itsdinaah Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Just wondering in general. I'm starting to hate texting and it seems like the guys I talk to only text. How can I get them to call instead of text? Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 you tell them to call you instead of text... 7 Link to post Share on other sites
notinept Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Text him "call me" and then 'train' him/them like 'pavlovs dog' by making it rewarding to call you (always answer your phone) and then to drive the point home - only sporadically/unpredictably respond to texts. I prefer phone calls myself (I'm a guy) because I hate the impersonal text message crap, but when I recently started dating a girl I could never get her on the phone so I tried texting her and got her almost everytime and almost immediately ... so guess what I do now ? I don't call anymore, I just text ! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 I had a problem like this once. I hate texting and dropped an explicit hint that I'd like him to call but he never followed through. He would always do things on his terms. Later I dated a guy who was happy to oblige when I said I liked phone calls. I was an idiot with him and not ready for a good guy when he was standing right in front of me. Anyway this kind of thing is a good way to sort out the wheat from the chaff. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Tell him that you don't like texting and prefer phone conversations. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
11012015 Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Just wondering in general. I'm starting to hate texting and it seems like the guys I talk to only text. How can I get them to call instead of text? Text "Call me" every time he asks you a question or tries to have a small talk. And when he says "Why are you doing this?" you again text "Call me." 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BettyDraper Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 "I prefer talking on the phone to texting. Call me so I can hear your sexy voice." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 don't text him back. Call him. If it goes to voicemail, tell him you prefer talking and will not respond to his texts. When enough of his texts go unanswered, he will learn to dial your number. If he doesn't, do you really want a guy who is more into a power struggle over communication than he is communicating with you verbally? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
IronZ Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Girls do this too unfortunately. Even when I ask them to call me they text instead or when I call they won't pick up. It's just easier for a lot of people to text. Link to post Share on other sites
PPan Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 I hate talking on the phone. I find it rather silly to be on the train or whatever and getting a phone call from a girl and having to be charming and funny and what not with everyone listening to my conversation. I end up conversations on purpose, lying that I've reached my destination or that I have another important call I need to take. I only like to text. Its cheap/free, its quick, saves up a lot of time and allows me to get off from having to have a conversation besides setting up the time and place to hang out at and when. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
IronZ Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 I hate talking on the phone. I find it rather silly to be on the train or whatever and getting a phone call from a girl and having to be charming and funny and what not with everyone listening to my conversation. I end up conversations on purpose, lying that I've reached my destination or that I have another important call I need to take. I only like to text. Its cheap/free, its quick, saves up a lot of time and allows me to get off from having to have a conversation besides setting up the time and place to hang out at and when. You can get around that by planning ahead. Tell her when you're going to call or when she should call. So you're not in a bad place. When you text you have to be charming and funny 24/7. Did you think of that? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PPan Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 You can get around that by planning ahead. Tell her when you're going to call or when she should call. So you're not in a bad place. When you text you have to be charming and funny 24/7. Did you think of that? Yeah, but the difference is that when I text I can go onto the internet, google something funny and charming and not have to put an effort into impressing her, but if the girl calls me without warning me, and I'm on the train or with my friends, I don't have the necessary time to google for stuff to impress her, and I'm really not too much keen on putting an effort to impress her. oh, I can do it. I can be quite naturally charming and come up with stuff that belongs to me. I just don't feel like taking part in that. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 I hate talking on the phone. I find it rather silly to be on the train or whatever and getting a phone call from a girl and having to be charming and funny and what not with everyone listening to my conversation. I end up conversations on purpose, lying that I've reached my destination or that I have another important call I need to take. I only like to text. Its cheap/free, its quick, saves up a lot of time and allows me to get off from having to have a conversation besides setting up the time and place to hang out at and when. You lie about stuff like this? How about saying "I'm on the train right now, I will call you back when I get in" Lying to people never ends well. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PPan Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 You lie about stuff like this? How about saying "I'm on the train right now, I will call you back when I get in" Lying to people never ends well. Yeah, but then I have to call them back, and I don't want to. By saying I have another important call I need to take, or that I am about to get to my stop, I get breathing room and I can move the conversation back to text messages. ''hey, I appreciate the time you took to call me. So, how about meeting with me next week blabalbla'' then I make up the excuse of not being able to communicate until next week, when we meet, because I'm too busy. I'm not, really. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jammer25 Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Shorter calls are fine for me, but I do prefer texting in general. Longer conversations, I will almost always want to just meet in person. I like being face-to-face with a woman/girlfriend if we'll be chatting for a while. It adds atmosphere, body language and physical company rather than just a voice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Texting is the EPITOME of lame and lazy. What would these fools have done 15 years ago when people didn't have their cell phones embedded in their palms and had to actually make the effort to CALL someone? If you're meeting lazy asses that have no clue how to interact via VOICE, pass them by. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Texting is the EPITOME of lame and lazy. I would say texting too much shows fear of communication. