Why are some guys not into drinking/strip clubs?

[WaitingForBardot]

Went to a strip club once when I was ~18 and didn't enjoy it at all. Not that the girls weren't attractive, many of them were, or unfriendly, many of them were, just that I didn't enjoy it.

 

In the apropos, if not slightly re-purposed words of Big Dan Teague: "...it merely served to arouse my appetite without bedding it down for the night."

[MissBee]

Maybe your ideas about men are one-dimensional? There are all kinds of men in the world and I've known plenty of men who aren't salivating to go to strip clubs and nothing is wrong with them.

 

Whether or not you like strip clubs doesn't make you a man or prove that you are a normal person.

[JustGettingBy]

Before I even turned 18, I was told that all the ones in my area were super trashy and the women weren't even good to look at, unless you bought like $50 worth of drinks, so I was turned off simply by word of mouth.

[thefooloftheyear]

I tell you....

 

A strip or go-go club wouldn't really be as bad of an experience if the women would just leave you alone and let you hang with your buddies and enjoy the show from afar...The constant coming around.....its like my dog looking for a snack or something.....Eventually you just shoo them away.....

 

Additionally, the clubs are usually packed with peckerhead younger guys that act like they never saw a pair of tits in their life...Yelling and acting like immature morons...Jeezus..dudes.

 

But it's their job and while I'd never want my kid doing it, Id never show any disrespect...At the end of the day, its just not for me....

 

TFY

[Rejected Rosebud]

That is just a weird question. Why is anybody not into anything? It's an individual thing.

 

Why are YOU not into some things that people expect women to be into - like babies, or shopping, or makeup, gossiping, whatever?

[Blanco]

Maybe your ideas about men are one-dimensional? There are all kinds of men in the world and I've known plenty of men who aren't salivating to go to strip clubs and nothing is wrong with them.

 

Whether or not you like strip clubs doesn't make you a man or prove that you are a normal person.

 

OP, unfortunately, seems to have a binary way of viewing the world and its inhabitants, so I don't think it should come as a shock that she thinks men who don't fancy the strip clubs must feel that way for religious or sissy reasons.

[Qboro90]

The best part about hooking up with a girl is knowing that your efforts, charm, etc won them over. That's at least my opinion so paying for that victory at a studio club never appealed to me because I knew the girls on stage weren't interested in me because of who I was as a person, it's because of what I have in my wallet.

[Imported]

Imagine you're a really fat kid, who hasn't eaten for 3 days, and have no money.

 

You walk into your local sweet shop, and watch the owner opening all the sweet jars, giving them out to all the other customers, smelling them, hearing their rustle and crackle. Listening to the shopkeeper's well-practiced sales pitch, describing his juicy offerings in mouth-watering detail.

 

But you aren't allowed to touch. You aren't allowed to taste. You aren't allowed to take home. All you can do is sit there impotently and watch, all the while being reminded what a failure you are, because all the other kids have bellies full of tasty sweets.

 

That is why some guys don't like going to strip clubs.

 

 

So what you're trying to say is you go into strip clubs to get female attention. Fill up your belly.

 

Imagine a whole world outside of a strip bar filled with women that are not strippers.

 

Now having said that, most times I end up in a strip club is because of married friends/co-workers. Get them away from home on a business trip and they are all about strip clubs.

Edited January 14, 2016 by Imported

[Qboro90]

Strippers are more than just their job. You can absolutely win one of those girls over with your charm and efforts, it can just be a bit more challenging. It's pretty tough to just walk in there and take one of those girls home on your first visit (without paying for it) but if you frequent the place and build a rapport with the girls you might have a shot. Back during my younger days, my buddy and I used to have a group of strippers hanging out with us every night we made it to the club. We weren't even tipping anyone at that point. Partying with a bunch of strippers is about as good as partying can get.

 

Oh believe me I've done it before. I'm just pointing out the fact that it's not something that was prioritized in order to find a girlfriend. Have I went out with buddies and ended up back at my apartment with the strippers before? Yea.. Didn't pay a dime. Would I date that girl? Absolutely not.

 

So if you're the kind of guy who needs a more challenging goal to set out for then by all means, go hang out at the strip club and become a familiar face and try and get Angel to come home with you. Personally that never did anything for me and I'd prefer winning girls over in other areas. To each their own

[Imported]

Strippers are more than just their job. You can absolutely win one of those girls over with your charm and efforts, it can just be a bit more challenging. It's pretty tough to just walk in there and take one of those girls home on your first visit (without paying for it) but if you frequent the place and build a rapport with the girls you might have a shot. Back during my younger days, my buddy and I used to have a group of strippers hanging out with us every night we made it to the club. We weren't even tipping anyone at that point. Partying with a bunch of strippers is about as good as partying can get.

