Why would Ex block me after 6 months?

[Blue_Lake]

I am a dumper coming off a relationship of close to 2 years with my ex. We broke up roughly 6 months ago because there was too much uncertainty from my part due it being long-distance the past year. I don't know if this is strange, but we both mutually decided to go NC after our breakup. I wanted to remain friends with him but he told me that could not happen because he couldn't think of me as a friend, and so, I didn't want to contact him in any way since I still think my decision was for the best and wanted to respect his decision. I still do think of him and miss him and I think if it were not for the distance, I would think about giving it another chance, but unfortunately, that's not going to change since I still have 2.5 more years of school.

 

Even though we haven't talked/text/or communicated in any way, we've still remained friends on Instagram. However, 2 weeks ago, he unfollowed me out of the blue, and then 2 days later, he blocked me. I thought this was very strange. I can't seem to understand why and it did hurt. I thought usually when someone decides to block you, it's soon after the breakup. This doesn't make much sense because 6 months has gone bye, so my question is, why all of the sudden did he decide to block me now, 6 months later??

[kinshinchi]

maybe he is moving on just dont want see it anymore? I just broke up with my gf and she still have all my pics other then block me on fb

[Wewon]

He is 'burning the ships'.

 

When Cortez landed he burned his ships so that the concept of retreating wasn't a possibility and his men would be more motivated to successfully complete their mission.

 

He probably felt that he wasn't moving on fast enough and wanted to eliminate any reminders or temptation to go back to you.

 

Don't take it personally.

[heartbroken555]

Why do you care ?

By the way some women have their husbands leave for years to go to war abroad, or in prison for years and they still wait. So the long distance thing is just an excuse you give yourself really ....

 

Let the guy be. He might still be hurt. Who knows.

[kidm]

long distance has never stopped two people who truly love each other from making it work. Is it difficult? yes but it requires effort. When people break up because of distance, it's just because one or both people don't think the other is worth the effort or sacrifice and they would rather find someone closer.

 

 

He may have a new girlfriend and decided it is not appropriate to have you on his account any longer or he wants to cut all ties 100% and move on. Either way, he is giving what you want: by ending it, you implicitly told him you don't want him in your life anymore. Friendship is never guaranteed after a breakup.

[burnt]

He is 'burning the ships'.

 

He probably felt that he wasn't moving on fast enough and wanted to eliminate any reminders or temptation to go back to you.

 

Don't take it personally.

 

I agree; that's one possibility.

 

There's also another possibility: that he finally is over you and he knows that even if you contact him back, he doesn't want you back and therefore is now able to cut off all contact.

 

Since he was the one being dumped, it's possible he kept the accounts 'open', because there was the hope that you might take him back. From the dumpee's position, sometimes it's too hard to cut off contact, because the mind keeps wondering "what if the dumper contacts me…". But after enough time has passed, you finally learn to let go.

 

Whatever the story is, he is closing the door--that's obvious.

[Gretzky99]

I think it's one of two things;

1) Even though he hasn't contacted you since the breakup (which shows a lot of self-respect and may have seemed he moved on), he still had hopes for reconciliation during this time. He felt that he wasn't moving on fast enough, and so in blocking you, he has now finally come to grips with the end and isn't looking back anymore.

 

2) He's moved on for awhile now, and he's blocked you because there may be another girl he's with and either doesn't want you seeing pictures of her or his life now, because by all intents and purposes, you two are now strangers.

 

Either way, it's basically a sign that the end is here for him with your guys past relationship or near. Blocks are usually done in the heat of the moment, soon after a breakup. When someone takes 6 months to finally block you, they've probably thought long and hard and they're more set in stone with their decision

[fireflywy]

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I think it's one of two things;

1) Even though he hasn't contacted you since the breakup (which shows a lot of self-respect and may have seemed he moved on), he still had hopes for reconciliation during this time. He felt that he wasn't moving on fast enough, and so in blocking you, he has now finally come to grips with the end and isn't looking back anymore.

