Woman goes on 30 Tinder Dates in 30 Days [Article]

[Curious-One]

Geee are we still gonna pretend that dating for girls is hard in this day and age? This girl went on 30 Tinder Dates in 30 days and ended up with a BF. I am sure most girls could do this if they wanted to and probably end up with a BF at the end of the month but i would say 90% of the guys would be lucky to have a chance at 2-3 dates in 30 days from tinder.

 

Lets see

 

-30 days free lunch or drink every day

-30 days of meeting someone new every day

-30 different guys to choose from if she wants to sleep with them... ( girls hold the power to decide if sex happens no guy is going to turn down sex from a girl but girls will often say no on first dates).

-I am sure most of the guys paid for dates too so we can say almost 30 days of free entertainment.

 

 

No matter how hard i try i just cant accept the popular female belief here that OLD is hard for girls. Yes you will get some freaks/weird messages/guys wanting to use your for sex but when you got 1000's of options in a month its easy to choose 30 guys out of that bunch to go out on a date with. IF YOU TRULLY want to find a BF i just dont see what is stopping you. You will see that yes she had some bad dates but it is all part of the experience. Also if you meet at a bar or restaurant its not much that can go wrong if you are not happy with the date.

 

Link to article

New Zealand woman goes on 30 Tinder dates in 30 days  | Daily Mail Online

[mrldii]

The only thing this sponsored writer who conducted an *experiment* for fodder for an article for which she'd be paid to write (who happens to also be female) proved

 

is success comes to those who persevere.

 

 

Had she NOT been being sponsored and paid to write the article, she would NOT have gone out on 30 dates in 30 days; she - like any other unsponsored and unpaid person - would have been too tired one night, have to wash her hair another night, be clipping her dog's toenails another night, and/or doing one of the other one-million-and-one regular folk who don't make a career out of dating

 

 

or writing about it

 

 

do.

[Justanaverageguy]

I believe the term is - quality over quantity. Who wants to go on 30 dates in 30 days if most of the people you meet are not really compatible with what your looking for and the date is a waste of your time ? The issue most people complain about is not that they can't get a date ..... It's that they can't find someone they actually want to date.

 

Also guys vs girls on tinder thing I found a bit of misnomer. I'm a man and haven't used it for over 6 months but when I was single I could easily get 3-4 dates a week on it with out a lot of effort. I'm not bad looking but not a male model or anything and I have a decent job .... which seems to be important to a lot of girls. I think if you present well and act like a normal person you would be surprised at how many decent ladies are struggling to find someone who seems like a real person.

[Curious-One]

The only thing this sponsored writer who conducted an *experiment* for fodder for an article for which she'd be paid to write (who happens to also be female) proved

 

is success comes to those who persevere.

 

 

Had she NOT been being sponsored and paid to write the article, she would NOT have gone out on 30 dates in 30 days; she - like any other unsponsored and unpaid person - would have been too tired one night, have to wash her hair another night, be clipping her dog's toenails another night, and/or doing one of the other one-million-and-one regular folk who don't make a career out of dating

 

 

or writing about it

 

 

do.

 

I understand that most people have other things going on in their life that could get in the way but i am just saying that any girl that actually wants to put in work and go out on dates CAN while majority of guys don't have that privilege.

 

We go to work 5 times a week and spend 8 hours a day there for majority our life..We went to school for 12 years (highschool) and spent 8 hrs in class most weekday. is it really that hard to devote 1-2 hours for 30 days to get a bf/gf and plus it should be more fun then work/school. Also if life gets in the way you can always skip a day or two ... the whole point is girls have the option to go on as many dates as they want so the only thing that is stopping a girl from getting a BF is her excuses on why she has more important things to do.

[lollipopspot]

So you're using a thin, 24 year old blonde with large breasts as an example of how easy dating is for women? That's honest.

[Leucine]

I'm a good-looking guy and I could also get 30 Tinder dates in 30 days if I wanted to, but I happen to have standards.

 

It is as easy as starting a conversation, exchanging a few lines and then arranging to meet. No further BS needed.

