His Family is Harassing Me

[MeAgain]

If you look into my post history you'll see that I sold my home and broke up with the man I was with. His mother and aunt have since taken to stalking wherever I may be online (genealogy sites and pinterest as an example) and because I have blocked them from contacting me on Facebook they've taken to harassing my friends, colleagues and family.

 

 

Nothing threatening but just filthy and very trashy talk. They definitely aren't helping their cause as they look nuts (they are which is why I left). This man I left and I are both 41 years old!!! He quit his job because he was distraught over me leaving him and he's probably moved in with his parents in another province. In reality, he is a mooch, a liar and had zero ambition or work ethic. He is also a filthy pig hygiene-wise and totally enabled by his family.

 

 

So now that his mother and aunt have taken to harassing me through people I know, my BIL and sister seem to think that I should not give it too much weight and they are a little pissed off at me for being as angry as I am. I have NOT engaged in any way. I worry that this is going to continue as his aunt already has one harassment charge from another woman and I've heard them boast in the past of harassing other people. This is what they do.

 

 

How the hell do I cope with this? I find them utterly trashy and they've made him and themselves look like fools, but I'm on pins and needles waiting for the next embarrassing attack. I'm embarrassed because I am connected to them and have to explain who these people are to others.

 

 

When does it become criminal harassment? It's been going on since December 7th.

[whichwayisup]

I'd go to your local police station and let them know what's been going on just so they have it on file. Ask if there's anything you can do to make them stop harassing your family online. And to hope that his family doesn't do something stupid and start approaching your family face to face....

[MeAgain]

Thanks for your input, I deeply appreciate it. I was thinking of calling them but to be honest am embarrassed to! This is so juvenile and yet it is scary in that they have no lives. I'm afraid that since I committed a cardinal sin and broke it off with him I am going to be a target for a while even if I and others they target that I know never respond. So I think I have to at least speak to police. Mentioning that one of the nutters already was charged with harassment by another person might help speed up things, who knows.

[d0nnivain]

In light of the fact that one of them has a previous charge for harassment, yes I think you should report them. However, since they are targeting your family members, unless those folks complain, there may be little the police can do. I'd follow your family's advice & ignore them.

[MeAgain]

Going to police today. Donnivain, under the criminal code (Section 264(2)) of Canada, contacting third parties as a means to get to me is criminal harassment and I am the target so it is me that has to file.

 

 

These people are so full of vitriol. The level of dysfunction in this family is without words. I couldn't adequately explain it to the police so I am just taking the file with me to show them.

[whichwayisup]

Thanks for your input, I deeply appreciate it. I was thinking of calling them but to be honest am embarrassed to! This is so juvenile and yet it is scary in that they have no lives. I'm afraid that since I committed a cardinal sin and broke it off with him I am going to be a target for a while even if I and others they target that I know never respond. So I think I have to at least speak to police. Mentioning that one of the nutters already was charged with harassment by another person might help speed up things, who knows.

 

Best thing to do is talk to the cops, see what they suggest, maybe get a lawyer to send out an official letter telling them to stop the harassment and if they don't stop they will be penalized. ? I don't know how that works or if it's possible since the threats have just been online. Either way, don't write or call them personally, all that will do is feed their fire.

[NewLeaf512]

Please go to the police. Nothing is likely to happen but if it does get to your place of business you have a documented history.

 

(Aside) how do you know if someone is stalking you on Pinterest?

[MeAgain]

Best thing to do is talk to the cops, see what they suggest, maybe get a lawyer to send out an official letter telling them to stop the harassment and if they don't stop they will be penalized. ? I don't know how that works or if it's possible since the threats have just been online. Either way, don't write or call them personally, all that will do is feed their fire.

 

 

Oh no, I would not call them or write them. As far as I'm concerned, since they feel their behavior is normal, there just isn't a bridge wide enough to cross the divide. I spoke to police and they made the call. So I have been told by 3rd parties that they were very upset that I did that. I couldn't care less. I asked for help by police because I wanted for them to stop. I wasn't interested in pressing charges and couldn't do so now anyway since there hasn't been a sufficient amount of time to establish a pattern of harassment for it to be considered "Criminal Harassment". They are at the line about to cross into that and by having the police speak to them it will make pressing charges much easier if they don't heed their warning.

 

 

I can recall like it was yesterday when they were fighting with the psycho sister in law (who is her best friend now, but who the mother still trashes behind her back), she would harass her too. Well, to be fair, they both harassed each other. I'm not made of that kind of material. I just think it's undignified behavior and I'd be embarrassed to act that way. The aunt was charged for criminal harassment by someone else 2 years ago. And I remember everyone gloating about harassing a man that left another aunt, who committed suicide due to serious issues of addiction and mental disorder. None of them have jobs so it's easy for them to get bored and take out their collective anger at life on someone else. This time it was me, but no more. I will not tolerate their bull****.

 

 

Feeling strong today for doing something about them. Not gloating, but happy to have handed their asses back to them after what they tried to do. They have gotten away with this kind of insanity for too long and I won't be their victim.

[MeAgain]

Please go to the police. Nothing is likely to happen but if it does get to your place of business you have a documented history.

 

(Aside) how do you know if someone is stalking you on Pinterest?

 

The aunt basically admitted to it in her email to my sister. I have some boards that are private and I have not invited anyone to them. Some of them contain pretty hilarious memes about in-laws and break ups. I do it because it relieves some stress through laughter. I don't share them and I don't post them elsewhere. For my eyes only. So she admitted that they could see my stuff on Pinterest, which means they only could have if they hacked into my account (which is easy to do for my ex since he could've guessed my password).

 

 

Yes, it was the mother that went to a colleague and harassed her until she had to block her. That was my last straw. Stupid of her because I now have witnesses and written proof.