Father'sGentleFlower Posted January 7, 2016 Share Posted January 7, 2016 We haven't had much contact but he would messaged me a few times and lately invited me to a gathering with his friends. I guess lately I've been reflecting on what he told me when we were talking about why it didn't work out. It was mainly him telling me things that I considered silly like: I'm spoken, I'm passive, I don't work well under pressure, I don't have enough confidence in him ( not his faithfulness by the way, but his creative decisions... He's a game designer and I'm an animator) and the best one I'm not aggressive. Thinking about that plus knowing about how he still gives his suicidal ex girlfriend a bit of leeway because he keeps saying things like "I won't ever get back her unless something drastically changes about her." At that point I was almost convinced there was something wrong with him because I thought "so he'll break up with someone that actually cares about him but he'll leave just a bit of room for his condescending, psychological- problem ridden cunt of an ex girlfriend who broke up with him and thinks of him only as plan B? But yet I'm baggage? I would've understood if it was just because my problem with my parents being controlling but when he mentioned his ex girlfriend I started to get angry. Also I'm a person that if someone wants to walk out of my life I'll let them, yet sometimes I feel like him telling me that I'm not aggressive, translates into him saying that I'm weak or afraid to fight. While I do bite my tongue a lot, I'll **** down someone's throat if I have to. I knew that we were breaking up but he doesn't seem to think that it's a big deal for either one of us. I don't want to hate him, but I don't feel too great about talking besides letting him know I'm upset. I wish we never dated and just stayed friends if this was going to happen Link to post Share on other sites
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