[Curious-One]

I'm a good-looking guy and I could also get 30 Tinder dates in 30 days if I wanted to, but I happen to have standards.

 

It is as easy as starting a conversation, exchanging a few lines and then arranging to meet. No further BS needed.

 

Well you are good looking so you have way more options then average guy when it comes to OLD but still probably dont have enough to go on a date with a girl THAT YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO each day of the month for 30 days.

 

This is precisely what i am talking about STANDARDS because someone who gets 1000 matches a month should have no issue picking out 30 to go out on a date.

 

Okupid did a test to see how many messages guys/girls get based on their attractiveness levels and here are the results After 7 days.

 

https://heartiste.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/results-after-7-days-graph.jpg?w=1028&h=484

 

As you can see average girl gets 3 messages a day where as average guy gets 0 ... This means even average girl each day could pick 1 out of 3 guys to go on a date. NOT BAD ....especially compared to AVERAGE guys who get to pick 0 LOL.

 

Even best looking guy gets 14 messages a day while a good looking girl gets 236 a day....drastic difference which is really important if you were to do 30 dates in 30 days specifically because you get to HAVE STANDARDS.

 

 

If you want to read full article about attractiveness and OLD go here..

 

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/06/29/results-from-an-online-dating-experiment/

Edited January 11, 2016 by Curious-One

[McGuffin]

-30 days of meeting someone new every day

 

My idea of a nightmare. Rather buy my own meals and entertainment than talk to a new person every day, thanks.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Geee are we still gonna pretend that dating for girls is hard in this day and age? This girl went on 30 Tinder Dates in 30 days and ended up with a BF. I am sure most girls could do this if they wanted to and probably end up with a BF at the end of the month but i would say 90% of the guys would be lucky to have a chance at 2-3 dates in 30 days from tinder.

 

Lets see

 

-30 days free lunch or drink every day

-30 days of meeting someone new every day

-30 different guys to choose from if she wants to sleep with them... ( girls hold the power to decide if sex happens no guy is going to turn down sex from a girl but girls will often say no on first dates).

-I am sure most of the guys paid for dates too so we can say almost 30 days of free entertainment.

 

 

No matter how hard i try i just cant accept the popular female belief here that OLD is hard for girls. Yes you will get some freaks/weird messages/guys wanting to use your for sex but when you got 1000's of options in a month its easy to choose 30 guys out of that bunch to go out on a date with. IF YOU TRULLY want to find a BF i just dont see what is stopping you. You will see that yes she had some bad dates but it is all part of the experience. Also if you meet at a bar or restaurant its not much that can go wrong if you are not happy with the date.

 

Link to article

New Zealand woman goes on 30 Tinder dates in 30 days* | Daily Mail Online

 

 

 

Well you are good looking so you have way more options then average guy when it comes to OLD but still probably dont have enough to go on a date with a girl THAT YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO each day of the month for 30 days.

 

This is precisely what i am talking about STANDARDS because someone who gets 1000 matches a month should have no issue picking out 30 to go out on a date.

 

Okupid did a test to see how many messages guys/girls get based on their attractiveness levels and here are the results After 7 days.

 

https://heartiste.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/results-after-7-days-graph.jpg?w=1028&h=484

 

As you can see average girl gets 3 messages a day where as average guy gets 0 ... This means even average girl each day could pick 1 out of 3 guys to go on a date. NOT BAD ....especially compared to AVERAGE guys who get to pick 0 LOL.

 

Even best looking guy gets 14 messages a day while a good looking girl gets 236 a day....drastic difference which is really important if you were to do 30 dates in 30 days specifically because you get to HAVE STANDARDS.

 

 

If you want to read full article about attractiveness and OLD go here..

 

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/06/29/results-from-an-online-dating-experiment/

 

 

Your math and your understanding are way off.

 

How do you get "1000's of options in a month" from "3 messages a day" ???

 

 

And as anyone can see, it is precisely a function OF those (what you see as "thousands", which are more nearly just 93) options a month that a woman can't both sit home and sift through all of the options and go out and live it up on the town (on somebody else's dime) 30 nights each month.

