Married women/GF going clubbing...is it wrong?

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But then the analog here would be that men shouldn't go on business trips because it's an opportunity to cheat. And yet no one would suggest such a thing.

 

The point, I think, is that people who want to cheat - men OR women - will find a way to do it, and being draconian about clubbing isn't going to solve a thing. I think that's realistic, not naive.

 

The fact is that there's a double standard here, no question.

 

I never said men shouldn't go on business trips but I try to be understanding of women who have experienced or witnessed cheating who expresses their trust issue in a way that isn't hateful. I don't think it is good to just jump down their throat and call them misandrists like guys with trust issues are called misogynists. Attacking people is not the way to win hearts and minds. I said myself I don't care if my wife goes out with her friends because I trust her. When a woman cheats there comes a distance between you and her that any man who is aware should be able to pick up on.

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But then the analog here would be that men shouldn't go on business trips because it's an opportunity to cheat. And yet no one would suggest such a thing.

 

The point, I think, is that people who want to cheat - men OR women - will find a way to do it, and being draconian about clubbing isn't going to solve a thing. I think that's realistic, not naive.

 

The fact is that there's a double standard here, no question.

 

Well, I believe most people do not believe in a double standard. Both men and women go on business trips... but they don't specifically go there to pick up the other. But when you go clubbing a lot do. Kinda like going on a dating site to see what's there... oh no, I'm "not going to pick up someone".... just looking. Yea!

 

ANYONE will cheat in the right situation, and about half of them do. They don't necessarily start out with the intention of cheating... but end up there. Just read the OW/OM posts and you'll understand.

 

And it's not about "trusting" your SO, it's about doing everything you can to promote your good relationship with them, and having boundaries. I would think that most couples that want to stay together would do that.