lonely heart Posted April 2, 2001 Share Posted April 2, 2001 as you may know i am 16 and never been out with anyone, EVER. now people have liked me and i have made the move but when the girls find out that i am a romantic guy (who would prefer a good night in, cuddling in front of a open fire with a girl rather than clubbing it) they dont want to know me. now is it me (i.e. do i need to stop the romantic life style and go clubbing) or is it them? Thanks in advance Andrew Link to post Share on other sites
sparkle Posted April 2, 2001 Share Posted April 2, 2001 You need to think about the girls that you want to date. If they're approximately your age (15 or 16), I bet they wouldn't be ready to sit and cuddle in front of an open fire. It may just be too much romance for them just yet. Instead, they'd rather be DOING something than just sitting around. I know when I was 16, I enjoyed going out and doing things with a guy rather than just being bored sitting there with him. It was exactly that: boring. It seemed pointless to me, like I was wasting time when I could be out doing something! It wasn't until a few years later when I discovered my 'romantic side' and I grew more mature and started having longer relationships. Now, sometimes I'd much rather have a quiet romantic evening with my boyfriend than be out partying. My point is, at age 15 or 16, I just wanted to have FUN! And I'm sure many girls you meet feel the same way I do. Right now, focus on the "fuN" side of you and don't be too open or up-front with your romantic side right away. Save that for a few special girls. You might scare them away if you try to get to know them too quickly. Just do activities that you enjoy doing. Hang out with your female friends and do things you both enjoy doing. That way, you'll slowly get to know them on your own. Don't get me wrong though. I'm not saying that you should go out clubbing or anything. Do things you LIKE to do or want to do. You said that you've made the move but when they find out you're a romantic guy, they don't want to know you? Make sure you don't show your romantic side to everyone until AFTER they get to know you. When you're going out with a girl though, then you can be romantic. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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