 

 

You could easily convince a reasonable audience that OLD is harder for men than it is for women... but nothing about that suggests it isn't merely hard/difficult for women.

 

 

You need do no more than go online pretending to be a woman, in some random setting there, to understand what women have to put up with in social areas of the net. It would be extra telling if you could find an old-school chatroom in which to practice such a deception.

 

 

Of "93" options a month, probably 24 are little more than form letters, largely from audiences comprised of a significant number of men who would like to end your life after the 'date' is over.

 

Another 20 or 30 are probably from fictional characters created by the OLD website you've paid to have you as a member.

 

Still another 10 to 20 are from socially-illiterate-bordering-on-functionally-illiterate men. Anybody with as many options as you suggest should eliminate those guys without so much as a reply.

 

SO now, we're down to one legitimate possibility a day... And that's if the woman can discern which one it is... , rather than be deceived yet again by the fictional character designed by the online dating service.

 

Now OF the remaining 29... probably 14 of them live too far away for her to waste time envisioning a recurring interaction with them. (and as she has these many 'options'... she shouldn't even bother meeting those ruled-out by distance)

 

 

So now we have 15 left... AT LEAST 7 or 8 of those have grossly misrepresented themselves in their profiles beyond the line of what is acceptable.

 

 

So now we have... 7 or 8 options a month for an average woman on the net... she can probably get at least that much attention when merely planning her social life so as to be out and about with a crowd of people, so she's sitting here wondering just whyyyyyyyyyyy she should even bother with the absurdity of the net, when her own immediate, in-person instincts are a far better filter than what she can apply to online prospects. (A: she feels 'too shy' to try her luck in the real world... or she's been really hurt, emotionally, in the recent past, and finds OLD less emotionally risky...)

 

... and she is never approached by fictional characters when out in person.

 

 

And that's the average woman... those higher on the frat-boy scale are even far more tilted toward showing far better results from FAR more options in real life than they would on the net... (for much less work too)

[Curious-One]

Your math and your understanding are way off.

 

How do you get "1000's of options in a month" from "3 messages a day" ???

 

 

And as anyone can see, it is precisely a function OF those (what you see as "thousands", which are more nearly just 93) options a month that a woman can't both sit home and sift through all of the options and go out and live it up on the town (on somebody else's dime) 30 nights each month.

 

 

You could easily convince a reasonable audience that OLD is harder for men than it is for women... but nothing about that suggests it isn't merely hard/difficult for women.

 

 

You need do no more than go online pretending to be a woman, in some random setting there, to understand what women have to put up with in social areas of the net. It would be extra telling if you could find an old-school chatroom in which to practice such a deception.

 

 

Of "93" options a month, probably 24 are little more than form letters, largely from audiences comprised of a significant number of men who would like to end your life after the 'date' is over.

 

Another 20 or 30 are probably from fictional characters created by the OLD website you've paid to have you as a member.

 

Still another 10 to 20 are from socially-illiterate-bordering-on-functionally-illiterate men. Anybody with as many options as you suggest should eliminate those guys without so much as a reply.

 

SO now, we're down to one legitimate possibility a day... And that's if the woman can discern which one it is... , rather than be deceived yet again by the fictional character designed by the online dating service.

 

Now OF the remaining 29... probably 14 of them live too far away for her to waste time envisioning a recurring interaction with them. (and as she has these many 'options'... she shouldn't even bother meeting those ruled-out by distance)

 

 

So now we have 15 left... AT LEAST 7 or 8 of those have grossly misrepresented themselves in their profiles beyond the line of what is acceptable.

 

 

So now we have... 7 or 8 options a month for an average woman on the net... she can probably get at least that much attention when merely planning her social life so as to be out and about with a crowd of people, so she's sitting here wondering just whyyyyyyyyyyy she should even bother with the absurdity of the net, when her own immediate, in-person instincts are a far better filter than what she can apply to online prospects. (A: she feels 'too shy' to try her luck in the real world... or she's been really hurt, emotionally, in the recent past, and finds OLD less emotionally risky...)

