privategal Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Just home so after dinner I'm going to look at the settings. Everybody's advice has been a good help. I am a bit curious to be honest, can't see him doing anything more than hiding behind a file lol. X I know. In a strange way its almost the same as contact ie. Its a "hit" and stirring up emotion every time. Because be honest (no judgement) if you truly wanted nc and to move on you would have blocked him and checked those settings or said "please stop sending these" after the 1st time. These are games from him and I feel he might go further somehow since your not biting. You might want to think harder how you will proceed as you may not be done with it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
imsosad Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I think he's playing you. He knows you are not with your husband,he's hoping you are volnurable and receptive towards some tlc from him. Think how well it will work out for him if you do go back. He has his wife at home,you available on the side. So many A seem to be about falling in love but at the end of the day,it seems to me that the women-single or married-are really in love and looking to form a true R,while the men for the most part are cake eating. Yours sounds like a classic cake eater. Mine was too.i know it sucks. Do not be tempted to respond. Block him,mark his address as spam,change emails,anything. Dont have this trigger waiting to happen.he's baiting you,dont bite. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Its a slap in the face he left you heartbroken but is too proud or cowardly not sure which, to form a true email to you if he was going to break no contact. You showed class to respect his wishes and marriage and he is showing he has no respect to let you heal. Even his nonchalant "oh gee thanks" casual reply I found to be heartless as here you have an xAp that even after being thrown out like trash pays a nice gesture of a polite response back for the sake of your job and you don't even have the decency to treat her any different or better than a mere "oh thanks" What a joke. Let him have his ego so crushed and bruised from dead silence cause this is cruel what he is doing. Its very calculated. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lostcase Posted January 29, 2016 Author Share Posted January 29, 2016 Its a slap in the face he left you heartbroken but is too proud or cowardly not sure which, to form a true email to you if he was going to break no contact. You showed class to respect his wishes and marriage and he is showing he has no respect to let you heal. Even his nonchalant "oh gee thanks" casual reply I found to be heartless as here you have an xAp that even after being thrown out like trash pays a nice gesture of a polite response back for the sake of your job and you don't even have the decency to treat her any different or better than a mere "oh thanks" What a joke. Let him have his ego so crushed and bruised from dead silence cause this is cruel what he is doing. Its very calculated. Yes it's cruel and heartless. To be honest the more he sends "work stuff" the more he is pissing me off lol. So maybe doing me a favour lol. I won't be responding as he has gave me nothing to respond to. Thanks for your reply you wrote just what I was thinking xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lostcase Posted January 29, 2016 Author Share Posted January 29, 2016 Its a slap in the face he left you heartbroken but is too proud or cowardly not sure which, to form a true email to you if he was going to break no contact. You showed class to respect his wishes and marriage and he is showing he has no respect to let you heal. Even his nonchalant "oh gee thanks" casual reply I found to be heartless as here you have an xAp that even after being thrown out like trash pays a nice gesture of a polite response back for the sake of your job and you don't even have the decency to treat her any different or better than a mere "oh thanks" What a joke. Let him have his ego so crushed and bruised from dead silence cause this is cruel what he is doing. Its very calculated. I agree with you full heartedly here, I defo not responding, he gave me nothing to respond to. Xx Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 I hear ya, but giving the situation, I would think after sending "error 1 & 2" he would of taken steps to make sure it didn't happen again?? I can be honest and say for all I was heartbroken I removed everything to do with him, it's part of moving on? And to stop me from doing exactly what he has done 4 times now. Yes it is easy to hit the wrong name but if a genuine error you would triple check where your mails were going to every time you sent one "incase" and you wouldn't want to look an arse? Xx And yet YOU haven't taken the very SIMPLE step of blocking his email address. It can be done at the server or a simple rule made in your email program to automatically delete any mail coming from that email address. You've chosen not to do that very SIMPLE thing and have instead, posted in the hopes of everyone telling you it's a 'sign' from him. If you truly didn't care, this 5 page thread wouldn't exist. At least own it. Link to post Share on other sites
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