Letmeknow Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 (edited) Backdrop - Grew up in the same town, dated high school into college (first love), & both 22. This scares me and makes me afraid and I fear to the point where I remember everything that occurred and start crying. I haven't talked to this girl since two years ago when she broke my heart and starting dating another man. I also have not experienced love with anyone else since her (which causes my emotions to be more dramatic) There was so many things that were ****** up during the breakup. I thought I had moved on until I recognized she unblocked me and I saw her profile. Why would she unblock me and why is this affecting me so much? Edited January 4, 2016 by Letmeknow Add last sentence Link to post Share on other sites
Nickr3023 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Backdrop - Grew up in the same town, dated high school into college (first love), & both 22. This scares me and makes me afraid and I fear to the point where I remember everything that occurred and start crying. I haven't talked to this girl since two years ago when she broke my heart and starting dating another man. I also have not experienced love with anyone else since her (which causes my emotions to be more dramatic) There was so many things that were ****** up during the breakup. I thought I had moved on until I recognized she unblocked me and I saw her profile. Why would she unblock me and why is this affecting me so much? Block her to solve that problem. It's perfectly normal to have some sort of feeling after not seeing someone for a very long time. I'm sure it'll pass just as quickly as long as you've addressed and faced the problems that happen after a breakup. The self esteem issues and the depression/anxiety. If those things are still a problem, I'd suggest talking to someone professionally so they can help you through it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Letmeknow Posted January 4, 2016 Author Share Posted January 4, 2016 "Addressed and faced the problems" I thought I had done this, but it appears I have not. I don't believe I should break out randomly in tears because of this but I am. I have not had depression/self-esteem issues for at least a year now. But now, I feel unwanted, unloved and semi-depressed. It's like I'm back to the state I was a few months after the break-up. Hopefully this is temporary?? And are you sure I should block her? Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Question - how would you know that she unblocked you? Were you routinely checking on her profile? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Letmeknow Posted January 4, 2016 Author Share Posted January 4, 2016 No, I do not routinely check her profile. Mutual Friends tagged me in a facebook picture and she liked it. I noticed she liked it and was shocked. Link to post Share on other sites
Nickr3023 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 No, I do not routinely check her profile. Mutual Friends tagged me in a facebook picture and she liked it. I noticed she liked it and was shocked. Yes without question block her! Think about the feelings you got just from seeing her name popping up. When just someone's name brings out such negative emotions, you need to get that person out of your life completely. I know what you're going through. My girlfriend of 9 years cheated on me in 2010 and we broke up in 2012. I too thought I was over the depression, anxiety, and self esteem problems....until this past year when I was in another toxic relationship that ended with her cheating on me. So that depression, anxiety, and self esteem issues all came back in full force, which means I never properly dealt with them the first time around. I've now started counseling and am going to give anti-depressants a try as my counselor recommended it. At 33, I've realized that I need to take control of my life which it seems I haven't been in control of in a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Letmeknow Posted January 4, 2016 Author Share Posted January 4, 2016 (edited) Yes without question block her! Think about the feelings you got just from seeing her name popping up. When just someone's name brings out such negative emotions, you need to get that person out of your life completely. I know what you're going through. My girlfriend of 9 years cheated on me in 2010 and we broke up in 2012. I too thought I was over the depression, anxiety, and self esteem problems....until this past year when I was in another toxic relationship that ended with her cheating on me. So that depression, anxiety, and self esteem issues all came back in full force, which means I never properly dealt with them the first time around. I've now started counseling and am going to give anti-depressants a try as my counselor recommended it. At 33, I've realized that I need to take control of my life which it seems I haven't been in control of in a long time. Okay, I blocked her. I definitely feel better now knowing I won't be able to see her on Facebook anymore. Is counseling the only way to "take control" of my life and get over the depression, anxiety, and self-esteem issues permanently (it feels like these issues are just tamed and they come roaring back at the least opportune times) ? Edited January 4, 2016 by Letmeknow Grammar Link to post Share on other sites
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