 

... and she is never approached by fictional characters when out in person.

 

 

And that's the average woman... those higher on the frat-boy scale are even far more tilted toward showing far better results from FAR more options in real life than they would on the net... (for much less work too)

 

I was saying 1000's because the poster i was quoting said he was good looking and i considered the girl that went on 30 dates good looking so i am assumed she got 200+ matches a week. This is based on the article i posted where the experiment revealed a good looking girl got 230+ messages per week. Now that i clarified that fine lets talk about average girls and average guys...

 

Seems to me like you are making way too many excuses on why you should not give 85/93 men a chance. Here is few that i don't agree with

 

-Misrepresentation- i am sure both guys and girls are guilty of that WE ALL PUT up our best pictures and fake persona online. I have seen plenty of girls using angles to hide the fact that they are overweight.

 

- 20-30 fictional characters ...MAYBE but tinder is free and i doubt they post 20-30/93 fictional characters (most dating sites have way more guys then girls so i doubt they would be adding fake male profiles). If anything there is probably more fictional characters claiming to be hot girls trying to get guys to join random sites or advertising their escorting services.

 

- 14 living too far away...once again not sure what you would consider far away but i would have no problem driving 40-50 miles to see/date a girl who shares similar interests and i find attractive based on pictures..She could potentially be my wife and mother of my children ...you never know.

 

But the sake of the argument lets just assume i agree with you on all your points and average girl is left with 7-8 potential BF material guys that she can go out on a date with EVERY MONTH. Now compare that to average guy who gets to go on 0 by using OLD. I dont know about you but id much rather have 7-8 options every month then 0.

 

Oh and you mentioning that in real life the girl could probably get more then 7-8 options. Two problems with this..First we are not talking about real life social settings ...this whole thread is dedicated to online dating and second most girls and guys that are doing OLD are doing it because its more convenient, they are too busy and dont have time to meet people irl, dont have many friends so no social circle, or are introverts who feel more comfterble initiating conversation with strangers online. One thing i can promise you for sure... most average guys would be lucky to get 7-8 different options every month no matter which dating method they use.

 

Thanks for your post and i am sorry if i came off as rude. its 3:30 am here and i am very tired, cant be bothered to proof read this. I will like your post because i enjoy hearing the other side of the argument (even though i disagree with it).

Edited January 11, 2016 by Curious-One

[Sunlight72]

I am sure most girls could do this if they wanted to and probably end up with a BF at the end of the month but i would say 90% of the guys would be lucky to have a chance at 2-3 dates in 30 days from tinder.

Well, that's just a BS statement, and fairly lazy.

 

Don't "say" guys would be lucky to get 2-3 dates. Find out! Try it!

 

Don't pass over the fact that even though she's photogenic, she still set up and went on the 30 dates. It took work and effort.

 

Have you done this? I'd be intrigued to read your results

 

It didn't say in the article that she went on dates with 30 guys she finds attractive, just 30 dates. You could do that.

 

Start by messaging women you find hot. Then message ones you find attractive. Then the sorta cute. Then the not so cute. Then the plain, then the dumpy, then the ones who are hard to see clearly. You'll get your 30 dates if you keep on truckin'.

 

Then set up and go on 30 dates! I bet you'll actually meet some fun people! And dull ones, and weird ones, and maybe a girlfriend

 

I did something somewhat similar about 4 years ago in real life and through Plenty Of Fish, dating about 10 or 12 women once, having about 6 more waiting for me to ask them out because we'd flirted, and finding one who was a really good match (we dated for 4 years).

 

It was tiring, emotionally difficult and also fun, uplifting and a big confidence booster.

 

Do it, and write an article for your local paper, or GQ or Details ...or just LoveShack

[SandraTempleton]

I wasn't going to read the article but I found myself bored on my commute to work. And was curious about the idea of 30 dates in 30 days. My take away is that she was bored and in need of validation. So she put up a tinder profile to meet guys and ended up meeting quite a few. If the pictures in the article are the same ones she used on tinder I will say she's a pretty girl and her rack is on display in most of them. It's been proven that everyone loves boobs and everyone looks; straight men, gay men, straight women, and gay women.

