jerrygordon3 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 So ive obviously posted about this person before. We both are inseparable but there have been major trespasses. we broke up after a year. we got back together and she had a relationship the two months we were apart. I'm familiar with narcism. We do fight a lot but again we are super attached and constantly together. when we got back together she continued seeing the other person and lied and hurt me. i caught her multiple times but she had gotten pregnant with his kid on accident and felt this attachment to him. she works with then guy, its a bad environment and she has seemingly finally come to realize that he is super wrong for her and she wants to be with me. after I caught her with him multiple times i started dating other women and she found out as we were still lightly dating. she has been super warm and loving lately, for the most part. but no charades. there are still issues with arguing and its not all rainbows, but she seems very legit this time and says she knows what she wants and what she doesn't want and she wants us to give it a final shot with no bull****. she isn't talking to anyone anymore, and she wants me to be the same way. my concern is that she has said this all before and still kept seeing him. i am for my own reason giving her another chance but i worry that this warm loving stuff is going to end again and she is going to go back to this other sort of phase she has. essentially i feel like I'm being reeled back in and she is just going to get me where she wants me and then she's going to start being cold again and distant and confused. this time it does feel like she is finally ready and stuff. things feel different this time. but i worry that she has a mental issue because she can flip between this loving person, to someone who is irrational and will just sort of turn on me. this hasn't been the case in almost a month now but.. its happened before and I'm not sure... like is she a split personality narcissist trying to reel me in or after three months of her being confused is she finally ready. I worry and I've told her this and she says she understands, she cried and talked about how she hates the guy, her job, and how she's acted and knows how good I am to her and I am to her daughter and she wants to focus and be around good supportive people and that she can only show me with her actions because her word is shot to hell. i find myself letting walls down again and I'm slowly stopping my contact with the other women i was talking to from tinder. i just don't want to get fooled again but she seems serious.. I just have seen this before but... this time it does seem much different. she isn;t just saying it, she's acting the part. does it seem to you guys that she was maybe just confused, or that she is just a narcissistic manipulator trying to reel me in. one thing that worries me too, is the coworker she was seeing is gone on vacation and has been for some time. i feel like we have something really special and we both have put up with a lot from each other. I haven't been a walk in the park either, but do people change. or does it all seem like a game. Link to post Share on other sites
BadMistakes Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Sounds like my ex at the moment, except I think shes's been doing stuff but I haven't got a way of finding out really... my advice to you is forget about it, you don't need someone like that and if you have narcissism yourself sort that out for when you start a new relationship. I am hurting myself and you know now I think if things are meant to be then they will be... Link to post Share on other sites
goldway90 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 She just a liar, dishonest person ( let's stay out of narcissism and mental disorders for a moment) but the question are you out of your mind? why would wanna give her another chance? Cut this woman out of your life honestly, you deserve better that this. She's not going to change and you can't fix her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
phenix Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 Don't you have any kind of dignity and self respect? Really that's the girl you've chosen? Wow... Run and never look back. Link to post Share on other sites
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