risjurad Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 (edited) While it kind of does suck, I've sort of gotten used to it and made my peace with it. One test of a relationship that's between "acquaintance" but below "BFF" is whether or not we continue talking when I move out of an area. When we get together via Meetup.com, or something through direct invitation, I have fun, and so it seems others too. When I move out of an area, I'd like to continue talking with them via phone, txt, or email. It doesn't have to be weekly. Just once a month to few times a year would also do. Yet, many times, I feel like the person on the other end can be either excited to talk with me or not so much. And they never really want to reach out to me. Here, they were pretty much predicated on meeting in person. I've dated very little. I'm now in a small town that's in remote area. The job's there, so for the time being, I'm staying put. More about that here.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/564902-tips-long-distance-dating Suffice to say, like how a soldier sort of considers himself dead prior going into battle, I've also accepted that I may not be able to meet somebody romantically. Edited January 9, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Cleanup Link to post Share on other sites
deckard11 Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 Yeah, looks like I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I'm 41 and have never been on a single date or been in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 Marriage taught me a lot about being alone - if it's hell, i No complaints here, now nearly six years down the road. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 I'm much less idealistic now than I was even six or seven years ago when it comes to this topic. To me, it seems like many of us will end up being alone in life if you limit it to strictly a romantic partner. People date, and breakup. People marry, and get divorced. It's likely for most of us, even the ones with some LTR and a marriage or two under the belt, that we will be "alone" eventually. And I think that's why it's so vital to cast a bigger net and not put all of your eggs in one basket (i.e. a romantic partner). Nurture your relationship with friends and family and you'll never really be alone, whether or not you're single. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
LydiaLong Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 I didn't find the love of my life until I was in my late 50s. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 Just because you don't find a life partner doesn't mean you are alone the rest of your life. If you are fun and entertaining to be around, you will always have friends. They will come and go depending on their own lives, of course. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
brothers343 Posted January 9, 2016 Share Posted January 9, 2016 I have been in war.....more than once and i always felt i was going to come back home. Life can be long and hard but saying you will never find love is not accurate. Love comes when you least expect it just like a snipers bullet. Lol. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
minou6330 Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 I probably will. I am the guy who has never dated because I spent most of my life taking care of my mother. I am now spending my life watch her slowly slip away. If I could stop this process, I would. I hate the thought of being alone. I am writing this in tears and from the heart. I love my mother and women. I gave out Xmas cards to the most important people in my life and the majority of them are married. They post sexy pictures of themselves on their Facebook page. It drives me crazy! I would love to date someone and take the vows. I strongly believe in not judging a book by it's cover. I believe that if it truly meant to be. It will be no matter what the outside appears. It is the inside that matters. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 It has crossed my mind many times Link to post Share on other sites
ChattyKat Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 I probably will. Pushing 40 and never been in a committed relationship. Focusing on things I like to do takes my mind off of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted January 12, 2016 Share Posted January 12, 2016 Recently found out that my aunt, my Mom's youngest sister, she told me she was single throughout all of her teens and 20's, which to my complete big shock, say she didn't really get her first relationship until sometime in her 30's(didn't specifically say what age though), but kinda made me feel better but at the same time shocked, since having a vagina and being the gender that is valued for youth the most is a pretty much guarantee lock for not missing out on your teens or especially 20's for dating and relationships as a woman Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Yeah, looks like I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I'm 41 and have never been on a single date or been in a relationship. I think those that have not gotten a date have to not care about getting rejected and ask one woman out a week. It is a numbers game. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Yeah, looks like I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I'm 41 and have never been on a single date or been in a relationship. You can go on a date. Lower your standards/risk rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