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PPan Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Texting is the EPITOME of lame and lazy. What would these fools have done 15 years ago when people didn't have their cell phones embedded in their palms and had to actually make the effort to CALL someone? If you're meeting lazy asses that have no clue how to interact via VOICE, pass them by. Not really, no. I'm not lazy and lame. I mean, for the life of me I'm still a bad cook, so I guess I'm lame in that regard, but I do play sports with my friends at least 3 times a week. I go out with them and hit the clubs even when I'm tired and sleepy. I would hardly call myself lazy. I simply do not like to talk on the phone. Why spend an hour or even ''just'' 30 minutes on the phone when I can easily send a text message that will display my intentions. ''meet me at x place at x day and x hour.'' If she wants to talk, sure. We can talk while hanging out. Other than that - calling on the phone? Nah, don't have the patience for that. Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Not really, no. I'm not lazy and lame. I mean, for the life of me I'm still a bad cook, so I guess I'm lame in that regard, but I do play sports with my friends at least 3 times a week. I go out with them and hit the clubs even when I'm tired and sleepy. I would hardly call myself lazy. I simply do not like to talk on the phone. Why spend an hour or even ''just'' 30 minutes on the phone when I can easily send a text message that will display my intentions. ''meet me at x place at x day and x hour.'' If she wants to talk, sure. We can talk while hanging out. Other than that - calling on the phone? Nah, don't have the patience for that. gosh... is it getting hot in here? so much romanticism! Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 (edited) Not really, no. I'm not lazy and lame. I mean, for the life of me I'm still a bad cook, so I guess I'm lame in that regard, but I do play sports with my friends at least 3 times a week. I go out with them and hit the clubs even when I'm tired and sleepy. I would hardly call myself lazy. I simply do not like to talk on the phone. Why spend an hour or even ''just'' 30 minutes on the phone when I can easily send a text message that will display my intentions. ''meet me at x place at x day and x hour.'' If she wants to talk, sure. We can talk while hanging out. Other than that - calling on the phone? Nah, don't have the patience for that. I think what LG meant was that you are *emotionally lazy*. Newsflash -- most women need to communicate *between* dates to keep the connection alive ...for them. I realize you and many men don't-- men are naturally more autonomous -- I get that. But if you limit your communication to whenever you get together, which it sounds like for you is not that often anyway ...or brief impersonal texts, don't be surprised if she loses the connection and/or gets turned off ...and starts dating someone else....who isn't as fearful of emotional connections as you are..... ETA -- your moniker suits you by the way! :) Edited January 3, 2016 by katiegrl 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PPan Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 gosh... is it getting hot in here? so much romanticism! lol, I'm interested in women who are my equals, and not in damsels in distress. Romance was created by chauvinistic men who wanted to put women down by treating women like they needed to be wined, and dined, and had books and poetry writen for them Link to post Share on other sites
PPan Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 I think what LG meant was that you are *emotionally lazy*. Newsflash -- most women need to communicate *between* dates to keep the connection alive ...for them. I realize you and many men don't-- men are naturally more autonomous -- I get that. But if you limit your communication to whenever you get together, which it sounds like for you is not that often anyway ...or brief impersonal texts, don't be surprised if she loses the connection and/or gets turned off ...and starts dating someone else....who isn't as fearful of emotional connections as you are..... ETA -- your moniker suits you by the way! :) Oh, I see. Well, I'm talking to several women at the same time, and I can't really remember what I say to one girl, and what I say to the next girl. My best course of action is to keep the communication to a minimum level. I provide that emotional connection during the time we hang out, but before that I can't really afford the time or the money(i can afford the money, I just don't like to waste money lol) needed to keep all of these ''emotional connections'' going. If the girl is into me she'll say to herself that I'm too busy to talk much. If she is not much into me, she can move on. It doesn't bother me either way. Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 lol, I'm interested in women who are my equals, and not in damsels in distress. Romance was created by chauvinistic men who wanted to put women down by treating women like they needed to be wined, and dined, and had books and poetry writen for them mentions chauvinistic men, talks about equality, and admits to lying to women because he doesn't want to talk to them... ok! not gonna derail this thread anymore. I'm out. Link to post Share on other sites
PPan Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 mentions chauvinistic men, talks about equality, and admits to lying to women because he doesn't want to talk to them... ok! not gonna derail this thread anymore. I'm out. Its completely different, bro. I believe in equality. I believe women can pay for themselves and that they don't need all this dramatic display of emotion that many guys put on a show, to try and impress women. i feel like a guy is trying to buy a woman when he offers her gifts, is romantic and all that creepy stuff. I don't lie to women. I used to be honest and tell women I couldn't talk much because I was chatting several other women at the same time. That resulted in me getting 'dumped' and having to go out and meet other women . Nowadays I just keep what I'm doing to myself. Works a lot better that way. Can't blame a guy for wanting to get laid, now can ya? The more girls I talk to the higher the chances are I'm going to get laid, and if I talk to several girls I can get laid when the girl I'm seeing has an headache or something. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 Oh, I see. Well, I'm talking to several women at the same time, and I can't really remember what I say to one girl, and what I say to the next girl. My best course of action is to keep the communication to a minimum level. I provide that emotional connection during the time we hang out, but before that I can't really afford the time or the money(i can afford the money, I just don't like to waste money lol) needed to keep all of these ''emotional connections'' going. If the girl is into me she'll say to herself that I'm too busy to talk much. **If she is not much into me, she can move on. It doesn't bother me either way**. LOL....thank you, I rest my case! You are emotionally unavailable..... good luck with that. :bunny: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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