Did i ruin my chances?

[Flozfzx]

My ex and i been broken up for least 1 year 4 months the reason of the break up is that i took her for granted and hurt her but i never cheated on her. Just stupid careless things i did that made her feel unwanted and i wasnt progressing in the relationship of 8 years.

 

I ask for a second try but she was too hurt and the best thing i could do is let her be which i did the first two months i asked to make things better ask in seeking counsueling. She wasnt up too it. Two months into the break up she enterance a new relationship. I was hurt but then i let her be again i text her how she can do that.

 

Months went by and in april of last year she contact me and wanted to work things out slowly but come to find out she was still with this guy and dating him and i told her i couldnt date you while your dating someone else. Then after that she kept telling me that shes breaking up with this guy for 10 months. I would blow up her phone accusing her of lying too me and that she needs to stop it. Each month we would stay in contact and always tell me shes leaving this guy but needs time. Come Nov i had enough and decided to move on and started dating she saw a pic on instagram of the person i was dating and she texted me out of the blues and told me she broke up with the guy.

 

She showed me the text and also showed that in her facebook they broke up. I was convince and met with her for coffee. We talked and laugh and kiss this was the 6 time i met with her after the break up. She said she wanted to go to counsueling so i schedule one. After we met she asked me if i can get her something from the store so i went when i was at the store she texted me a miss text saying "are you home yet" "i told them i had to go back when you get back" i was piss this brought my trust too nothing but i should have known better since the constant lies over the period of 10 months. Also she would only meet in the mornings or after work. 2 times we met at night. My trust just went down hill and i started to accuse and assume that she was still there with him because his stuff was at her house still but she keeps saying think what you want christmas came around i acted cold towards her and new year came and never wished her a happy new years either did she.

 

I told her as long as the guy has stuff at her house and is not done with him. I will start dating again and told her i regret breaking it off with the person i started to get to know. she told me that if i started dating that she would not reach out its been 2 weeks and i havent spoken to her. She deleted the guy from facebook but requested him again. She also lied that the guy was moving his stuff out the first of jan which he didnt. Did i mess up my chances of getting back? I connected some dots together like she text me one time asking me if we were together that if it would bother me if she ever went out with her friends it was a weird question because out if the 8 years together she knows that i dont control her like that and the next week is when we met and send me that wrong text im assuming that the guy is giving her freedom. Because what she miss text me about "are you home yet" "i told them i had to go back when you got back" the guy think shes with friends but really with me is messed up. I had no idea or i would have stop it.

[d0nnivain]

Your relationship was a hot mess when you were together. Your break up wasn't much better. Neither of you seem to have a clue how to exclusively be with each other.

 

 

If after 8 years you aren't on a path to marriage, which you are not nor should you be -- it's time to just be done.