Are women more attractive when their 18-24?

[Bobbi7]

I remember being 18-20 and getting hit on all the time, I believe that I was in my prime, being young and desirable. I'm in my mid 30's now and when I out and about-in public or possibly meeting people, I hardly get hit on by guys anymore...I wonder why? Have my looks declined over the years? Or is it harder for 35 year old woman to get noticed these days when there's a fresh breed of 18 year olds?

[basil67]

Hehe - try being nearly 50

[basil67]

In all seriousness, I think it's more about how a much higher percentage of men who are the same age as you (compared to when you were 18-20) are now in relationships.

 

Possibly older guys are more selective in who/where they make a move - while younger guys will go for anything female.

[JustGettingBy]

In my opinion (which keep in mind is based on limited experience) women are more physically attractive at that age, but I often find myself more emotionally attracted to more mature women.

[five2nine]

Tbh I think everyone male and female look better before age 30. After that wrinkles start to show, complexion is aging/sun-damaged, people gain weight and have a harder time keeping it off, a good portion of men start to go bald or hairlines recede...

 

Of course there are always a few exceptions, like good genetics or those who work hard to take care of themselves

[road]

I remember being 18-20 and getting hit on all the time, I believe that I was in my prime, being young and desirable. I'm in my mid 30's now and when I out and about-in public or possibly meeting people, I hardly get hit on by guys anymore...I wonder why? Have my looks declined over the years? Or is it harder for 35 year old woman to get noticed these days when there's a fresh breed of 18 year olds?

 

 

What changes?

Hair, clothes, weight, behavior, all effect attractiveness.

 

 

Keep in mind when 20 everyone around you is single thus available to hit on you. Now at 30 with one foot in the grave many men are married. So the dating pool is smaller.

Edited January 9, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[veggirl]

Basil makes a great point. You are drawing from a much smaller pool now. Most of the men you come across are likely in relationships or married so hopefully they are NOT hitting on you!

 

Of course youth is attractive, no one is going to deny that, but it doesn't mean that 30+ is UNattractive. I don't know if I'm less attractive now at 32 than I was at 22....maybe I am! but I'm still attractive, ya know? I'm not full of wrinkles with "sun-damaged skin" and boobs sagging down to an overweight belly lol.

 

Plus at 20, you were probably getting hit on by everyone from teenagers to grody old men! At 35 I would imagine it'd mainly be age-appropriate men approaching and again, there are less of them at 35 than at 20.

[lino]

Not necessarily. It's something that varies case by case. I know several women who look better in their early 30s than they did in their early 20s and vice versa.

[Hyperfocal]

Bobbie7, as soon as life places a 35+ year old into a state where they do not want to make children, and/or their kids are driving age if they have them, then options open up for dating... a lot. Not wanting to make kids is very attractive to a number of men (myself included).

 

I was in a rel with a mid 30's this summer, was stunning, could not be better conditioned, or look better, brain and wit were a gem too. She did a fair bit of training, yes there are some that hang on. Your advantage is that as 50% of women 30+ are slightly starting to let go of health (at least in my area), if you keep it up, or get in shape, you will stand out of the crowd. In universities around here 70% of of the 20's are beautiful even if they just live off of pork rinds and beer... till they hit 30.

[oldshirt]

I remember being 18-20 and getting hit on all the time, I believe that I was in my prime, being young and desirable. I'm in my mid 30's now and when I out and about-in public or possibly meeting people, I hardly get hit on by guys anymore...I wonder why? Have my looks declined over the years? Or is it harder for 35 year old woman to get noticed these days when there's a fresh breed of 18 year olds?

 

There are probably a number of factors at play here.

 

 

For starters, yes, women's prime in physical beauty, vigor and fertility etc is 18-25ish. After that a woman's market value for people who haven't yet married and want children drops off quickly and then drops off dramatically after 30.

 

 

A 20 year old, pretty, never married/no kids female will be desired by everyone from an 18 year old man to full grown adult men in their 40s and 50s and beyond.

 

 

Another factor in not getting hit on as you mature is that men in their 30s and beyond have just learned to behave themselves better and more appropriately in public. Many have also married or at least partnered up with someone and don't want to get caught or get in trouble hitting on someone else. They may still be interested to one degree or another but they aren't going to be as forward and aggressive.

