is not acceptable. You are the one with the power in this situation. Link to post Share on other sites
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