SerCay Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 - What type of guys do you like? - Are you dating anyone at the moment? Curious what the men think and the experiences the women have with men asking them these q's!! (Didn't know where to post this question btw, so it ended up here) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 I guess they are wondering if the are the sort of guy you might like (question 1) and if the coast is clear for them to approach you (question 2). 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Alamo657 Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 - What type of guys do you like?"Will you like me ?" - Are you dating anyone at the moment? "Should i be worried you'll compare me to someone else ?" 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Redfisher Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 Those questions look pretty self explanatory to me? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SerCay Posted January 5, 2016 Author Share Posted January 5, 2016 If the guy is married? Same motives you think? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 If the guy is married? Same motives you think? Probably, although they may have a friend they want to set up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Samhain Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 It means he wants to know if he's even your type at all or if he's wasting his time and no2 is him checking if he can go further with you after he's established whether he's your type or not. (Tilts head and scratches it) not actually very complex questions. And yeah, the motive would be the same if the asker was married, or engaged, or widowed, or a serial killer. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 It means he wants to know if he's even your type at all or if he's wasting his time and no2 is him checking if he can go further with you after he's established whether he's your type or not. (Tilts head and scratches it) not actually very complex questions. And yeah, the motive would be the same if the asker was married, or engaged, or widowed, or a serial killer. Then he needs to get a clue... If I'm with "him" that's all that matters. I can work with a guy asking me stuff like "What's your favorite restaurant, food, vacation place, activity level, hobbies, opinion on family, favorite movies, etc?" cuz in dating we are taking time to get to know if the person we are with is a "match"...AND, he's getting to know me. AND, when getting to know me, even "if" we have differences in stuff (i.e. politics) maybe we can make up our minds to decide what we'll compromise on and/or what is a dealbreaker. When a guy is asking "what kind of guys I'm into"...It makes me wonder if he's insecure and gonna try to "mold" himself into what he "thinks" I'm looking for in a man instead of being himself. I don't wanna date a cameleon...I mean it's ok if in meeting me stuff about me rubs off on him cuz IMO, the person we are with should bring out the best in us and all of us adopt stuff from people we meet in life. Now a guy asking "are you dating anyone at the moment"? That's cool. Makes sense to know if he's messing with someone who's dating others and/or keeping her options open. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SerCay Posted January 5, 2016 Author Share Posted January 5, 2016 So general opinion is that if he's married, motive still the same or may be trying to set me up? Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted January 5, 2016 Share Posted January 5, 2016 So general opinion is that if he's married, motive still the same or may be trying to set me up? Yes, generally speaking when a guy starts asking you questions about your dating life, it's because he wants to date you. But it does depends on the context, I guess if you were in the middle of a conversation about your experiences on Tinder or something, then it may just be conversation. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
craw Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 I have no effing idea. I don't understand. They say women are confusing but men are too. I once had a guy ask me. "What do you think of Hungarian men?" I was like wtf? I should have said, "I'm into German guys and I want on sit on your face". Lololololololol. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 - What type of guys do you like? That's simple. Do you like guys like me and, by extension, me? If not, I don't see the point to continue pursuing you. Are you dating anyone at the moment? That's simple too. He is basically asking if you are single and/or available. If he is asking this question, he is typically a guy that won't pursue taken women and, if you are, that means he needs to back off and keep looking. Then he needs to get a clue... If I'm with "him" that's all that matters. I can work with a guy asking me stuff like "What's your favorite restaurant, food, vacation place, activity level, hobbies, opinion on family, favorite movies, etc?" cuz in dating we are taking time to get to know if the person we are with is a "match"...AND, he's getting to know me. AND, when getting to know me, even "if" we have differences in stuff (i.e. politics) maybe we can make up our minds to decide what we'll compromise on and/or what is a dealbreaker. When a guy is asking "what kind of guys I'm into"...It makes me wonder if he's insecure and gonna try to "mold" himself into what he "thinks" I'm looking for in a man instead of being himself. I don't wanna date a cameleon...I mean it's ok if in meeting me stuff about me rubs off on him cuz IMO, the person we are with should bring out the best in us and all of us adopt stuff from people we meet in life. Now a guy asking "are you dating anyone at the moment"? That's cool. Makes sense to know if he's messing with someone who's dating others and/or keeping her options open. Gloria, those questions would be asked of guys trying to get into a relationship with you, not those who is already your boyfriend. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JustGettingBy Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 He wants to know either a) If he can use you to cheat on his wife or b) If he can set you up with a friend of his 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 - What type of guys do you like? This question in particular is so lame. It totally lacks finesse (selfish) and ruins the delightfulness of discovering each other. When I get asked that question, along with its sister question "Why are you single?" I just evade it by saying "I don't know", or some other equally lame answer. I would never ask a guy "What type of women do you like?" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BrianSmith Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 Well, he's checking to see if you're available or not and if you feel attracted to him or not. At least when women ask me that I know they aren't exactly looking to "just" be friends if you know what I mean hehehe 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2016 Share Posted January 6, 2016 A married guy asking you these Qs may be trying to fix you up with a buddy. My answer would have been that I like single men, not guys looking to cheat on their wives. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SerCay Posted January 7, 2016 Author Share Posted January 7, 2016 He asked again, twice. 2 days after the first time he asked. It was masked in a talk about having children. A friend of ours had to terminate her pregnancy because there were medical issues, and I remarked to him, she will get pregnant again and it will be healthy. He then said; yeah... and some of us have to find a man first to make that baby with.. Meaning ME (I recently became single, and why the heckk did he revert this conversation towards me!? It had nothing to do with me). Then I replied; oh no I don't want kids, ever. Then he asked: but you're not seeing someone serious at the moment, right? < And there it was. He asked again. First time in the comment of me having to find a man to make a baby with, second time more directly, if I'm seeing anyone. Seriously, this dude is married and he does talk about his wife quite a lot. He also has not any friend of his so far he wants to set me up with. This is weird. Link to post Share on other sites
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