Are weddings only for women? Men feel indifferent on their big day?

[Rejected Rosebud]

It's neat to see so many guys on this thread who really celebrated their wedding day! I'm looking so forward to ours and so is he. We are planning every detail together. :love:

[sambolini]

Statistically women fare better unmarried than men do, and men have more difficulty when divorced. So I guess SOME men seem to "need" or at least benefit from it!!

 

Men have more difficulty in divorce because we pay 97% of all alimony cases plus child support. Men fare much better if they never marry in the first place. Apples to oranges.

 

Buying an engagement ring is not the same thing as getting married.

 

That doesn't refute the utter stupidity of spending thousands on a useless lump of compressed carbon.

 

That's great! :bunny: You def should be doing that!!

 

One step ahead of you.

[Aniela]

My dad loves to buy jewellery for my mother, when he can afford to. He doesn't see it as pointless, or a hunk of carbon. She doesn't demand it, either, before anyone jumps to the conclusion that he would be up a creek without a paddle, if he didn't buy it for her.

[mrldii]

My first husband was so 'unaffected' by his wedding day that he locked the keys to his Corvette - our 'getaway car - in it.

 

 

With the engine running.

 

 

 

True story.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Men have more difficulty in divorce because we pay 97% of all alimony cases plus child support. Men fare much better if they never marry in the first place. Apples to oranges.

You've been spending way too much time on the boys going their own way websites! The studies about marriage and divorce relating to men and women don't hinge on getting taken to the cleaners. The main reasons cited are 1) loss of sense of identity, 2) Paternal / provider instinct is challenged and 3) they don't allow themselves to grieve.

 

Reasons why men want to get married: 1) regular sex 2) homemaking 3) emotional support 4) they want to raise kids 5) additional income.

 

You can google, I found dozens of studies.

 

Look I understand that you and other guys got burned in your divorces, and you can all hang out and commiserate together on the Internet, I'm not trying to refute that. But that doesn't make yours the common experience among men. Don't you ever notice that your voice rarely has others like it here on LoveShack? Like take this thread for example. Sometimes, sure it does! But in general, your sad views on women and marriage are not the norm.