 

You can, but I think you're better off not meeting them at their work. However in Central America (Panama, El Salvador anyway), you can pretty easily get a stripper to leave the club with you and not because you paid them. No idea on the US or elsewhere, never tried.

 

Still, I'd rather meet women at places other than a strip club.

[Lois_Griffin]

Years ago, I used to know a guy who called strippers "Hoovers."

 

He said they were like vacuum cleaners sucking up the dollars.

[Bobbi7]

That is just a weird question. Why is anybody not into anything? It's an individual thing.

 

Why are YOU not into some things that people expect women to be into - like babies, or shopping, or makeup, gossiping, whatever?

 

I don't think its a weird question at all..He's a man in his late 20's with a penis. Who probably looked at playboy magazines and jerked off in his teen years, that most likely has morning wood every morning. This is considered a man thing. I wouldn't make it men vs. women.

[mrldii]

...This is considered a man thing. I wouldn't make it men vs. women.

 

 

Agreed. You didn't.

 

 

Instead, you made it a ['What I Think is a'] *Real* Man vs. ['What I Think is a'] *Sissified* Man.

 

Same concept, different [non-existent] battle; equal attempt at being derogatory and contemptuous.

[mrs rubble]

My man isn't into strip clubs because we are naturists and naked is normal to us anyway.......in fact we play reverse strip poker at the club, and put an item of (someone else's) clothing on when we lose and I plan on asking one of of Firemen to slowly put his uniform on at my hen party!!

[2.50 a gallon]

I have never been to a strip club. I never had any interest.

I also was never into buying a Playboy type magazine. To me it was like being hungry and simply looking at a photo of a hamburger. I wanted the real thing. I'm not saying that I never bought a Playboy because I have.

When I heard that the gal that I had spent a previous New Years Eve with was on the cover, I went right out and bought a copy. Now I wish I had bought two, as somehow during my moves I lost it.

To me going to a strip club was totally a waste of time. Why would I want to spend my money on that when I could be out dancing with the real McCoy and bring her home with me. One that I could help strip in the privacy of my own home. Now that made more sense.

[Grumpybutfun]

People, even men, have preferences. Personally, after years and years of being in the USN and having every bachelor party, reenlistment and retirement in dark, overcrowded strip clubs, I would almost rather go to church than go to one and that is saying something. I also hate buffets, karaoke, line dancing and parades.

Men are still men if they aren't titillated by naked women who dance around to bad music to get rent money. I have never found it particularly interesting and now I'm foundered on it. I loved intimacy and sex with women...women dancing naked bored me...I'm visual, sure, but I am more tactile.

Best,

G

[PegNosePete]

So what you're trying to say is you go into strip clubs to get female attention. Fill up your belly.

No, I am saying that strip clubs might make you drool a bit (if you like that kid of thing), but you leave with an empty belly, still hungry.

[sandylee1]

My H isn't into strip clubs and he barely drinks.. same as my brother it's just not everyone's cup of tea.

[OldRover]

^ Second all of this

 

I know the girls know what they're getting into but I would sure hate the thought of my daughter growing up to do that.

 

It seems a bit backward to me too. I'm not some radical male feminist or anything but i find the concept a bit outdated.

 

I think the thing is I've never been attracted to women who throw themselves at you. Like instant turnoff!! For me i like a girl who's really independent and capable. When I see a girl kick all the guys asses at something physical - instant turn on.

When you're in club and a girls like all over you I just lose all attraction for her. Strip clubs are just that but more so and your paying for the experience. I've been on mates stag and its just not my thing, at all!

Take that same chick out the club, give her a hammer and stick her in a field knocking in fence posts and telling me that I need to pick up the pace majorly to stand any chance of impressing her... and yeah her attractiveness has probably just gone up by 100,000,000,000 in my eyes.

 

PLUS..

• expensive drink
  
• Sh*t music
  
• In my experienced packed to the rafters with guys who seem like pr*cks, drooling like they've never seem a women before
  
• Its a weird situation to be in with other guys. Like my bedroom activities are private, I DO NOT share. Your shoulder to shoulder with some dude getting a lap dance - odd.
  
• Their not as hot as my missus (moot cause your talking about single guys, but I've loved her since I was still in school, she's always been the standard that all other women are judged by)
  

Give me a night on the beach with a bonfire, sat under the stars with my best mates, a couple of ciders, and maybe sipping whiskey out the bottle like when we were teens. That's a good night in my book, and id choose it a million times over a strip club

 

I think you nailed it.

[RedRobin]

I tell you....

 

A strip or go-go club wouldn't really be as bad of an experience if the women would just leave you alone and let you hang with your buddies and enjoy the show from afar...The constant coming around.....its like my dog looking for a snack or something.....Eventually you just shoo them away.....