 

 

While women do have a shelf life of only a handful of years on the traditional dating market, that doesn't mean that they are doomed to a life of loneliness at all. A mature woman that hasn't gotten fat and that still takes care of herself will still garner male attention and attraction and will still have options for hook ups, relationships and even marriage.

 

 

But those options will be more mature men who have started to lose their hair and are getting soft around the middle themselves and/or who have already had a marriage or two and who have had children. The other options will also include all the men who are confirmed bachelors who have chosen to remain unmarried and childless.

 

 

What 30+ year old women will typically struggle with is getting anywhere the 25-35 year old, tall, fit, handsome, never married/no kids professional men with good careers and great future earning potentials that want to marry and raise a family. Those guys are going to be going after the young, hot, fit babes that don't have the baggage of prior marriages and kids from prior relationships.

 

 

That is the market where women have a shelf life and why women shouldn't waste their "pretty" in their youth on dead-end relationships and men that aren't any good and aren't going anywhere.

[Timshel]

 

While women do have a shelf life of only a handful of years on the traditional dating market, that doesn't mean that they are doomed to a life of loneliness at all. A mature woman that hasn't gotten fat and that still takes care of herself will still garner male attention and attraction and will still have options for hook ups, relationships and even marriage.

 

But those options will be more mature men who have started to lose their hair and are getting soft around the middle themselves and/or who have already had a marriage or two and who have had children. The other options will also include all the men who are confirmed bachelors who have chosen to remain unmarried and childless.

 

:confused: Thanks.....I think? I mean, I'm 46...my 32yo bf does have slightly thinning hair but no soft middle, children or previous marriages and has expressed a desire to marry.

 

Situations will vary OP. Live your life to the fullest and be the best self you can be. Everything will fall into place.

[Erik30]

I think it's true to an extent. I've noticed that some women lose their looks when they hit 25. Usually the girls who were popular and considered to be very pretty in school. When they got older, they just became average, nothing special. Maybe the result of sunbathing, too much partying, kids, etc.)

 

While on the other hand some of the "plain Jane type" girls turned into beautiful women.

 

But there are always exceptions, there are women who are thought to be attractive until they're very old.

[xxoo]

An attractive woman is an attractive woman at any age. The men don't know how old we are, anyway.

[deckard11]

I've seen plenty of beautiful older women in their 30's, 40's, and 50's and so on.

[TheArtist]

When I was in my 20s I thought the same way, that women in their 30s weren't quite as attractive, but now that I'm in my 30s I actually find them to be much more so, and I'm not really interested in younger ladies at all.

 

Except Taylor Swift.

 

Anyway, some wrinkles are attractive; those little crow's feet near the eyes. I always read that as a sign that she smiles a lot. Plus you have a lot more wisdom, intelligence, and purpose in the 30s women, and less of the game playing nonsense of those in their 20s who aren't really sure what they want.

 

It all depends on your audience but if you look after your body, hair, and mind, you'll stand out really well.

 

If all that fails, then I'll take you out for a coffee Bobbi.

[jen1447]

Are women more attractive when their 18-24?

Attraction is subjective so you can't really say w/any certainty. Younger women are certainly less affected by age and gravity and all that.

 

If you take an attractive woman at 20 and age her to 30, she'll still look attractive (assuming no major life changes), just different. I'm not sure one age is objectively more attractive than the other.

[Platinum Aura]

Attraction is subjective so you can't really say w/any certainty. Younger women are certainly less affected by age and gravity and all that.

 

If you take an attractive woman at 20 and age her to 30, she'll still look attractive (assuming no major life changes), just different. I'm not sure one age is objectively more attractive than the other.

 

This. Also, I'm 24 and there's plenty of women who look like (at least to me) they're in their early - mid 20's at around 30 or in their thirties. Some age well, some don't. It's how it is.

[123321]

Attractive is a complex and situational thing. Women in their 20s are generally more beautiful, sexy, and so on, but that's just a part of attractiveness.

