thefooloftheyear Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Some of this talk is silly.... I mean, why is it a crime(or less manly) to enjoy the beauty of a voluptuous, sexy, athletic woman that can dance? I mean, to be honest, Id much rather have a beautiful young scantily clad woman serve me a cold drink, than some pimply faced fat kid...all things equal.. As I stated earlier in the thread...I don't like the childish frat boy atmosphere where guys are rude and disrespectful, and the whole "doing the rounds" for dollar bills..Just seems degrading and low class..To me, an upscale "gentleman's club" that had attractive women as dancers and servers, just as background without the dollar bills and lap dances, might be a pretty cool place to hang with a bunch of buddies and take in a fight or game... I mean, I go to pro football games on occasion...I'm there for the entertainment...It doesn't matter if I can run a 4.30 in the 40 or throw a ball like Dan Marino...Who cares.?? Just enjoy the show... Using the logic that a guy could have sex with a real woman so that makes him less of a man for enjoying the female form/sexuality is ridiculous..... Now, if you are in a relationship you have to consider her feelings as well..n that case, its best to avoid those places as most women aren't going to be so thrilled about it....Nor would a guy be thrilled with a woman stuffing bills down a hard bodied guys jock.. TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 (edited) Robert, There's a ton of men that don't share your views. I've had one lap dance in my life, and about 5 min. of it and I was done. She was cute, a knock out, but so phony I couldn't get the least excited, Should have gone to a nicer place. I've heard a lot of places are pretty disgusting. Never go cheap for commercial sexual adventures. You can't try one lap dance for five minutes and consider yourself an expert or even remotely informed. And I said a good lap dance. Not just a lap dance. The odds are you went to some sleezy place with pee on the pole! Beyond that, some of us have much stronger sex drives than others. Maybe that makes a difference. Edited January 18, 2016 by Robert Z Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 (edited) Most of the men I've had relationships with have explained that the notion of paying for a sexual display feels lame, and they don't need it because they can get it for free. And you believe them?!?! Of course they wouldn't lie about it. All men tell their gfs if they like strippers. Before I frequented a strip club for a couple of months several years ago, I was the only man that I knew of who had never been to one. And I spent most of my time with academics! It is almost a right of passage for a lot of men. Whenever the subject came up I was always getting teased because I'd never been to one. I did go to one for work for a visiting Ph.D. engineer. That was actually my first time. The next time I went it was for hot babe boot camp. Edited January 18, 2016 by Robert Z Link to post Share on other sites
Qboro90 Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 And you believe them?!?! Of course they wouldn't lie about it. All men tell their gfs if they like strippers. Before I frequented a strip club for a couple of months several years ago, I was the only man that I knew of who had never been to one. And I spent most of my time with academics! It is almost a right of passage for a lot of men. Whenever the subject came up I was always getting teased because I'd never been to one. I did go to one for work for a visiting Ph.D. engineer. That was actually my first time. The next time I went it was for hot babe boot camp. So what is your point then? That every guy deep down enjoys strip clubs and if they don't it's just because they haven't found the right upscale place yet. If so then I completely disagree. I never had a problem getting laid and have been to a dozen or so clubs in my life varying from upscale to ghetto spots. I've hooked up with strippers outside of the club. Gotten lap dances. Never would pay for more than 1 lap dance or anything more in the club because it did nothing for me. I could hook up with girls just as hot elsewhere and also know it was because of my own skill and charm instead of what's in my wallet. Does that mean I'm repulsed by a sexy stripper giving me a dance? Of course not. But having her come to my apartment after her shifts over because I won her over at the club is a hell of a lot more gratifying then doing it in the ViP area for a couple hundred bucks. And while I'm not dumb enough to tell my gf "hey babe, we ended up at a strip club after watching the game at he bar"... I've also ended up at strip clubs with my gf after a night out and was more turned on by her being there than any of the girls on stage. So not everyone falls into your belief stereotypes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 And while I'm not dumb enough to tell my gf "hey babe, we ended up at a strip club after watching the game at he bar"... I've also ended up at strip clubs with my gf after a night out and was more turned on by her being there than any of the girls on stage. So not everyone falls into your belief stereotypes agree. I'll never understand why some men think they speak for everyone. I've had guys 'dumb enough' telling me they ended up in a club the night before. I'd also been in clubs with men. Not everyone relates to these things the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I only went to clubs for about two months. I was a bit curious, but more than that, it was part of a long-term strategy. I wanted to desensitize myself to beautiful, young, naked women. After 25 years of marriage to a woman who let herself go, ten years without sex, and the far too many years behind me, it was going to require a huge change in perspective to live the life I wanted to live. So, I went to hot-babe boot camp. And the funniest part is that it worked exactly as I had hoped. After about six weeks of hanging with strippers, spending endless hours buying drinks and talking, about 150 or so lap dances, and even getting to be friends with one [who became my barber and the hottest stripper in a top end club], I was perfectly comfortable and at ease with a naked bombshell or four standing around me. I was going to post i never go to them (went once, not my cup of tea, too expensive for my taste), but this is a very smart thing to do .... gonna put it on my bucket list. Link to post Share on other sites
Wewon Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Its never been my cup of tea to go to strip clubs and I'm not much of a drinker. I went a few times in my early 20s to see what they were like, after that I felt I had that out of my system. That being said, I don't see the point of coming to a thread trying to low-key insult people that do enjoy strip clubs. I don't see how going implies some deficiency in any way, its just something that others like to do that I don't. The same insults and implications could be hurled at me for enjoying going to the movies or watching videos on netflix. To each his or her own. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Some guys it's not their thing. My first time going to one I almost got kicked out. I'm drunk and this is a strip club in the Fayetteville/Ft Bragg, NC area. She gets on stage and was nervous. She had a long T Shirt on that ran past her knees and high heels. 15 min pass and she dancing I see no tits. I start banging on the table and yelling "Take off your tee!". Security runs over to me and as soon as they did you had like 20 guy that were military shouting the same thing. Guys just looks at me and walks off. She stops dancing and runs off stage. The DJ in the booth is crying laughing. Link to post Share on other sites
