inhighwater Posted June 3, 2005 Share Posted June 3, 2005 Names are changed for privacy. I met Harry early last year and we hit it off great. He told me that he had this friend out west that was just like a little sister to him. Harry had told me that they met online and she lives around 900 miles away. He said at first they both thought that they may be meant for each other but after a little while of thinking things over they both agreed that they were just met to be friends. Like a brother and sister kind of thing. Harry didn't want to move out west and he had everything going for him here and she didn't want to move out east and she had everything going for her there. Plus, Sarah (that is what we will call this girl) likes to live in big cities and Harry doesn't want to live in ANY place that they call a city. Harry and Sarah did say that they would like to meet in person someday but till this day they have not met in person. Well, Harry met me and he told Sarah that we were boyfriend and girlfriend but was not for sure since our relationship was so new at the time if it would end up being more or not. Harry later on introduced me to Sarah online and her and I started chatting on a regular basis without Harry being around as well as him and her continued to chat on a regular basis with and without me being around. Well, Sarah started to get a very busy schedule and sometime last fall Harry talked to her and said that Harry and I were getting closer. Come the end of the year, Harry asked me to marry him. One night Harry and I were on the computer and one of Sarah's family members comes on line and we were under Harry's screen name and he starts talking to Sarah's FM and they asked him when he was going to come out west to visit them and he told them that he had got a new job. So he had no vacation time and that he needed this new job for more money because he needed to by a house to start his own family. Sarah's family member told him he didn't need a house. And then Sarah's family member went on to ask "what family". And he told them that he wanted to tell Sarah himself about that we were going to get married. Well, sometime a days later Harry and I were online under his screen name again and Sarah came online and she Instant Messaged him and he told her that him and I were getting married and Sarah went OFF! She said something like, "You don't need enemies if you have friends" (You know that saying!). Then Sarah went on to say to Harry that their friendship between him and her will never be the same. Harry is not mad at me just confused of why Sarah is acting this way and I am confused to. I need help! I feel as if I have destroyed a good brother-like and sister-like friendship even though I don't think I ever said or did anything to try and destroy it. Will I ever be able to get her to come around and talk to him on a regular basis again? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 3, 2005 Share Posted June 3, 2005 Sarah was interested in more than 'friends'. I don't think it could be any more apparent. You and your stbH will have to cut her off and put her in your past. You can't fix a friendship with someone who never really had 'just friends' in mind to begin with. You will be able to repair that "brother/sister" relationship only if you break the engagement, cancel the wedding and remove yourself from the equation. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 3, 2005 Share Posted June 3, 2005 Originally posted by inhighwater Will I ever be able to get her to come around and talk to him on a regular basis again? I think the ball is very much in her court. And to be frank, it's as likely as not that she was holding a candle for him, so you may be better off with her out of the frame for the time being. Link to post Share on other sites
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