 

Additionally, the clubs are usually packed with peckerhead younger guys that act like they never saw a pair of tits in their life...Yelling and acting like immature morons...Jeezus..dudes.

 

But it's their job and while I'd never want my kid doing it, Id never show any disrespect...At the end of the day, its just not for me....

 

TFY

 

yea, that was my observation too. I've been to a few strip clubs in different parts of the country... After work, hanging out with the guys kind of thing.

 

OP, Most guys I know can take it or leave it. They would go with friends maybe for a special event, but really... It's meh to most guys I know.

 

I am a woman, but it seemed quite unsexy. Lots of the men were mean and disrespectful to the dancers. It's like they feel they get to be jerks because they are paying. the times I have been to drag shows or someplace where a man is undressing, it seems a lot more playful... I didn't see that sense of play and fun in any strip club I ever went to. For that reason only, I'd have my doubts about dating someone who went to one regularly. Kinda like porn. I'd figure he didn't like 'real' women all that much.

 

That's probably why good ol fashioned burlesque has seen an upswing. Lots more fun and leaves some mystery.

 

I've done ballet for years, so I can appreciate the athleticism that goes into the high end pole dancing. I'd consider taking a few classes just for fun. But like most things... The fun goes out of it the minute you are obliged to do it for work.

 

That's probably a big reason why lots of guys are meh. The woman's eyes are dead. She's going through the motions. I can't imagine that would be very appealing to a normal guy.

[oldshirt]

I am no good two shoes and I have never gone to church. I do not drink and not into strippers in the slightest.

 

 

In my youth there were times I drank and in my late teens and early 20s I had buddies that went to strip clubs and I tagged along but wasn't into it at all.

 

 

By the time I was becoming my own man by my mid 20s, I finally admitted to myself that I didn't like drinking, didn't like being drunk, certainly didn't like hangovers and had no interest in strippers so I simply stopped doing those things.

 

 

I had girlfriends and usually a FWB or two on the side and I was sexually active having real sex with real women so why would want to spend my time and money on some gal dancing around naked on stage in front of a bunch of creepy men?

[dichotomy]

Because those 20 something's are not getting nude and dancing for me.

 

I find it fake/embarrassing/silly/demeaning for all.

 

That's why I have avoided going to strip clubs.

 

 

 

 

 

 

On the other hand 20 year old scotch loves me and I love it.

Edited January 17, 2016 by dichotomy

[Robert Z]

I must say, men who have never had a good lap dance can't really appreciate the power it can have over a man. Some of these women emote incredible sexual energy and know how to hit all of those primal triggers. All of the views a man has during sex are presented along with the grinding and touch. Though not legal, most of the women I saw allowed me to touch them as well. It is hard to explain but it can get deep into your head. I think I might have overdosed on endorphins because more than once I could hardly walk when they were done - I would go for 30 or 40 minutes lap dances. One night the one stripper who became a friend literally left me staggering. I was physically barely able to walk. I saw other men emerge in the same condition.

 

I would imagine it only works for men who haven't been getting any. But then women would sometimes bring their husbands in to get them horny! They would tell the strippers to get him all worked up so she could take him home and have sex.

Edited January 17, 2016 by Robert Z

[Ruby Slippers]

Most of the men I've had relationships with have explained that the notion of paying for a sexual display feels lame, and they don't need it because they can get it for free.

 

As for drinking, I usually date fit, health-conscious men who recognize that alcohol in excess isn't great for your body or mind.

[OldRover]

I must say, men who have never had a good lap dance can't really appreciate the power it can have over a man. Some of these women emote incredible sexual energy and know how to hit all of those primal triggers. All of the views a man has during sex are presented along with the grinding and touch. Though not legal, most of the women I saw allowed me to touch them as well. It is hard to explain but it can get deep into your head. I think I might have overdosed on endorphins because more than once I could hardly walk when they were done - I would go for 30 or 40 minutes lap dances. One night the one stripper who became a friend literally left me staggering. I was physically barely able to walk. I saw other men emerge in the same condition.

 

I would imagine it only works for men who haven't been getting any. But then women would sometimes bring their husbands in to get them horny! They would tell the strippers to get him all worked up so she could take him home and have sex.

 

Robert,

There's a ton of men that don't share your views. I've had one lap dance in my life, and about 5 min. of it and I was done. She was cute, a knock out, but so phony I couldn't get the least excited, didn't want to touch her let alone be in the same building. I don't see the excitement of paying for that crap... just being there.. dirty, crazy people, lots of half drunk guys drooling in their beer making nasty comments, phony people trying to impress others, disgusting, dirty and expensive.

 

Give me ANY "real" girl....