digger Posted June 3, 2005 Share Posted June 3, 2005 15 months into this sep/divorce Ive been out with women, dinners etc, even had 2 women i was very freindly with (in a good kinda way) visit me from 1000 miles away. I just dont feel anything. They are not HER (ew). Have you other guys felt that? Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted June 3, 2005 Share Posted June 3, 2005 Since I'm just starting this journey myself, I dont have much to offer. However, everyone keeps telling me it could take up to a year or two before I'm even ready to start dating. It's only natural you wont feel anything for these women because you're still attached to your exw. One thing my therapist told me is I will never love someone the way I loved my stbxh. And I believe that. It doesnt mean I wont love another person, just I wont love him the same way. Each person is different, and they bring out different parts of yourself, some good some bad. Noone new in your life will replace your ex wife, and you have to accept that. Stay friends with your women friends and who knows, maybe something will grow out of it. Just dont close yourself to the prospects of meeting people and seeing if something clicks. Also, I truely believe when you finally become comfortable being alone and happy by yourself, that person comes into our lives when we least expect it. It'll happen, just dont worry about it. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 4, 2005 Share Posted June 4, 2005 I have been separated 4 months, and I'm dating, and have felt things. A friend of mine had been separated for 2 yrs, and someone said to him "wow so your breakup was very recent". I'm glad to hear that you are trying to move on. hugz Link to post Share on other sites
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