OldRover Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Some of this talk is silly.... I mean, why is it a crime(or less manly) to enjoy the beauty of a voluptuous, sexy, athletic woman that can dance? I mean, to be honest, Id much rather have a beautiful young scantily clad woman serve me a cold drink, than some pimply faced fat kid...all things equal.. As I stated earlier in the thread...I don't like the childish frat boy atmosphere where guys are rude and disrespectful, and the whole "doing the rounds" for dollar bills..Just seems degrading and low class..To me, an upscale "gentleman's club" that had attractive women as dancers and servers, just as background without the dollar bills and lap dances, might be a pretty cool place to hang with a bunch of buddies and take in a fight or game... I mean, I go to pro football games on occasion...I'm there for the entertainment...It doesn't matter if I can run a 4.30 in the 40 or throw a ball like Dan Marino...Who cares.?? Just enjoy the show... Using the logic that a guy could have sex with a real woman so that makes him less of a man for enjoying the female form/sexuality is ridiculous..... Now, if you are in a relationship you have to consider her feelings as well..n that case, its best to avoid those places as most women aren't going to be so thrilled about it....Nor would a guy be thrilled with a woman stuffing bills down a hard bodied guys jock.. TFY A "real" gentleman's club is at a different level. Most of the people there behave themselves and it isn't bad. Similar to the Playboy club, which I did patronize many times. Different atmosphere, no sleazy women, no sleazy men... just a class place, with good service and food. And often took my lady there and she enjoyed it. Link to post Share on other sites
OldRover Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I remember my first blow job. Man, was it terrible. We were both young, she had no idea what she was doing, and I felt more teeth than anything else. Luckily, I've had many good ones since then. Are you in some way saying that strippers aren't real women? I assure you, they are just as female, just as human as any other woman you know. As a matter of fact, no, they are not "real" when they are performing at their strip club. Totally phony. Get them home, clean them up and they are different people. Yes, I know a few. Link to post Share on other sites
OldRover Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I remember my first blow job. Man, was it terrible. We were both young, she had no idea what she was doing, and I felt more teeth than anything else. Luckily, I've had many good ones since then. Are you in some way saying that strippers aren't real women? I assure you, they are just as female, just as human as any other woman you know. Sorry you had such a lousy first with you BJ. I guess I was luckier. My very worst BJ was much better than any strip joint. And, no, I'm not interested in learning how to enjoy a lap dance. Does nothing for me. Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I think the reason everyone has such different takes on this too is that strip clubs can vary greatly across north America. In my city the only clubs we have would be what you guys refer to as high end gentleman's clubs. While the strippers aren`t usually my type they are very attractive and very well paid. Most of them make well over 6 figures. Lap dances aren`t really allowed here. And you can`t touch the strippers at all. Tipping is money thrown on stage. There is no cover, but drinks are expensive. However no more than at any club. Again, I don`t even frequent them, but anytime I`ve gone they`ve been classy, about a third of the crowd is women and it isn`t nearly as creepy as some of you make it sound. Link to post Share on other sites
Revolver Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I don't like starting my car if I'm not going to drive it 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 I had this conversation with the current BF and he told me he got talked into going to one with his married coworkers. He felt really uncomfortable there he told me and it didn't do anything for him. He told me he actually lost some respect for his married coworkers. Knowing what I know about him and his thoughts on sex I do think he was being truthful. I took an ex BF to one and bought both of us lap dances. I literally blindfolded him and told him I had a surprise. He was more turned on that I would take him to one than from looking at the women. He told me afterward he felt really good in front of the other men there having the 'cool GF'. I love looking at naked women and even I was a bit disappointed. I thought it would be more erotic. The pole dancing was cool but I would rather do other things with women if I wanted to get turned on by women or just go to a bar. Link to post Share on other sites
OldRover Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 I think the reason everyone has such different takes on this too is that strip clubs can vary greatly across north America. In my city the only clubs we have would be what you guys refer to as high end gentleman's clubs. While the strippers aren`t usually my type they are very attractive and very well paid. Most of them make well over 6 figures. Lap dances aren`t really allowed here. And you can`t touch the strippers at all. Tipping is money thrown on stage. There is no cover, but drinks are expensive. However no more than at any club. Again, I don`t even frequent them, but anytime I`ve gone they`ve been classy, about a third of the crowd is women and it isn`t nearly as creepy as some of you make it sound. Good point, there are "differences" in clubs, strip joints, gentlemen's clubs, etc. However, I'm sure there's a bunch that just don't care for it and does nothing for them. Doesn't mean they are weird or don't appreciate a good looking woman. The "fancy" dressed up, overly made up sexy club dancer, even at the high end places, does little for me. If it's not a place where I can take my lady without going there just for the sex show, I'm just not interested. A lousy date with an ugly woman is more fun. Just too phony for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Leucine Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 (edited) Strip clubs = paying to watch women who are not into you, which makes zero sense if you're a self-respecting male who can get female attention for free, and even if you can't, you could simply get a hooker for the money and be done with it. Please, can someone explain to me what on earth is supposed to be good about them? I don't like drinking either, it's not a masculine thing to do. Edited January 25, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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