[hippychick3]

Don't underestimate confidence. The way a woman conducts herself can be extremely attractive. 20 year old girls lack the self-confidence and self-assurance of an older women. When you pair attractiveness with confidence, age is not a factor.

 

I'm in my 40's, have no wrinkles, no crows feet, and great skin because I've taken good care of myself. I felt the most attractive and most desirable when I hit 40. My boyfriend who is in his 30's (and hot) hit on me when I was 40.

[thefooloftheyear]

I can only say this much....

 

Women in 18-mid 30's dont look as good now as the one's I grew up around...And its not even close..

 

They are in worse shape,(heavier), generally....I can remember that time, the beaches were full of women that age that were slim and shapely...Kids or not..

 

I dunno if its technology(probably), but its just an observation...Conversely more of the 40 somethings and older really look great..Most of the women in this age group I see at the gym(some even grandmothers) smoke the hell out of most of the younger ladies...

 

Time to step it up, gals...!!....:laugh:

 

TFY

[PrettyEmily77]

You're as attractive as how you feel, and that's true for men and women. Confidence has no age.

[Blanco]

I still workout at my old university, so I've been basically training in the same place for a decade. In that time, I've obviously seen a lot of people come and go. I've noticed that a lot of the freshmen and sophomore aged girls are usually pretty attractive, but they often look a little too young for my tastes. However, by time they're aging out of college at 21 or 22, a lot of these same girls have really hit that sweet spot. They've matured more into young women and find themselves in that short, sweet spot where they're no longer teenagers and any signs of aging are still a few years off.

 

Everyone ages, but lifestyle is also a huge factor. A party girl who tans a lot, maybe drinks a little too much, is the occasional smoker, and thin, but not necessarily into exercise; she's probably going to top out in her early to mid 20s. She might still be attractive after that; actually, she almost certainly will be, but that "hot" factor will almost definitely be fading at least a little.

 

My last girlfriend was quite striking. Naturally thin in spite of diet, great facial features and proportions. However, even in her late 20s, she was already looking quite different than her college days. Her face seems longer now. Her skin isn't quite so smooth and blemish-free. She still would have no trouble wrangling a guy, but natural aging and her lifestyle (light smoker, poor eater, mostly inactive) is catching up to her a little more these days.

 

As a guy in his early 30s, though, someone closer in age and mentality is more attractive to me than these young babes usually are if we're talking anything more than a passing interest. I have little or no common ground with most college girls, so to me, a slightly less attractive girl with a more similar mindset and place in life to me is more appealing than the standard young "hot" girl.

[Imported]

At 18-24, many women have not yet ruined what they were born with by poor diet and a sedentary life style.

 

There are attractive women over 24+.....because they workout.

 

Dating an attractive early 20's girl can be a booby prize lol. Before she hits 30, she might just get really fat. No, that does not come with age. That comes with poor diet and a sedentary life style. Hell, that's happening younger and younger.

 

I like women over 30 that are hot, because by 40, they are far more likely to still be hot than many girls that are still in the 20's. Have fun while it last I guess and for some, it doesn't really last that long.

Edited January 9, 2016 by Imported

[carhill]

Universally attractive, probably. Youth, health and height of fertility and, traditionally, when most are snapped up for marriage, though that isn't as common these days.

[Blanco]

At 18-24, many women have not yet ruined what they were born with by poor diet and a sedentary life style.

 

There are attractive women over 24+.....because they workout.

 

Dating an attractive early 20's girl can be a booby prize lol. Before she hits 30, she might just get really fat. No, that does not come with age. That comes with poor diet and a sedentary life style. Hell, that's happening younger and younger.

 

I like women over 30 that are hot, because by 40, they are far more likely to still be hot than many girls that are still in the 20's. Have fun while it last I guess and for some, it doesn't really last that long.

 

Yeah, this is mostly what I was getting at. A girl who isn't naturally predisposed to being chubby can get away with paying little attention to diet or physical activity and still look good in her late teens or early twenties. Most of them start to have less margin for error as soon as their mid-twenties, though.

 

It wasn't uncommon to know a slender, pretty girl in early college, not see her for a couple years, and then see her a few years later and almost not recognize her.