gasbagy Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 Hey guys, I was just wondering. If you want to reconcile and your ex thinks it can't and won't work. And doesn't want to reconcile... What is better getting breadcrumbs with her checking up on you from not initiating contact (limited contact). Or ending up getting totally blocked in everything by your ex and some of her friends and family beginning to block and unfriend you as well. Backstory: I love the girl but I want more than friendship when she said the relationship wouldn't work so I tried no contact/limited contact. She went to checking up on me and not really being that interested to eventually blocking me I assume when she realized I wasn't interested in being friends. As far as the block is concerned. I believe it arose as a counter block towards me. She was flirting and talking with other guys on skype and missmessaged me a game invite and removed the message that she sent to me. I was sad and upset about it so the next day I blocked her on skype so I'd "dissappear" and she could miss me. 2 weeks later hearing nothing from her on fb she ended up blocking me. (Oh and I had deleted her as a friend on fb a while ago when I realized she wasn't coming back to me just fyi) Then two weeks later for my birthday she messaged me a happy birthday on snapchat (something I never use) and I thanked her. The next day I snapped to her that I loved her. Then that night she said she can't contact me anymore. I asked for one last call and she said "No I'm sorry." After posting a snapchat story with our mutual friend I found she blocked me the next day. So that's a full out block. Now some of her friends and family are starting to block or delete me on fb as well. On the bright side She can start missing me right?? Since she can't contact me or see me or anything. That's what I've been reading that is supposed to be my goal. I think she knew I wasn't strong enough to block her and I was hurting really bad so she took it upon herself to cut off our contact. I had blocked and unblocked her on skype and fb as well but couldn't and unblocked her because I missed and loved her too much. There's alot more to this story including long distance international relationship, fiance visa, called off wedding a week before the date, offer for "compromise," homesickness, not "in love" with you but just work on being a lover not a friend don't worry nothing to worry about, etc. I guess I could go into it if you guys need more info, but that's the jist of it. Bread crumbs friendship??? OR Nuclear blockage Texas stand off as far as reconciliation. Thank you for your thoughts, advice and stories. Gasbagy Link to post Share on other sites
Erik30 Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 Bread crumbs will hurt you more because in most cases you'll probably be holding on to some false hope. You won't be able to move on. If an ex blocks you and there's no way to contact them, it's very painful in the beginning, but you'll recover much faster in the end. So blocking is better, even though you'll hate it when it happpens. In your case you're still thinking about No Contact as a way to get back together. Sure, she might start to miss you, change her mind and want you back. But it's also very possible that you'll never hear from her again, because she just doesn't care that much about you. (Romantically) She was also the one who did the blocking, so it's her choice not to be in contact with you. At least at this point she wants to be friends only, and probably blocked you because you kept trying to get her back after she made it clear that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Link to post Share on other sites
goldway90 Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 Too much drama, you said you don't want friendship so act like it and go on dates with other girls. NC isn't a game to make people miss you, it's about moving on. If this girl wants to be with you she will find a way to do so. Stop contacting her and stop caring about social media. Link to post Share on other sites
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