 

2) He's moved on for awhile now, and he's blocked you because there may be another girl he's with and either doesn't want you seeing pictures of her or his life now, because by all intents and purposes, you two are now strangers.

 

Either way, it's basically a sign that the end is here for him with your guys past relationship or near. Blocks are usually done in the heat of the moment, soon after a breakup. When someone takes 6 months to finally block you, they've probably thought long and hard and they're more set in stone with their decision

 

THIS

 

I blocked mine after six months. I did it because I was heartbroken (was developing broken heart syndrome a real condition), and because she never reached out to me in my hopes for reconciliation I figured she moved on and I didn't want to hear from her coming back and having to hear about who she had been seeing. I got one more discussion in with her before I did it though.

 

Now, almost a year later, I'm relieved I did. If someone cares, distance is no obstacle.

[Zapbasket]

This post opens a bit of an emotional can of worms for me; my ex (who was the dumper) unfriended me after two YEARS of no-contact and I was quite baffled and hurt as to WHY, after so long--especially when I know from a third party that he'd been looking at my FB page all that time.

 

I don't think it's necessarily that they (dumper or dumpee) don't care anymore or are completely "over it," so much as they recognize the need to move on and feel that being able to see a constant stream of pictures, posts, etc. from you contributes to preventing that. I think it's important to remember that nothing on FB is "real." Even when it's personal, it's not--not really. That's a hard notion to grasp and I do struggle with it at times.

[stillafool]

I agree with the poster who said he probably has a new gf and it is inappropriate to not block you. Since you were the dumper it shouldn't matter at this point the guy has moved on. How is your new dating life working out?

[Chi townD]

I would question what you've been putting up on instagram. I mean, if you have a new boyfriend and you're posting pics of you two together, then he probably doesn't want to see that. Or if you're posting pics of you going out and partying and having a good time while he's still miserable, then he probably doesn't want to see that either.

 

 

Or, he could have hit the anger phase in his healing and just blocked you because you're the source of his anger. I mean, it could be a bunch of things. But, if I had to guess, I've venture to say that he saw something that made him trigger.

[smudge21]

Dumpees hold onto that small bit of hope that we'll be taken back. The fact you had that social media () connection still would have fed that hope for him. I know I kept my ex on FB for a long time and then came a point where I had to delete her completely, in fact, delete it all. It was the final nail in the coffin of the hope I had and it was total NC. That is when I started to heal. I would say your ex is doing the same. It takes a lot to fully let go when you've been dumped. Move on and let him do the same.

[Blue_Lake]

long distance has never stopped two people who truly love each other from making it work. Is it difficult? yes but it requires effort. When people break up because of distance, it's just because one or both people don't think the other is worth the effort or sacrifice and they would rather find someone closer.

 

 

He may have a new girlfriend and decided it is not appropriate to have you on his account any longer or he wants to cut all ties 100% and move on. Either way, he is giving what you want: by ending it, you implicitly told him you don't want him in your life anymore. Friendship is never guaranteed after a breakup.

 

I guess there's a lot of posts here that I'd like to reply to but since I only can for one, I'll answer it and then some;

 

I don't really know, I'm not going to lie, I did breakup with him because I slowly began to lose feelings for him and I disconnected. So yes, what you said is very true in that it was my loss of feelings for him, but DISTANCE did play a huge role in that. I'm not so sure if that would've happened had we still maintained seeing one another like before, but when you get to see someone once every 2.5-3 months, it gets very hard to keep it going and that along with other people flirting + work + school just made me rethink my commitments. I think him blocking me out of nowhere and after 6 months was a bit crushing to my ego in some way. Like I mentioned, we both have mutually never contacted on another after the breakup, but now knowing that he either has moved on completely or hates me, makes me think of him more than I've thought of him these past 6 months. I really don't know if it's something that I'll just forget about in a few weeks and is a phase or if it's going to last and make me really analyze things again, but it just has me real curious and partially jealous for the moment.

