Wife shows no affection, and doesn't initiate sex

[N2053]

If you don't have kids I'd skip the counseling and go straight to divorce

[still_an_Angel]

It doesn't look like she's willing to work on this issue. Change has to come from her if she wants to be a freak in the sheets. You need to give her an ultimatum and a healthy timeline and let her know D is on the way because you cannot live like this. Best of luck OP.

 

 

 

 

Isn't this something a woman should know to do naturally?

 

 

uh no, I think everyone learns how to become a good lover, over time or over experience, etc.

[VeveCakes]

What about affection otherwise?

 

Is she attracted to you? Feel loved and wanted? Happy with herself?

[Rockdad]

You wrote my story with my now EX. And YES it degraded to a sexless marriage for years as others have pointed out that will most likely happen.

Einstein here had children with her. When I finally fired her she lived well on my payroll and owned my dumb ass for another 17 years.

[Norbi]

If you're the only one really trying, she doesn't care or acknowledge your needs, and in general isn't affectionate - she has to go.

 

Honestly,

 

what else are you supposed to do?

 

You said you talked to her countless times and nothing's happening.

 

I'd tell her one last time what's going on with you, let her know that you are serious and wait a week or two. If still nothing - I too would suggest to get a divorce because the only other option is you being miserable for the rest of your life (since sex and a connection seems to be highly important to you).

 

At the end of the day, a couple needs to be able to come together on issues that are important.

[big dog]

Just a stab in the dark here but I have heard of women going going into early menopause for one reason or another. I know she's a little young but it's not that uncommon. Also, things like low estrogen or other deficiencies can do weird stuff to 'em. Might wanna get her to consider it and go get checked. I know from experience that it can cause all the symptoms you talk about.

[trailrunner1975]

 

or more probably like my wife :

 

-A spoiled lazy child , careless , with a border line personality caused by socio / religious/fake surrounding .

 

-refuses/ doesn't care about what makes me or my kids happy ( not a giver personality type).

 

her needs are valid whatever they are , your needs means nothing to her .

 

I think they married us for social security only .

 

If you want to end up like me , married 18 years , with three kids ; sexually rejected , suffer more because i am not a cheater, stuck and anxious all the time , masturbate 5 times a week and does a vanilla intercourse where you are not allowed even to give oral if lucky ; same feeling if you use a masturbator ; actually sometimes the sucking machine is even better .

 

if you can handle all this , go ahead and stay with her .

 

my advise , throw the towel , with minimum pain , divorce her .

 

no training will make her better ,

 

she seems to be LD (or asexual); you seem to be HD ++.

 

it is a suicide to stay in such a marriage .

 

sorry , that's my opinion .

 

 

 

 

 

 

* she gets counseling and gets cured;

* you learn to live without sex;

* you learn to live without sex within your marriage and start having affairs; or

* you two get a divorce.

 

LISTEN very close to this advice. And do not under any circumstance have kids with her, nor cheat. I was where you are once. I got out and life is great as a result.