deckard11 Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 I think those that have not gotten a date have to not care about getting rejected and ask one woman out a week. It is a numbers game. I have tried that in the past and it didn't work. Link to post Share on other sites
deckard11 Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 You can go on a date. Lower your standards/risk rejection. I don't have standards and still no dates. Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 love doesn't just come in the form of a significant other. lots of people don't marry anyone, but they still have love in their lives. it can come from a child in your life, through friends, family, or through social giving and relationships. i think it's ok to be alone or end up alone so long as you don't end up isolated from people altogether. we all need relationships of some sort to be healthy, especially in advanced years, it becomes even more vital. Link to post Share on other sites
mrldii Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Let's see...20 years of child-raising, 2 marriages, and 2 LTRs and becoming single and on my own at 50 (5 years ago) and all the compromising, working-together-to-work-things-out, at times stretching to make ends meet, and giving up the last piece of pumpkin pie "so everyone[else] is sure to get a piece" yeah...I'm OK IF it ends up that I'm alone for the rest of my life. No going without, no not-enough-money, no oh-alright-I'll-go-with-you-this-time-but-then-you-owe-me-one, no midnight ass-plunges 'cuz the toilet seat's been left up, AND no more hearing, "Yanno...you're doing that alllllll wrong." Yeah...I'll find a way to make peace with it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Moy Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Yep. In my 40s, no dates in 3 years. I've been taught my level in that time so I decided it best to walk away from the whole thing. Link to post Share on other sites
RySant Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Turning 26 in a few days and I am considering this path already hahaha Link to post Share on other sites
suds00 Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 never had many dates.married once.been alone for 20 years.there are worse things. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 (edited) Let's see...20 years of child-raising, 2 marriages, and 2 LTRs and becoming single and on my own at 50 (5 years ago) and all the compromising, working-together-to-work-things-out, at times stretching to make ends meet, and giving up the last piece of pumpkin pie "so everyone[else] is sure to get a piece" yeah...I'm OK IF it ends up that I'm alone for the rest of my life. No going without, no not-enough-money, no oh-alright-I'll-go-with-you-this-time-but-then-you-owe-me-one, no midnight ass-plunges 'cuz the toilet seat's been left up, AND no more hearing, "Yanno...you're doing that alllllll wrong." Yeah...I'll find a way to make peace with it. Easy to say one can make peace with being single when they had lots of dates, was married, had kids, lots of sex, some of it great. People posting here have not reached anywhere in the relationship world. They would love to meet a woman that they find attractive and be able to go away for a romantic weekend and get laid, re-laid, relayed, overlaid, under-laid, delayed. Then get up Sunday morning and start the laying process over before check out time. Edited January 13, 2016 by road 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mrldii Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Easy to say one can make peace with being single when they had lots of dates, was married, had kids, lots of sex, some of it great. People posting here have not reached anywhere in the relationship world. They would love to meet a woman that they find attractive and be able to go away for a romantic weekend and get laid, re-laid, relayed, overlaid, under-laid, delayed. Then get up Sunday morning and start the laying process over before check out time. Oh. I didn't realize there was just one 'correct' answer to OP's posed query to each of us; I was simply answering the question, as it applied to me and my life... ...and from my point of view. I take it, since I didn't provide The Correct Answer, I will be receiving an "F" on this exam. It's OK...I'll make peace with that, too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
utman Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 You can go on a date. Lower your standards/risk rejection. you don't understand. girls demand chemistry and there's some guys that no girl desires due to lack of chemistry 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 you don't understand. girls demand chemistry and there's some guys that no girl desires due to lack of chemistry No, not all women demand the same thing. I think there are very, very few people who can't get anyone. They may not be up to their standards though. Sometimes people's standards are too high for who they can attract. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Oh. I didn't realize there was just one 'correct' answer to OP's posed query to each of us; I was simply answering the question, as it applied to me and my life... ...and from my point of view. I take it, since I didn't provide The Correct Answer, I will be receiving an "F" on this exam. It's OK...I'll make peace with that, too. There was no grading of anyone, but a reminder about the story of the man crying it was winter and he had no shoes, until he saw the man with no feet. Link to post Share on other sites
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