[Bo34]

I'll be honest because I went through a similar situation years ago.. The guy is probably done with you for good, or is on the cusp of saying 'Goodbye, Forever'. It's at the very critical stage. Why do I say that? Because he blocked you after 6 months, which isn't normal. If you wait that long to block someone there's usually another partner involved in the picture and the person has really thought long and hard before actually blocking you. My prior ex before my recent one, we were broken up for a good 8 months. I was dumped and heartbroken. During this time we both never contacted one another. I blocked her 8 months after she broke up with me because I was seeing another girl who became my girlfriend. I didn't do it to piss her off or provoke a reaction, on the contrary, I did it to be respectful towards her. I knew she was still single, and I didn't want her to think I was showing off my new girl, so out of sheer respect and kindness, I decided to block her. She ended up blocking me back a few days later. Even though things ultimately didn't work out with my new girlfriend in the very end, my ex at the time decided to finally reach out to me a few months later, but so much time had gone bye that I no longer had any feelings for her in any way, and even though I'm single now, still don't. Time does wonders. Sometimes you think you'll never get over someone. You mourn and hope for them to come back for months, but then one day you're completely over them.

[marky00]

Hmmmm.

 

Sorry to be blunt but when you broke up with the guy, you effectively signaled that you no longer cared if he was a part of your life.... that's what a breakup is.

 

He gave you a few months, in case you had a change of heart. Now he has bitten the bullet and given you exactly what you wanted...

 

You now need to come to terms with the fact that you will never hear from of see him again. You didn't allow him to bargain the relationship. So why should you be able to bargain the friendship or what happens post breakup.

 

You broke it off because your feelings diminished (which always happens eventually)... but your missing him as a unique person that can never be replaced.

 

He just gave you the greatest gift he could give you.. a SILENT SANDWICH.

 

He is showing you leadership, courage and is taking care of him and you by doing so. Its the greatest gift he could have given your relationship.

 

He sounds like a great guy.

[mightycpa]

I guess there's a lot of posts here that I'd like to reply to but since I only can for one, I'll answer it and then some;

 

I don't really know, I'm not going to lie, I did breakup with him because I slowly began to lose feelings for him and I disconnected. So yes, what you said is very true in that it was my loss of feelings for him, but DISTANCE did play a huge role in that. I'm not so sure if that would've happened had we still maintained seeing one another like before, but when you get to see someone once every 2.5-3 months, it gets very hard to keep it going and that along with other people flirting + work + school just made me rethink my commitments. I think him blocking me out of nowhere and after 6 months was a bit crushing to my ego in some way. Like I mentioned, we both have mutually never contacted on another after the breakup, but now knowing that he either has moved on completely or hates me, makes me think of him more than I've thought of him these past 6 months. I really don't know if it's something that I'll just forget about in a few weeks and is a phase or if it's going to last and make me really analyze things again, but it just has me real curious and partially jealous for the moment.

Being there counts for a lot. It can make or break a relationship, and what might have worked in person doesn't necessarily cut it long distance.

 

I like Gretzky's explanation #1 - this guy has decided that he had to take extra steps to get over you, and that meant no more Instagram posts/cut all ties to you. #2 is also possible, but I really feel bad for that guy if he's got a GF who demands/expects zero interaction with an ex.

 

There's one more possibility. He did that to get your attention, to send you a subliminal message that if you don't do something, he's gone. Seems like that might be working a little too. Be careful. That's a horrible reason to get back with someone.

[Neffer]

Strongly disagree that he is sending you a message or playing any games. Realistically, you two are not friends. Being instagram friends isn't really helping him at all. He wants to cut ties and get on with his life; it's really nothing to do with you.

 

You dumped him, he is allowed to heal however he sees fit and to cut you out of his life completely to do so. Don't read into it. He is just getting on with things. If you are hurt, well, that happens. You don't get to stay friends/in contact with someone you discarded if they don't want to. Let him live his life.

 

It being 6 months out is immaterial. He just wants a fresh slate. You are just feeling some loss now, long after the fact, as the connection is completely severed.

Edited January 14, 2016 by Neffer