Author ScienceGal Posted January 6, 2016 Author Share Posted January 6, 2016 Oh, what the hell do I have to lose?! I sent the request. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 6, 2016 Author Share Posted January 6, 2016 And... He accepted it immediately. ? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ZHguy Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 (edited) And... He accepted it immediately. �� I am so happy for you. By the way I just wanted to let you know, that this is a rare occasion in history. Good luck Edited January 6, 2016 by ZHguy Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 If you had Facebook in high school and college you will have a lot of Facebook friends. Trying to count people's Facebook friends and reach a conclusion about their personality like that is pretty meaningless. Agreed - I have a very large # of FB friends because I was on IRC and message boards before FB existed, and all those people transferred to FB friends. Doesn't mean anything other than I am old. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 And... He accepted it immediately. ? Well - at least now you can stalk him and learn more about whether he is as interesting as he first seemed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 6, 2016 Author Share Posted January 6, 2016 I am so happy for you. By the way I just wanted to let you know, that this is a rare occasion in history. Good luck Thanks. Except, there's still the issue of him not seeing my message. So, I don't know how to get in touch with him if he doesn't get Facebook messages. Link to post Share on other sites
ZHguy Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 (edited) Thanks. Except, there's still the issue of him not seeing my message. So, I don't know how to get in touch with him if he doesn't get Facebook messages. Don't worry, just give him your number, and then let it flow from there. Everything will turn out great. Edited January 6, 2016 by ZHguy Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 6, 2016 Author Share Posted January 6, 2016 My friend, who also does not do messenger, said she only gets messages when she logs in to Facebook from a computer. So, I'm going to wait for him to see the initial message I sent. Hopefully, my friend request will get his wheels turning and it will occur to him that he should check his messages! :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 7, 2016 Author Share Posted January 7, 2016 He still has not read the message from Tuesday. The only way I can communicate with him is directly on his wall. I am not going to share my phone number publicly. I "liked" something he posted, but that's really all I can do. I thought he would check his messages, or want to send me one if he's interested. Oh well. It's a dead end for now. Link to post Share on other sites
TheArtist Posted January 7, 2016 Share Posted January 7, 2016 Hey, don't get downhearted, he accepted your friendship and that's a good start. Just keep an eye on it and see what happens. We're all rooting for you here! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZHguy Posted January 7, 2016 Share Posted January 7, 2016 I say you should go all in again. Give him another message. After that, if there's no response... then you'll know it's a dead end. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 8, 2016 Author Share Posted January 8, 2016 I messaged again, and it is listed as "sent", which from what I understand is one step below "delivered". Link to post Share on other sites
bluestealth Posted January 8, 2016 Share Posted January 8, 2016 It's possible your first message went into the "filtered" folder since you weren't friends yet. Now that you've sent another message being connected as friends it should go through. It might not show delivered until he logs into FB again. Just be patient 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 8, 2016 Author Share Posted January 8, 2016 He wrote back. He had not seen the message I sent before we were "friends". He replied to what I had initially sent and said "nice to meet you :)". He didn't ask any questions though… I am not good at being the aggressor. But, it was late when he saw the messages and wrote back, so maybe he will send something else. At least I got my foot in the door Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 8, 2016 Author Share Posted January 8, 2016 We're messaging back and forth. He seems really nice. Had a ~7 year relationship end in 2015 though. We'll see where it goes. If nothing else, I've connected with a nice person. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 17, 2016 Author Share Posted January 17, 2016 I decided I am not going to be the aggressor. Each time I have "chased" someone, it's never worked out. What this means in this situation is, I was forward with messaging in the beginning, but now have backed off. We seem to connect, which is great. He seems receptive, but doesn't exactly keep the conversation going. I mentioned that we should grab a drink some time. He agreed, but never followed up. Instead, he invited me to a public group event via Facebook. I couldn't make it due to other plans, but messaged him to thank him for the invite and explained why I couldn't attend. Crickets since then. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 I decided I am not going to be the aggressor. Each time I have "chased" someone, it's never worked out. What this means in this situation is, I was forward with messaging in the beginning, but now have backed off. We seem to connect, which is great. He seems receptive, but doesn't exactly keep the conversation going. I mentioned that we should grab a drink some time. He agreed, but never followed up. Instead, he invited me to a public group event via Facebook. I couldn't make it due to other plans, but messaged him to thank him for the invite and explained why I couldn't attend. Crickets since then. I would of moved mountains to make that meet up happen. You had the opportunity to get a live meet up. To showcase your wares and make the sale. Puff, gone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 17, 2016 Author Share Posted January 17, 2016 I would of moved mountains to make that meet up happen. You had the opportunity to get a live meet up. To showcase your wares and make the sale. Puff, gone. Are to talking about me, or him? I said I'd like to get a drink with him, but then get an invite to a public event that he was co-promoter for, so he would be working. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 Are to talking about me, or him? I said I'd like to get a drink with him, but then get an invite to a public event that he was co-promoter for, so he would be working. Talking to you. Many people suggest to just meet up for coffee instead of a date this way if they feel no chemistry, cup empty, time to visit over. Him offering to met him at a function was him to vet you out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 18, 2016 Author Share Posted January 18, 2016 Maybe if he wasn't working at the event.. And it wasn't 45 minutes away from where I live. Also, he's gained ~50 friends since we connected. Link to post Share on other sites
bluestealth Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I think it's great that you tried to make contact with someone you're interested in ScienceGal, but I find it interesting that if a guy started the exact type of thread they'd be labeled a creepy stalker on here. Just my observation... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ScienceGal Posted January 19, 2016 Author Share Posted January 19, 2016 Interesting thought. I'd be open to a guy contacting me on social media if he felt he wanted to. I, personally, wouldn't find the reaching out part creepy, although it would depend what they say and what their intentions are. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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