 

I think what it comes down to is a classic case of quantity versus quality. Yes she received a high quantity of dates/matches on tinder but were they really quality mathes/dates? My guess is no because how much time do you really have to get to know someone in the span of a few messages before agreeing to go on a date. Personally the idea of going on 30 dates in 30 days sounds like my (introverted personality type) version of a nightmare.

[mike_89]

I think if you present well and act like a normal person you would be surprised at how many decent ladies are struggling to find someone who seems like a real person.

Even acting like a normal person isn't necessary. I often joke about being a serial killer who keeps the heads of his victims on plaques on his wall, and that Tinder is my hunting ground. And that I'm a rapist. I've been experimenting with more and more outrageous opening lines such as "Hi, do you want to hold my snake?", the joke being that I own a pet boa constrictor. Considering the **** I've said it's a miracle those girls wanted to date me anyway. I think the only thing you can do wrong on Tinder is to have a boring conversation "Hi, how are you?" "Yeah good, and you?" "Fine, what do you do for a living?"...

 

I think that going on a date requires less effort on the female side (if she's decent enough looking that men actually bother to talk to her) but it's also a question of having standards and finding someone she actually likes. And any socially capable guy that doesn't look like Danny DeVito is not lucky to go on 2-3 dates in 30 days. Dating isn't nearly as hard for men as you're making it seem, and the only luck that is involved is the way you look (partially).

[carhill]

Ha, ha, spent a couple weeks in Wellington and ran into a lot of lovely young ladies like this one at the pubs. I have no doubt she'd do well and it appears she found a boyfriend to boot. Having 'lived' at the Intercont for a couple weeks right in the thick of the CBD had I not been married at the time I could have easily, if found attractive, dated a different lady each night. I mean, it was a couple minutes to lots of cool hangouts and the Intercont wasn't bad either as a hangout.

 

Ah, to be 24 again. Heh.

[losangelena]

You're right that it's not hard to find 30 men to go on a date with—when I first did OLD, I met 30 men in about 10 months, and yes, did get a boyfriend out of it (number 29). But we dated a year, and then we broke up. So I'm back to being single, and the notion of having to put myself out there and meet another 30 men seems fantastically dreadful.

 

And I think that's the thing, whether you're male or female, whether finding dates is easy for you or it isn't, it's still an incredibly tedious and time-consuming process (and sometimes fun) to find someone you would actually want to be in a relationship with. It takes time and money (I was not paid for through all those first dates), and it's mentally and emotionally exhausting to not only put myself out there—being friendly, keeping my energy up, asking questions, opening up about myself, being vulnerable—but to have to vet each guy as I'm getting to know him, to gauge mental and physical attraction, to decide whether or not I'd want to kiss him (or more), plus the emotional drain of "does he like me, do I like him, should I text him, when am I going to hear from him? blah blah blah."

 

Frankly, were it not for a published piece, I don't know why anyone would put themselves through 30 dates with 30 different men in 30 days. I guess some are luckier than others in terms of being able to get dates, but anyone who chooses to do if is really putting themselves through the paces. It's definitely not all fun and games, for either gender.

[anonymousbear00101100]

Haven't read all the other comments here yet, but I'll opine on a couple of the points you've made.

 

-30 different guys to choose from if she wants to sleep with them... ( girls hold the power to decide if sex happens no guy is going to turn down sex from a girl but girls will often say no on first dates).

 

 

 

Yes, men can turn down sex, especially from strangers. Well, maybe that's just me, but on multiple occasions I've said no, even to women I've found attractive. We aren't all sex driven maniacs with one focus in life.

 

IF YOU TRULLY want to find a BF i just dont see what is stopping you. You will see that yes she had some bad dates but it is all part of the experience. Also if you meet at a bar or restaurant its not much that can go wrong if you are not happy with the date.

