SelahSue Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 I have a friend of a friend who ive known for 10 years now. I can see him anywhere from every weekend to once a year. I dont talk to him unless we all go out together and when i do hes always kind of bossy and acts like he owns me. Small examples..tells me to grab him stuff. "Hand me that cup" .."count me out some of those quarters so i can play pool later".."grab me those chips" ect. Not in a mean tone, but as if its the norm and i always do it or something. Also throughout the years ive brought boyfriends over and hes always an ass to them and makes them feel stupid. Ive noticed him staring at me. Usually when were left alone. He scolds me almost like hes glaring at me while not saying a word as if i have done something wrong when generally we dont speak at all. Is it me or does it sound like he doesnt want me around? Lol. If my friends didnt get together with him we would never come across eachother. He doesnt treat other people like that. Its been this way for years. Were 25 btw. Seems kind of childish but im just trying to figure out if these are signs he doesnt approve of my company. Have any of you been treated like this or have treated people you dislike in such a manner? If so its no big deal to avoid him. Trying to keep the peace. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 Simple answer: he's a dickhead. I doubt this is about the company you keep because he's being a toad when you're alone too. If he demands you do something, laugh and tell him to do it himself. If he's an ass to your boyfriends, tell him to grow up or f*ck off. In short, put him well and truly in his place. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 It sounds like he is trying to diminish you in front of the other friends and is being unpleasant. Why don't you just try either ignoring him and getting up and moving away when he gives you an order or telling him no? Link to post Share on other sites
pro100pk2 Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 he's a villain Link to post Share on other sites
Wewon Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 Simple answer: he's a dickhead. I doubt this is about the company you keep because he's being a toad when you're alone too. If he demands you do something, laugh and tell him to do it himself. If he's an ass to your boyfriends, tell him to grow up or f*ck off. In short, put him well and truly in his place. I agree. I'm not sure why you're tolerating this behavior. He's not very nice and he most likely has alienated a few of your boyfriends. Link to post Share on other sites
Qboro90 Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Just ignore him and act cordial. Since you don't see him that often and he's not a regular figure in your life there's no need to let him bother you. Some people are just *******s unfortunately. I would however cease allowing him to "order" you around as you describe it. If you're at the same place together and he says something like "get me this or that", just act like you cannot hear him whatsoever. Then when he asks again, turn as if you're confused and either say "oh I'm sorry, I don't work here" , "please is usually what people say when they'd like something... Try it out every now and then", "get it yourself , what do i look like, your waiter?"... Depending on how combative you feel like getting. If you're next to a pile of cups and he asks for a cup, I wouldn't say anything because that's a little extreme. But if you feel like it's over stepping the bounds of convenience then speak up, otherwise he'll keep doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
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