 

Going on a lot of dates does not necessarily mean you will find a compatible partner. And just wanting a significant other doesn't mean you should have one. I hardly find it reasonable to go on 30 dates with 30 guys then pick the best fit. The same way you start a relationship shouldn't be the same way you buy insurance.

Edited January 11, 2016 by rjblak13

[mrldii]

...the whole point is girls have the option to go on as many dates as they want so the only thing that is stopping a girl from getting a BF is her excuses on why she has more important things to do.

 

Actually, as I'd previously stated, the whole point is if one wants to be in a relationship, one has to take the necessary steps and make oneself available to find one.

 

 

I can't tell if your take-away is more insulting to men: that all men are the same, so they're interchangeable and meeting one is as good as meeting another

 

or if it's more insulting to women: that we are so vapid and devoid of wants, needs, and desires that we need just show up for a date and ~voila~

 

a relationship is born.

 

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I was saying 1000's because the poster i was quoting said he was good looking and i considered the girl that went on 30 dates good looking so i am assumed she got 200+ matches a week. This is based on the article i posted where the experiment revealed a good looking girl got 230+ messages per week. Now that i clarified that fine lets talk about average girls and average guys...

 

Seems to me like you are making way too many excuses on why you should not give 85/93 men a chance. Here is few that i don't agree with

 

-Misrepresentation- i am sure both guys and girls are guilty of that WE ALL PUT up our best pictures and fake persona online. I have seen plenty of girls using angles to hide the fact that they are overweight.

 

- 20-30 fictional characters ...MAYBE but tinder is free and i doubt they post 20-30/93 fictional characters (most dating sites have way more guys then girls so i doubt they would be adding fake male profiles). If anything there is probably more fictional characters claiming to be hot girls trying to get guys to join random sites or advertising their escorting services.

 

- 14 living too far away...once again not sure what you would consider far away but i would have no problem driving 40-50 miles to see/date a girl who shares similar interests and i find attractive based on pictures..She could potentially be my wife and mother of my children ...you never know.

 

But the sake of the argument lets just assume i agree with you on all your points and average girl is left with 7-8 potential BF material guys that she can go out on a date with EVERY MONTH. Now compare that to average guy who gets to go on 0 by using OLD. I dont know about you but id much rather have 7-8 options every month then 0.

 

Oh and you mentioning that in real life the girl could probably get more then 7-8 options. Two problems with this..First we are not talking about real life social settings ...this whole thread is dedicated to online dating and second most girls and guys that are doing OLD are doing it because its more convenient, they are too busy and dont have time to meet people irl, dont have many friends so no social circle, or are introverts who feel more comfterble initiating conversation with strangers online. One thing i can promise you for sure... most average guys would be lucky to get 7-8 different options every month no matter which dating method they use.

 

Thanks for your post and i am sorry if i came off as rude. its 3:30 am here and i am very tired, cant be bothered to proof read this. I will like your post because i enjoy hearing the other side of the argument (even though i disagree with it).

 

 

Now, not only is your math off, but your perception that I want to "give (any) men a chance" is clueless.

 

 

How is it you cite equal misrepresentation on OLD as reason why women shouldn't eliminate the huge percentage of men who are significantly misrepresenting themselves?

 

That is akin to saying: "but (female) kids do it too...!" when your father disciplines you for making a mess somewhere.

 

 

 

LOL - YOU can go ahead and drive 40-50 miles, but the woman with what you call "thousands" of options does not have to go more than five miles.

 

 

... and again, as I said, it is plain to see that online dating is hardER for men than it is for women... as is the same in the real world... but to suggest that OLD isn't "hard" for women too, is to ignore the facts.

 

 

And no, "most (girls/women)" are doing OLD because it is safER than the alternatives:

 

(which too often begin with them drinking, and meeting people in loud, irritating environments, where they can't get enough of a read as to the true intentions of the person right in front of them)

 

When online, once the suitor crosses the line, she just clicks the "X" button and moves on. Those who line-up to get an initial message in edge-wise (are supposed to) KNOW THIS and modify their approaches accordingly... thus the reason for the hard-line stand against significant deception on any level.

 

The women at OLD do not have to play your games - so the reasons why you continue to play them further astound everyone.

[MissBee]

The only thing this sponsored writer who conducted an *experiment* for fodder for an article for which she'd be paid to write (who happens to also be female) proved

 

is success comes to those who persevere.

 

 

Had she NOT been being sponsored and paid to write the article, she would NOT have gone out on 30 dates in 30 days; she - like any other unsponsored and unpaid person - would have been too tired one night, have to wash her hair another night, be clipping her dog's toenails another night, and/or doing one of the other one-million-and-one regular folk who don't make a career out of dating

 

 

or writing about it

 

 

do.

 

 

Precisely.

 

First off: going on 30 dates in a month to find 1 suitable man, that's considered "easy" and a piece of cake and means dating is a breeze? If anything, it shows the exact opposite. A 1 in 30 chance of finding a bf is like 33%....those aren't particularly amazing odds. If it was so easy and didn't require work, she would have found an amazing man out of the gate (or much sooner) and wouldn't even have had to gone on 30 dates.

 

And as mrldii already stated, this woman conducted an experiment and essentially made it her job to to do this. She likely wouldn't have done this if she wasn't being paid to later write an article on it. The average woman who is not being paid to do this would be exhausted and disappointed and would simply have no time to see 30 men in a month. The mind set of dating to write an article and just real life dating and your expectations are different. Also, how many times did this woman see each of these men? As 30 first dates again is not great odds.

 

I don't understand why people find it hard to understand that quantity doesn't mean easier, it can be even more difficult if instead of dealing with 3 time wasters you gotta deal with 29 of them. It is EXHAUSTING to go on a date or expend emotional energy or time into stuff that doesn't work. I never went on 30 dates in 30 days, but if I went on 3 in a month that didn't work out, I'd have to sit it out for a bit as the process is very tiring. Sure, if you're dating for free meals, then you don't give a crap who the guy is and how he is and sure you can make a career of finding 30 men to pay for food (and not all are willing to do this either). But if you aren't dating for free food and actually want something real and have a life, OLD is in no way a promised land and wasting time on 29 men in a month to find the 30th man is hardly anything to be envious of.

Edited January 11, 2016 by MissBee

[central]

Finding a GOOD match is very difficult for both men and women. Women CAN - if they are average and seeking average men - more easily attract offers of dates than the average man seeking average women will get any response to a contact. It is a seller's market after all - metaphorically, to be clear - with men as the buyers.

 

 

Stats have been done on various dating sites that confirm this. I've seen it myself. My female friend has been on a dating site for over a year, and continually gets new contacts and interest. If she wants to, she can date someone new every week - and has, at times. I'm on the same site, and compare well with her in terms of attractiveness, education, career, ethics, interests, goals, etc., yet am lucky to have gotten a handful of responses in that same year. There is a real discrepancy in male/female experience, and as I said earlier, it's probably because of supply and demand.

 

 

Now, just because my friend can get a lot of responses and dates, and many of these men look good in their profiles (she's shown me a bunch, and I've met a few), does not mean that they meet that potential in person. In fact, most do not. She has her criteria, and is willing to give a variety of men a chance if they seem reasonably decent people - most mess it up somehow, though, or lack some key trait (according to her, it's usually lack of ethics or compassion, neediness, or a controlling nature). The expression "too much of a good thing" comes to mind.

 

 

I get very few responses, but I have a decent success rate amongst those. Yes, sometimes I think that it would be nice to have a lot more opportunities, but I think I'd rather be in my situation than hers, dealing with fewer - but better - matches.

 

 

So, when I see articles/posts like this, I remember that quantity is no substitute for quality. It would be a problem if there were no responses of any quality! I guess some men do experience that.

Edited January 11, 2016 by central

[stillafool]

Geee are we still gonna pretend that dating for girls is hard in this day and age?

 

 

I assure you not every girl can do this. This girl must be exceptional in one way or another. Probably looks.